5 Things to Remember When You’re Single on Valentine’s Day
Written by Phylicia Masonheimer | February 14, 2018
The one day of the year when everyone advertises their romantic relationship is not a favorite among singles. After all, is there a day for singles to remind couples of their former independence and freedom? It seems a little unfair!
Jokes aside, Valentine’s Day can be really tough. Whether you recently broke up, have never been in a relationship or simply can’t stand all the hearts and roses, this holiday might be nothing but a sore reminder of your relationship status.
Before you hate on the holiday too much, read the amazing history behind this day’s namesake, Saint Valentine. Then read on for five thoughts to encourage your heart in this season.
1. Your value is not determined by your relationship status.
You’ve probably heard this a dozen times, but it’s true: You are not your relationship status. Many people might ask you about it. You might be mindful of it each day. But you are not an incomplete person. You are not less-than. You are still part of God’s plan to impact this world for His glory, and you can do that whether or not you have a man at your side.
2. Having no man is better than having a bad man.
Blunt but true: It is better to be single than to be in an unhealthy relationship. That might mean an unequally yoked relationship, an emotionally abusive relationship or a relationship with someone who makes no effort. It is far better to be single on Valentine’s Day than getting make-up roses from a guy who doesn’t value you for who you are.
3. Love is not made up of Valentine’s Days.
I’ve been married four years. Just this morning, my husband and I looked at each other and said: “What do you want for Valentine’s?” We completely forgot about it! While we do give gifts on this holiday, our life together is so much more than one day of the year. The little surprise gifts throughout the year and just doing life beside each other is so much more meaningful than one holiday. Love is not made up of heart-and-rose moments. It’s made up of work and commitment, of time and sacrifice, which in the end make it all meaningful. The work you’re doing now is preparing you for what lies ahead, just as it does in marriage.
4. The person you’re becoming while single is the person you bring to your future relationship.
As stated in the previous point, this season of singleness is preparing you for what lies ahead. As I often say, you don’t know what marriage will ask of you until you’re in it. So prepare well! Let this season teach you, embrace it for all it is and become a stronger woman in the process. You’ll bring that confidence and those life experiences with you to your future relationship.
5. It’s worth the wait (really!).
I know this may sound trite, but it’s true: This will be worth the wait. I didn’t have a single Valentine’s Day with a boyfriend until I met my husband. But now, I can look back on those years as seasons of preparation that help me appreciate this season even more.
Valentine’s Day is just one day of the year, and you have so much to offer every day on this planet. Follow the Lord. Listen for His voice. Offer Him the best of your skills and personality as a sacrifice of praise in this season. And enjoy the Valentine’s candy, because it’s already 50% off.