Sometimes we tend to hold onto things in our lives that are honestly doing way more damage than good. But it’s not until we take a step back and see these people and behaviors for what they are that we begin to address them and be set free again. Here are five things you may need to let go of to allow peace into your life again.
1. Being obsessed with what people think about you
There is no better way to waste the energy of thinking than giving power to the opinions of others over your life. No one should have that much control over you. The moment we start weighing our every word, action and appearance on the basis of whether people will accept it or not is the moment we become their slave. You’ll never be at peace with yourself while constantly trying to “measure up” to being accepted by every person you come into contact with. It’s impossible to please everyone and you’ll die trying. Be the best you can be and the right people will love you for who you are.
2. Past sins or mistakes that you’ve already repented of and are trying to work on
Remember these things are a lesson learned, not a life sentence. For many of us it’s harder to forgive ourselves when God’s grace has already given us the freedom to start over. Here’s some advice on how to gain freedom from guilt.
3. Toxic friendships
Healthy relationships are always characterized by those that help you grow overall (assuming that investment goes both ways). They’re supportive, selfless and bring out the best in you. Toxic relationships, on the other hand, steadily take instead of give. They drain you, stress you out and reduce you as a person. Have enough respect for yourself to have a healthy standard of what is and isn’t allowed in your life. At some point, a line needs to be drawn by either change or distance. Here’s a guide to letting go and holding on to friendships.
4. Trying to live up to someone else’s life
The battle of comparison is a real one, especially in a social media world. Watching the progress and lifestyle of our friends’ lives outside of context can make one feel behind, left out or flat-out boring. But like we always say, you never know what’s really going on behind the closed doors of someone’s life. Most of us only see what is shown to us. That being said, it’s so important to stay in your lane because the purpose and timing God has for you is perfect! The best weapon against comparison is to stay focused and grateful about what God is developing in your life. Here are five ways to avoid social media envy.
5. The guy who keeps playing games with you
Yes, him. The one who likes your attention and messages you when he’s bored, but isn’t consistent and doesn’t follow up with any real interest. After a while, being in limbo when you’re really interested in someone can not only be torturous, but soon turns into resentment. You deserve someone who chooses you and is clear about choosing you. It’s time to stop letting these games play with your emotions and rob you of your peace. Here’s why you shouldn’t waste time on the guy who plays games.
Ladies, is there anything on this list you need to let go of? What would you add to this list? Would you like to see more? Let us know in the comments below!