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    5 Things to Do When You’re the Only Christian in the Room

    You know that awkward moment when you figure out that you’re the only Christian in the room?

    Yeah, I do too.

    It’s the moment when the science teacher gets the class to chuckle at your expense because you made a comment about creation. Or how about the moment when you figure out you’re the only one at the party without a drink in your hand? Fun, right?

    Not so much.

    What can you do to stand up for your faith in Christ when you’re the only one in the room who believes in Jesus?

    • Pray for protection. The first thing you can do is stop and pray for protection. Ask God to give you the strength to resist any temptations. Ask Him to keep you from joining the crowd in anything illicit or immoral. Ask Him to send mighty angels to surround you and to let everything you say and do honor Him.
    • Look for opportunity. Being the only Christian in the room may feel uncomfortable, but try to see it as a new opportunity. Look around the room. Do you see anyone who  needs encouragement? Notice anyone who might be feeling left out? Can you be a designated driver or take the keys from someone who should not get behind the wheel? Is your classroom an opportunity to stand up and defend or share your Christian faith? Look for opportunity to use this situation for the Lord.
    • Phone a Friend. If you find yourself stuck somewhere you know you should not be, phone a friend. Ask them to join you so you’re not isolated and alone. Ask your friend to pray with you and look for opportunities together to bless others. A friend can also tell you flat-out if you need to leave. Sometimes we are to stay in the world to be light in the darkness. Other times, when it could be dangerous to us physically, emotionally or spiritually, we are to get out. Call a friend to come get you or to stay on the phone with you until you get to your car.
    • Prepare for next time. If you’ve ever found yourself in that awkward moment where you’re the only Christian in the room and you didn’t know what to do or say, prepare for next time. If you don’t know how to share your faith with confidence, practice. Ask a church leader or a mature Christian you know to role play with you or give you tips on how to talk about Jesus without being embarrassed or afraid. Learn more about the Bible by using a study Bible, getting some devotionals, and reading some great Christian books. Increase your time in prayer. Talk to God in every situation.

    The Bible says that King Solomon was the wisest man who ever lived. Other kings and wise men came from all over the ancient world to bring treasure to King Solomon and get his advice. How did he get so wise? Simple. When God told him he could ask for anything he wanted, he asked for wisdom. Jesus told us to ask and we would receive. So go for it. Ask for wisdom. He’ll give it to you.

    • Remember, you’re never alone. Even if you’re the only Christian in the room, remember that Jesus is always with you. The Holy Spirit is in you to be your counselor and your comforter. Angels surround you, working on your behalf. So even when you’re the only believer, you’re never alone.

    What do you do when you’re the only Christian in the room? Comment below!

    Natalie Gillespie
    Natalie Gillespie is the mom, stepmom and adoptive mom of nine kids, as well as a best-selling author, editor, and speaker. She is the co-author of "Into the Light: My Journey from the Glare of Hollywood to the Glow of God's Love" with Nicole Weider.

    18 COMMENTS

    1. One time when I had a non-Christian girl round she talked a lot about things that made me feel awkward. I spoke to my mum and she gave me some tips. The next time she came around I spoke about things to do with my faith and morals that might have made her feel awkward but at least I was being open and she was having seeds planted in her life. That way she was able to hear my opinions on things without attacking her!!!!

    2. if you are the only one who believes in creation that doesnt make you the only christian. i am a christian evolutionist and i dont think that is wrong. God could just as easily create the world through the big bang as he could make adam and eve the garden of eden. please dont assume that if you believe the scientists you are condemned.

      • But it does deny God’s word. According to the bible, death entered the universe only after Adam and Eve sinned, not before then. According to big-bang/evolution, death was happening for millions of years before humans even existed; those ancestors had to die in order for natural selection to take place and eventually evolve into a human. It’s not compatible at all. To accept one is to deny the other. One says, “death is a consequence that came after I finished creating the universe due to disobedient creations”; the Other says, “death has been around since the beginning in fact that’s what gave rise to humans in the first place, natural selection requires death to produce something better”.

        Another example: the bible says everything was originally created good and then started to degenerate. The evolutionist (the kind that goes from fish-to-human that is) says that things are getting better over time. Again, how is that compatible? If God created everything good, what is left to improve upon? One says “deteriorating”; the other says, “improving!” Opposite statements, so you can’t support both the bible and that theory.

