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    5 Ways to Enjoy Being Single When All of Your Friends Have Boyfriends

    Hey girls! Are all of your friends hung up on having a boyfriend? Are you? Or maybe your besties already have boyfriends and you’re still living the single life. Well, I’m here to tell you to stop pining and start taking advantage of being single!

    I know it’s easier said than done, but when you think about how many years of your life you’ll likely be in a relationship, it sure makes sense to take this moment of being single and have fun with it, don’t you think?

    Here are some ways that you can enjoy being single when all of your friends have boyfriends:

     

    1. Be confident and strengthened by your single status. You are not defined by whether or not you have a boyfriend. So don’t feel bad if you don’t have one! It doesn’t make you less of a person. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It means you have the opportunity to learn to be confident and find strength in yourself and the love of God Almighty. There is so much joy in that!
    2. Spend time with your single friends and find new ones. Being single gives you the chance to enjoy hanging out with your friends without compromising your time with a boyfriend, his friends and his family. Now’s the time to put yourself first when it comes to having fun. So spend time with your single friends and make more. Focus on friendships with like-minded people who share your interests and faith! Youth groups and church events are great places to meet friends.
    3. Get more involved in your activities. This is one of the best times in your life to do the things that you want to do! It’s your time to mold yourself into the person you want to be without being distracted by someone else. So get to it!
    4. Take the time to strengthen your relationship with Christ. As a Christian, your number one should be Christ, whether you are single or in a relationship. Strengthen your relationship with Him before you get into a dating relationship, so that pleasing Him first becomes second nature!
    5. Get to know who you are. This is a great time to learn who you are, what you want in life and what you enjoy doing. Once you learn about who you are, you’ll better recognize the kind of person best suited to you!

     

    Ladies, being single and surrounded by couples doesn’t have to be a bad thing. You just have to use the time wisely and have fun!

    Are you single and enjoying it? Share your story—we love to hear from you!

    T.M. Gaouettehttp://www.tmgaouette.com
    T.M. Gaouette is a freelance writer, ghostwriter, blogger and fiction novelist. She was born in Africa, brought up in London and is now living in New England with her husband and four children. Devoted to Him, Gaouette is dedicated to glorifying God through her stories for teens and young adults. T.M. Gaouette is the author of "The Destiny of Sunshine Ranch" and "Freeing Tanner Rose," Christian novels for teens and young adults. She's currently working on completing her upcoming novel -visit tmgaouette.com for more on her Christian fiction work. Connect with her on www.facebook.com/TMGaouette and https://twitter.com/TMGaouette .

    20 COMMENTS

    1. I love this because it is such a great reminder 🙂 I have never had a boyfriend and I am a 19 year old college student so age doesn’t matter when it comes to living the single life. So many people have asked me why I haven’t dated yet or why I don’t have a boyfriend. To be honest, I have chosen not to date for all those years because of my own personal convictions as well as never finding anyone worth dating while meeting my high standards! It has not been easy, but I feel that it will be completely worth it when the time comes for my singleness to end.

    2. Love #4 because that is exactly what I did, I improved my relationship with Christ and the more I prayed and talked to him, I fell more in love with Him! God was able to fill that void in my heart that a boy wasn’t able to fill!I just love Him so much!

    3. Yup. I’m currently learning to love the single life! And guess what? I’m going to go watch a movie by MYSELF this Friday because I can. I’ve never had a boyfriend but I’ve gotten way too attached a guy friend or two and it’s about time that I look to God for my fulfillment. Jesus is the most perfect example of love and He did it all for me!

