A man that has friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24)
You might be finishing up your last year of college or heading into your 30s soon. Either way, there are some of you who can’t figure out how to be more social on top of your ever-growing list of responsibilities. You could be thinking, How do other girls make it look so easy to find friends and stay social? I know very few people who have mastered the art of getting to know other people. To be honest, most of us are just winging it.
I’ve been through different seasons of college life, starting my career, making a huge move to a different state, getting married and transitioning into motherhood. My social activities have changed with every life phase, but I was always able to engage with other women and keep life interesting, even as an introvert, by doing the very things I’m recommending to you. If you’re not a social butterfly, but are tired of being a homebody, let’s look at simple ways to get into more exciting events.
1. Join a club. In college, one of the first ways I started meeting new people was joining clubs and groups on campus. I talked to my counselor and asked if there were already things happening at school that aligned with my interests. That’s how I ended up getting involved in student government as well as volunteering for the theatre department and helping to start a Christian Bible study group. See what’s already going on at your school or start something you know other people would love to be a part of.
2. Do what you love. I know this sounds too easy, but honestly I found some of my closest friends (including my hubby) while doing what I loved to do in the fashion and art scene. You may love baking, so join a baking class and get to know other people who have the same interests in vegan recipes or the best pastry dishes on Pinterest.
3. Take your inside activities outside. Take reading, for example. Who doesn’t love to curl up with a great book? The wonderful thing about reading is you can do it anywhere. So instead of getting into a good page-turner in bed, see if there’s a local library or a coffee shop that hosts a monthly book club. Or if you love working out, ditch the treadmill a few times a week and see if there’s a hiking trail near you where groups of people love spending an hour getting some fresh air.
4. Get other people involved. Are you a movie buff? Let’s say there’s a film coming out that you can’t wait to see in theaters. Invite a few people you know to come with you. Afterward, you can all dish about the amazing special effects or the phenomenal acting over dinner or a cup of coffee. This could even turn into a regular thing. Who knows?
5. Volunteer. Is there a conference coming up at your church that you can help out with? Does your office have an event committee? Even if you’re not the “party planner of the year” type, you can still get in the mix by simply lending a hand. This way, you don’t have to go out of your way to plan something yourself, and over time you will start to see budding friendships if this ends up taking a few weeks or months of your time.
A common thread in all of these tips is to stay true to yourself. You don’t have to compromise your interests to be more social. Attending every party at work or going out to random events doesn’t automatically equal a healthy social life. God gave you certain passions for a reason, and if you surround yourself with people who love similar things, you can cut out the awkward small talk. Who’s with me on this?
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