        The big one of course: Genesis says day and night, “first day”, day and night “second day”, day and night “third day”, et cetera… six literal days to create everything, then he created a seventh day which he blessed and sanctified for rest (read Genesis 1); yet, evolutionists purporting the biogenesis theory say it took billions of years to create the stars, a few billion more years to create the earth and millions of years more for humans to pop up. 24 hour (day/night) Days vs Billions of Years.

        If you honestly read the bible, and then compare it to the alternative scientific theories, you cannot arrive at the conclusion that one can believe in both the Creator God of the Bible, honestly, at the same time as believing that it took billions of years to make all of creation (biblical God says it took him a literal week, even gets meticulous about defining what a “day” in creation was = night, day, 24 hours). You have to ignore parts of the theory or parts of the bible, to make them compatible with each other, so are you honestly believing the theory? or the bible? We can’t cherry-pick details.

        • I’m a Christian evolutiocreationist. I believe in both things at the same time. I just found too many self-contradictions (and contradictions with things that are still observable about the universe’s setup) when reading the 6-day creation account the bible teaches to believe it was really God that wrote it. But then again I haven’t read all the bible to make that judgement so I consider myself to believe in both things at the same time. I don’t see why there has to be so much trouble about it. Either way, God created the universe and no one’s denying that.

    3. This is how I feel a lot of times. I do my very best to shine in everything. Sometimes I don’t even realize it, but it’s difficult sometimes when you feel you don’t have a lot of support. Thank you so much for posting this article!

    4. One time, I was at the pool with a friend. Without me knowing, she had invited a girl I am not particularly very fond of. Neither of the girls were (and to my knowledge neither are to this day) Christians. My friend and I never really talked about my faith, but she knew my boundaries, and I knew her to be an overall moral person (at least outwardly–or at least around me). The other girl (her other friend), however, was very outwardly immoral, which is one of the reasons I typically tried to keep my distance. Once the girl showed up to the pool I decided to just make the best of things, be polite, and try to just have fun. Somehow the topic of my private school came up (they both go to public school, and I go to private). When the other girl (who didn’t know me very well) found out I went to private school, the first words out of her mouth were “How do you believe that stuff, anyway. I believe in science.” This frustrated me because I knew she was just doing it for attention. I explained to her that I also believe in a lot of what science tells about the world, but I didn’t believe in evolution, and I believed God created the world. She then pointed out that the Bible was written millions of years ago by a bunch of dead people. I then told her that they weren’t dead when they were writing the Bible just like Darwin wasn’t dead when he wrote “On the Origin of Species.” I explained how believing in what the Bible says is not much different than believing what science tells us. I did not experience the events in the Bible first-hand, but most people have not experienced evolution first-hand either. Just as I learned about God’s Word in Sunday school, everyone who believes in evolution learned their beliefs in school and have less personal proof for their beliefs than I have for mine because I have experienced God’s work in my life as well as the lives of those around me. Then she went on to say that she would never be a Christian because she wouldn’t be able to do certain things (she insinuated sleeping around, which she at least claims to have done on multiple occasions). At this point I ended the conversation by turning to my friend, who had just been sitting there listening, and suggesting we get in the pool, and I left about 10 minutes later using the excuse that I had to go home. In this case, I felt this girl was more begging for attention than trying to have a true, fair debate about her beliefs. She doesn’t exactly do very well in school, so I can’t imagine she’s much of an expert on evolution anyway. In this situation, I felt helpless. If I could have somehow converted her right then and there, I would have. Because we go to different schools and hang out with different crowds (for the most part) I never really see her, so I don’t see much chance for me reaching her by showing her God’s love. And to be honest, even if I did see her a lot, she’s not the kind of person I feel comfortable affiliating myself with. I don’t know if that’s wrong or not. I know we should show God’s love, but as it says above, sometimes you just need to protect yourself. I have trouble finding a balance between the two. Since that day, I have prayed for her a couple times. I figure I have no power to bring God into her heart, but God does. I don’t know her family life, but she doesn’t talk highly of her mom and what I believe to be her step-father, so maybe that’s having a negative affect on her. My mom once told me a story about an uncle she had who every time her family got together when she was a teenager, he would somehow bring up the debate between creationism and evolutionism and talk about how crazy Christians are. My mom used to argue with him about it for years until one day she just gave up and started ignoring him or changing the subject whenever he brought it up. Eventually, he stopped bringing it up, and one day, he came to one of the family get-togethers and instead of trying to pick a fight, he announced that he had been saved and was sorry about the things he had said in the past. It is my mom’s theory that people who argue about creationism and evolution are just looking for attention. In the case of this girl, I think this is true. Why would an evolutionist care if another person wanted to be Christian? It’s not hurting them, so why would they bring it up unless they wanted attention? I don’t know how true this is, but those kind of people can be the hardest and most frustrating people to get along with for me.