    4. i seriously needed this article! literally all of my friends i hang out with on a regular basis have boyfriends! well, one only has a guy that shes going on a date with but shes been obsessed with boys for forever now and if she doesnt have one, shes looking. but the big problem i have is that they all ignore me for their boyfriends and i have no idea what to do: even my best friend! its like since i dont have a boyfriend i know nothing about the world but for all of them, this is their first boyfriend and ive never had an official boyfriend but ive had “nonofficial” ones a few times. id started to get frustrated and lonely (because lets be honest, itd still be nice to have a boyfriend) but now, im really excited cuz i can just be like “later!” and go do something without having to worry about a stupid boy and i can just go with single friends instead of ones that are clinging all over boys! 🙂

    5. I totally agree with what your saying!! Ive been single for years, and I’m content with being single!!! I’m only 21 and i believe that this is the time in your life when your finding out who you are and what you really want!! I dont want to waste my single years! I want to travel and see the world. I want to something thats worth while and will benefit me later on in life!! As for friends, ive never really had many friends. Im not a big social person. I think thats where i struggle the most!

    6. I totally needed this! I just found out a girl I had fallen for hard at work was cheating on her girlfriend with me, and a couple months ago I broke up with my boyfriend who was… Less than faithful to me without flat out cheating. So I’m feeling pretty bad about dating for a while but I see all myself friends with guys hanging off them or dating guys that they love and want to stay with forever and man it sucks! This article helped a lot, time to focus on myself and my relationship with God, no reason why I need anyone anyway!!

    7. I am 21 and a Junior in a college that is kind of known for helping girls get their “Mrs. degree” and as such I have a lot of friends who are either dating, engaged or married. Both of my roommates are engaged as well as two of my good friends from back home so it gets a bit interesting being around all of the couples. I have had quite a few people joke about setting me up on dates but I find that it’s much more enjoyable to find other single girls or mixed groups and go and do something fun. That way you get to know people in a group setting and if a guy wants to ask you out then you at least know a little bit about who he is first. I do not currently have a boyfriend and I am perfectly happy without one because there are so many more things that you can do and have an impact on people’s lives through doing something you love when you’re not tied down. I’m not against dating or anything and would be happy dating someone if I found the right guy. I just wanted to encourage some of the younger girls on here that if you’re single right now, don’t get discouraged because you’ve got years ahead of you even after high school and college to find the right one. Stay focused on what God has on hand for you to do right now and He will bring you together with the man that He has handpicked for you when the time is right. 🙂

    8. 🙂 I’m glad I read this. It’s not necessarily for the reasons many would think, like my friends are currently dating or anything. It’s more that I tend to be the outlier in this one group of friends I have. They tend to talk a lot about boys: which ones they think are cute, who might be date-able, etc. I would prefer to talk about other things like what I and them are struggling with or prayer or other things. Sure, they do talk about aspects of the Christian faith but it’s not all the time and sometimes I wonder if they are caught up in the world’s views on love and stuff. It’s like, they are lusting after guys, even if they try to explain it away by saying they would never marry them or whatever. It doesn’t make it right.
      But this article really helped because I was reminded of other friends I have that aren’t worried about such trivial things as which guy is cutest on a particular day (there is a place for it, but sometimes it’s too much).

    9. This is so me! I’m 18 and have one friend who’s married and expecting (she older than me), one engaged, and one that’s almost 2 months into her first relationship. I’ve got a few good single friends too but there are times when it feels like I’m the only one who isnt in a relationship, especially when the two I hang out with the most are. It can be hard at times, especially when we do something with my 2 friends, their fiance/boyfriend and me. I’m okay with 5th wheeling it and being single, its just that sometimes its hard when the other 4 people in your group of 5 have someone who’s hand they can hold and you don’t, know what I mean?

    10. Im so glad you posted this! I notice so many girls, Christian and not, who act like getting married is their purpose in life. Don’t get me wrong, marriage is a gift from God and is beautiful, but we were created by God to serve and love Him and to spread the truth of His Word. People get so hung up on “waiting for the right one” when we shouldn’t be waiting. We should be living our lives to serve God and help others, and if God decides to bring along a husband for you, then that is great, but it isn’t what your whole life has been leading up to. I found this article that I think people might enjoy reading because it explains this a bit better than I can. I really liked it because it helped me put things in a better perspective. http://convergemagazine.com/single-waiting-9283/

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