Many of you are beginning to take a serious look at relationships. We’re not just talking about the high-school summer boy-crush variety. We’re talking genuine, long-lasting relationships. As many of you are in college, the reality is that some of you will begin or have already begun a relationship with that person you will spend the rest of your life with. Being in a relationship is fantastic if you’ve met someone you absolutely love to be around. However, relationships take work—a lot of work. We wanted to discuss five truths about relationships that you won’t often hear discussed anywhere else.
1. Relationships aren’t perfect, nor will they ever be. We aren’t perfect individuals. We are flawed, sinful creatures. However, just as God has given us grace, we need to give our relationship some grace. Some days will be better than other days. Don’t end a relationship over one big argument.
2. Relationships require a lot of investment. This may come as a shock to some of you, but relationships take A LOT of time and investment on your part. If you want to make it work, that means you must give up some of the things you did when you were single. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to give up EVERYTHING. The key is finding things you both like to do and do them together.
3. All relationships aren’t the same. What works for someone else may not work for you. Know this: If you both commit your lives to the Lord and act in accordance with His will, you are on the right path.
4. Relationships won’t complete you. There is this sense that if you feel lonely, all you need is a partner to fill that void. The fact is, that’s a YOU problem. No relationship will fill that loneliness. In fact, you may feel even more lonely with someone. Before you jump into a relationship, get your heart aligned with it.
5. Relationships take time, so take it slowly. As Christians we tend to view things with marriage in mind. That’s completely okay. But there is something to taking a relationship slowly and letting things play out as they come. Don’t feel that your relationship is going nowhere if after a month you haven’t used the “L” word yet. Yes, some people find their soul mate and get engaged in three weeks (looking at you “ring by spring” crowd). However, this isn’t the norm. Take your time. Get to know the person you’re dating!