      • People who argue about creationism and evolution typically aren’t just “looking for attention.” Many people with your belief system like to argue that creationism is a theory in the same way that evolution is a theory, therefore granting both theories equal merit. However, this is far from the truth. Evolution is a theory in the same way that gravity is a theory. In the scientific world, “theory” has a specific and more-or-less value-neutral meaning. It covers a wide spectrum, from the more speculative, such as at the wilder end of theoretical physics, to the firmly established and pretty stable, such as electromagnetism. Amongst the scientific community, evolution is universally agreed upon. In fact, in 1991, only 5% of scientists identified themselves as creationists, and as more evidence for evolution has cumulated over time, it is natural to assume that the percentage would be even smaller today. If you are confused about evolution, here is an educational video to clear things up:

        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lIEoO5KdPvg

        It is important for you to really think about *why* you believe in creationism. Because your parents do? Because it says so in the Bible? The Bible also claims that stars will fall out of the sky, which demonstrates a clear lack of understanding for what stars are. I am by no means discrediting the Bible as a text, so there is no need to get offended. However, it is extremely important that you look at the evidence for both sides and decide for yourself. In this day and age, it hardly makes sense to believe in creationism anymore. Additionally, in your comment, you question why evolutionists care if people want to believe in creationism. For me, it is because beliefs in disproved theories like creationism hinder the growth of scientific knowledge in society.

    5. I feel like sometimes being a Christian designates me as “different” and it can definitely be a little awkward but I’ve learned to try to think how being different can lead others to see Christ through not being of this world! 🙂

    6. It definitely can get awkward in school, especially as a devout Catholic. But If I’m the only Christian in the room, I just try to engage in conversations, as long as they are pure. However, it usually isn’t long until someone asks , as I wear a small wooden cross necklace, plus I explain my purity ring isn’t a wedding ring (besides being married to God, of course 😉 ) , but I take it as a chance to explain how positive it is to my life, and just be light to others and listen well if they ask me things.

      and above all, not only pray, but show my pride. even though its an awkward situation, be like “yeah” *in a casual tone*

    7. When I’m the only Christian in the room, I try to avoid the secular conversations and sing alongs. I’m not ashamed to tell my peers that I’m a Christian, or even write about my Lord and Savior in my essays because that’s an opportunity for me to sow/water a seed. Even when some people leave me out of their little cliques, the Holy Spirit reminds me that I’ll never influence them if I try to be like them. Talking about my God (non-jokingly), treating everyone in a loving manner (with my huge smile and warm hugs), and enjoying my life in front of them without sinking in this world but by serving my God is the way I yearn to shine his light no matter what room I’m in.

    8. I just LOVE it when I’m the only person in the room who believes in creation! I love it EVEN MORE when people start to argue with me about it. And I just love it THE MOST when they come up with a point that I never thought of, and I come up with a logical, Biblical response HOURS later, leaving me looking uneducated and stupid! Seriously, though, those creation debates are the worst 🙁

    9. Non believers aren’t going to harm you! Sure there may be things in the secular world that you don’t believe in or think is good. But do you want to know what you really have to do when you’re the only christian room? LOVE everyone. You dont have to raise a debate or list the reasons why Jesus and Christianity is better. If youre the only believer, the non believers will see Jesus gleaming through you, and they will want to get ahold of that!

      • Great answer! When I saw this, it confused me a little bit. There’s a difference between being in a room with 5 non believers and 5 people that are potentially going to harm you! Non believers aren’t bad people.

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