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    5 Traits to Look for in a Guy…FROM a Christian Guy!

    I was talking to a friend of mine who is a girl (yes, it does happen, a guy CAN be friends with a girl!) who told me how hard it is to find a “good guy” to date.

    I asked her some questions about her current flame, to which she replied that he said he was a Christian. I asked more questions, and it turns out his view of Christianity only loosely meant “I believe that there is some type of God.” His view of Christianity was the worldly view and not what us followers of Christ know.

    That got me wondering…what are some traits that really make a “Christian guy” a “good guy?” Well, ladies, this is what you SHOULD be looking for:

    1. A man who is very much seeking God. Ladies, we say this so much at PI, but we mean it: Don’t date a guy who doesn’t love Jesus with all of his heart. It isn’t worth it. Also, don’t try to “change him”; let him figure that out on his own. Plant the seed if you must.

    2. A man who will pursue you. If he really wants to be with you, he will make it known. If you are getting mixed signals, it’s safe to say he doesn’t know what he wants…back away!

    3. A man who will respect your heart. This is a big one that I see a lot of girls fall into. A bad guy is after one thing—a physical relationship with you—and is not really interested in anything long-term. Seek a man who wants to know YOU.

    4. A man who will challenge you. This one is pretty big to me. Wouldn’t you want a guy who is there for you when you need to be pushed? So many of these “bad guys” won’t be around to be there, and that’s not cool.

    5. A man who will LISTEN to you. Seriously, we exist…find that guy who will listen to you when you’re at your lowest. Find that guy who will go out for coffee with you at 10 p.m. because you need to vent.

    Ladies, this certainly isn’t everything you should look for in a guy…just a few of the many important qualities! Guys like this are out there and DO exist!

    What would you add to the list?

    Dave Herrmann
    My name is Dave, you may see me writing funny articles on PI or managing the social media accounts. My life is putting Christ first and everything else second. Life is beautiful when we smile and choose a positive attitude. God is good!

    81 COMMENTS

    1. My dad is in a mens small group that focusses on being Godly, R.E.A.L men, or men who

      Reject passivity- is confident and bold in his faith
      Expect the higher reward- lives with eternity in mind
      Accept responsibility- owns mistakes and trusts the Lord to change him
      Lead courageously- follows God to make him a leader

      We should be looking for a man who demonstrates these qualities, as well as those outlined in the list.

    2. this is not easy to answer, a lot of guys just want to ‘ve sex with the girls, a lot of resepect for each of the sex is lost in western scoitey, very sad times,
      2 Cor 6:14

      KJV verse 14Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? what Paul is saying to not accept courtship or merry him/her as an unbeliever or accept a date, say no politely to a ungodly man, say thank you I can’t date u cause u & I don’t ‘ve same belifs bout our paths thank your for asking me to date, this pharce I find helpful when topics like this come up..
      2 Tim 2:22
      KJV verse 22 Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.,
      I want to date a godly man that has Christ in the center of his life a heart for god, filled with the holy spirit,. fulley devoted to the Lord!!, loves the lord than anything else of this world.,

      1 Corinthians 15:33
      verse 33 Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.

      don’t hang out with the wrong croward, they ‘ll reck good chacter., stay away from these kinds of men,., my older sister did this stuff in teens & twenties she could ‘ve been in trouble by his grace it didn’t happen..
      1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
      4Chairty suffereth long, and is kind, charity enveith not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
      5Dothe not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
      6Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
      7Bearth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

      this what a Christian guy should be & not be acting or doing.,
      look up secpture for gudincess for dating.,
      I’m learning from these areas my sister didn’t stay on the path,. don’t do it,!.

      I beg you girls to not date unequalyoke guys., can be friends

    3. So, I’ve met someone like this. He’s a good Christian, he is passionate, he challenges me and always listens to me. He told me a few weeks ago that he likes me which kind of surprised me because I thought we were just good friends. I really like hanging out with him and talking to him. But I’m just not sure if I like him. Like, he’s not the kind of guy that i EVER imagined myself with. He’s not very attractive which isn’t a huge issue, but I just can’t see myself with him. Although I really like his company. I’m not sure what to do. We are very honest with each other and i told him I needed to give it more time before i decided how I felt about him. We will keep hanging out and he said he is happy to wait for me but i’m worried about leading him on. Any advice? I’ve never had any dating experience so I have no idea what to do.

    4. Ahhahahaha, I would love to even just be friends with a guy like this. xD I’m 16, and I know I’m not ready to date yet, but I would love to know that guys like that do exist somewhere. Not just on a blog post.
      Now, I’m not trying to attack anyone! I just know personally none of the guys in my youth group seem to be seeking God much at all. If I were a guy I would try to encourage my fellow guys to do so. Not for the ladies, but for them themselves to realize how important it is.
      Anyone feel me here?

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