5 Ways to Enjoy Your Teen Years Without Losing Your Christian Self

    Ladies, I believe that the teenage years are the most difficult to endure. I think they’re the most vulnerable years to get through, for both guys and girls. Why? Well, primarily because there are tons of physical and hormonal changes during the teenage years. So often teens become more aware of their appearance and how it compares to that of their peers. And for girls, their tumultuous emotions can make the teen years pretty dramatic. I should know, having once been a teen girl.

    For girls, Hollywood also plays a role in confusing perceptions. It establishes unrealistic standards for beauty, as well as a warped view of sexuality and intimacy. With all this craziness, it’s so easy to become confused. Giving in to temptation becomes easy, and resorting to all aspects of immodesty becomes normal.

    Ladies, if your desire is to remain strong on the arms of your Lord throughout your life, then getting through your teen years will definitely be one of your biggest challenges. If you’re looking for insight, you’ve come to the right place!

    Consider these five ways to enjoy your teenage years without losing your Christian self.

    1. Love the you that God designed. If you don’t love the you that God created, then you’re always going to wish you were someone else. You’re always going to wish you were that pretty girl in your school who gets all the attention. You’ll want to be the popular girl or the one who dates all the boys. If you’re not happy with who you are, then you will change yourself to get the attention that gives you a false sense of love. And this could lead to bad attention. So, see yourself in God’s eyes. He’s never wrong, so don’t second-guess Him.
    2. Don’t compare yourself to others. You’re not going to be like anyone else, no matter how much you try. If you continue to compare yourself with others, you’re going to fall short and that will only make you feel worse about yourself. This in itself could lead to depression and negative thoughts.
    3. Stay strong in your convictions. Your convictions are your beliefs founded upon the Word of God. If you don’t know your convictions or why you believe them, then they will easily crumble away with the first opportunity. Your convictions help you to remain strong in your path toward eternal salvation. Sure, you’ll make mistakes, but your convictions will help you get back on track.
    4. Make friends with like-minded girls. If you hang out with girls who share your faith, values and interests, then you won’t feel left out. You can arrange fun things to do without compromising those values. And most importantly, you can bring Christ along in everything that you do. Having like-minded friends helps you all stay strong in your faith. You will also have someone to hold you accountable for your actions.
    5. Stay connected to God every day. Read your Bible every day, go to church and take part in activities and programs. Pray throughout the day, not just when you get up, eat and go to sleep. Pray for the good, the bad, the hopes and the dreams. Remaining connected to God on a daily basis will help you remain focused on Him in every choice you make.


    See to it that no one makes a prey of you by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the universe, and not according to Christ. (Colossians 2:8)


    Ladies, are you having difficulty getting through your teenage years? What solutions do you have for coping?

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    T.M. Gaouette
    T.M. Gaouette is a freelance writer, ghostwriter, blogger and fiction novelist. She was born in Africa, brought up in London and is now living in New England with her husband and four children. Devoted to Him, Gaouette is dedicated to glorifying God through her stories for teens and young adults. T.M. Gaouette is the author of "The Destiny of Sunshine Ranch" and "Freeing Tanner Rose," Christian novels for teens and young adults. She's currently working on completing her upcoming novel -visit for more on her Christian fiction work. Connect with her on and .


    1. Needed this so so so much lately! Drama has been taking over my life, and I can feel myself drifting from my faith! God gave me a little bit of a miracle today, and that and this post is all the nudge I need to come running back! Praise Him!!

    2. As someone who’s turning 20 later this month some more thoughts:
      -Find God on your own. You don’t have to agree with the brand of Christianity that your parents or pastor taught. This doesn’t mean live a crazy, however you want life style. But especially when you become a young adult, read the Bible on your own. Read critically, like they taught you in language arts. Think about what Christian leaders are telling you and where in the Word of God it is or isn’t affirmed and why. It doesn’t make you heathen to disagree with other people of your religion.
      -Don’t fall into the trap of hating yourself. Saying that you love yourself, or love your body or anything along those lines isn’t a bad thing. It doesn’t make you conceited. If you start to get down on yourself because you think it’s important to be seen as humble, you’ll start to believe it, and then your sense of your own worth will take a nose dive
      -Know when to keep your mouth shut. If it’s going to sound hateful, don’t say it, even if you’re convinced you’re right. (Ex, highschool me in a class: I’m sorry, I don’t support being gay. It’s wrong. Me now: Ouch. Can I go back in time and tell myself to shut up?)
      -Similarly, don’t let anyone take advantage of you. Even if it’s someone you love dearly, don’t be afraid to say “no, you’re treating me unfairly” and remove yourself from that situation. Remember: Do no harm, but take no crap
      -Respect is key. Even if you disagree with each other, respect everyone you converse with and demand that they do the same for you. This is how you stay in the right.

    3. “Let me tell you why you are here. You’re here to be salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavors of this earth. If you lose your saltiness, how will people taste godliness? You’ve lost your usefulness and will end up in the garbage. “Here’s another way to put it: You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand–shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven” (Matthew 5:13-16 The Message).

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