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5 Truths About Relationships

Many of you are beginning to take a serious look at relationships. We’re not just talking about the high-school summer boy-crush variety. We’re talking genuine, long-lasting relationships. As many of you are in college, the reality is that some of you will begin or have already begun a relationship with that person you will spend the rest of your life with. Being in a relationship is fantastic if you’ve met someone you absolutely love to be around. However, relationships take work—a lot of work. We wanted to discuss five truths about relationships that you won’t often hear discussed anywhere else.

1. Relationships aren’t perfect, nor will they ever be. We aren’t perfect individuals. We are flawed, sinful creatures. However, just as God has given us grace, we need to give our relationship some grace. Some days will be better than other days. Don’t end a relationship over one big argument.

2. Relationships require a lot of investment. This may come as a shock to some of you, but relationships take A LOT of time and investment on your part. If you want to make it work, that means you must give up some of the things you did when you were single. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to give up EVERYTHING. The key is finding things you both like to do and do them together.

3. All relationships aren’t the sameWhat works for someone else may not work for you. Know this: If you both commit your lives to the Lord and act in accordance with His will, you are on the right path.

4. Relationships won’t complete you. There is this sense that if you feel lonely, all you need is a partner to fill that void. The fact is, that’s a YOU problem. No relationship will fill that loneliness. In fact, you may feel even more lonely with someone. Before you jump into a relationship, get your heart aligned with it.

5. Relationships take time, so take it slowly. As Christians we tend to view things with marriage in mind. That’s completely okay. But there is something to taking a relationship slowly and letting things play out as they come. Don’t feel that your relationship is going nowhere if after a month you haven’t used the “L” word yet. Yes, some people find their soul mate and get engaged in three weeks (looking at you “ring by spring” crowd). However, this isn’t the norm. Take your time. Get to know the person you’re dating!

 

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by Heresy on December 3, 2014 at 20:44

    Most of what you said I agree, that’s saying alot. But you don’t know me, leave it at that for now.

    My girlfriend sent me this link and I decided to comment. This is weird, so far things have been going bad, and I’m doubting in the existence of God. Luckier than some, unlucky in most things.

    But idk, lets say God does exist? Why is it things go south so fast?

    If he doesn’t, why am I so damn lucky?

    But to the point,

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by rod7e on November 6, 2014 at 20:55

    This is wonderful!
    I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3months now but we have ben the bestest friends since we were toddlers! We know each other well but not everything about each other. We really like each other, so much! We’ve had our differences because he has a more mature way of thinking and I had a really low self-esteem. He helped through it all by helping me get right back on track with God. We decided to get more serious with our relationship with God and we wanted to help each other grow stronger with God so we started getting involved in Christian organizations at the universities we attend (he attends TAMUK & I attend UTPA) and every night we make time to read one chapter of Genisis through the phone and discuss what we understand and we take notes so that any question we have we ask the youth leaders/pastors from the christian organizations at school to help us. When we don’t have time, either because of homework or his recitals and concerts, we catch up when we do have time. We also call each other every morning, very early, to have time and pray together before we go to our morning classes. This is the first time either of us base a relationship on God and to leave it all in God’s hands, which makes it even more special! I hope that every young girl leaves everything in God’s hands and pray to Him for the right decisions in everything they do, seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit and glorify God every step of the way! Remember, we are all wonderfully and beautifully made! You have a lofe ahead of you, so don’t let one of life’s troubling situations bring you down. Have faith in God!
    God bless you all!

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by saraileft on October 18, 2014 at 22:10

    Thanks for the article this will be a great help for when I start dating

  4. kath660

    Posted by kath660 on October 18, 2014 at 15:32

    This is literally the best relationship advice post I have seen in all of the internet. I have recently went through a break-up with a guy I went too fast with, and I was deeply invested in him by the time I realized he didn’t really love me. I will live by this list now. Thanks!

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by JesusFreak3278 on October 17, 2014 at 12:20

    Thanks for this advice! I am 15 so this will be an issue sooner than I’d like it to be.. Lol! Anyways, I had a question. There’s this guy that I like from my youth group who also lives 2 houses down from me and goes to school with me, so I see him a lot. I’ve known him for about a year and a half now, and over the past year we’ve become really good friends. At first I had a crush on him, but it faded… Until very recently! The thing is, his younger sister (2 years younger than me) is sort of my friend (she’s closer to my 11 year old sister than me though) and he’s 2 years older than me. Sometimes I get the impression he just sees me as his sisters friend, but lately I’ve started suspecting he has a crush on me, too. Homecoming is coming up, and since my friend asked her guy friend to go as friends with her I’m thinking about asking this guy. But I don’t want him to take it the wrong way and have that ruin our friendship. Help???

    • kath660

      Posted by kath660 on October 18, 2014 at 15:37

      I think you should totally ask him to homecoming! However, before you get too invested, I would ask: does he make my heart flutter whenever I see him? Would he be a good boyfriend? And ask the same questions of yourself: Am I a good girlfriend? Does he like me as much as I like him? If you get green lights from all these questions, and if sparks fly when you go to homecoming, give a relationship a try! 🙂

    • Clairabear

      Posted by Clairabear on October 18, 2014 at 09:02

      Maybe you could just casually ask if he’s planning on going. And if he says yes, then ask what he thinks about going with someone. Those questions should open an opportunity 🙂 Good luck!!