Contrary to many of our insecurities and negative beliefs, you can be alone without being lonely! It’s all about perspective and how you choose to use your time. Here are five ways to use your alone time to find fulfillment!
1. Practice self-care. As women, we often can be the worst at taking care of ourselves. We’re quick to support our friends, aid our families and get lost in our relationships. While this can display the beautiful character of selflessness, without balance and boundaries it can also lead to self-sabotage. Just to be clear, it’s not selfish to set aside time to take care of yourself. Make it a priority. Even Jesus had the wisdom to set time aside for Himself and God to refuel for the duties ahead. The truth is that you can’t pour out from an empty well. When you’ve found time to yourself, consider practicing better self-care. That could include taking a long bath, reading an encouraging book, making a good meal—all of those things that will put you in a place to rest and refuel. Remember, you matter.
2. Get to know yourself better. Alone time can serve as a wonder of self-discovery when we commit to a journey of growth. These are the best moments to stop and reflect on where you’ve been, what your soul is battling with and working with God in molding the woman He’s calling you to be. Journaling is a great way to walk through this process. In fact, here are 31 Soul-Searching Journal Prompts you can use to begin that journey. This is the time to get to know yourself.
3. Get to know God better. A relationship with God isn’t something that is sustained by coasting through your faith. The truth is that you’re either pursuing God and growing closer to Him, or the world and all its demands are slowly taking His place. We’re either moving toward God or we’re naturally drifting away from Him, because of our innate sin nature. Not to mention the slippery slope that causes our relationship to quickly turn into religion, where we’re used to doing all the “God-things,” but we’ve lost a genuine heart for His heart. This is definitely the time to focus on spiritual growth in prayer, reading the Word or even listening to supplemental teachings that help engage your walk with Christ.
4. Redefine your goals. Nothing slips away from us like the intention of our vision and goals as life weighs us down. Another great purpose of alone time is for reflection. Review your progress on some of the goals you had in mind for yourself in the past month and be honest about how you’re keeping up with them. Redefine and set new goals if plans have changed. The point of having goals is to give us an aim for growth. It’s the trajectory between where we are and where we need to be. Whenever you find time to yourself, utilize these moments to get back on track with your life.
5. Invest in your passion or something you enjoy. It’s so important to invest in something you have a passion for, even if it goes unrecognized and unrewarded. You’ll find it personally rewarding by awakening and bringing inspiration to your soul again. For some of us, that’s singing, drawing, writing, dancing, cooking…whatever! Make the most of this time by investing in and enjoying the gifts God gave you. I believe God delights in us when we delight in the gifts He’s given us.
Ladies, what do you like to do to make the most of your alone time? Be sure to share in the comments below!