6 Healthy Ways to Move on From the Guy You Loved
Written by Brittney Moses | May 5, 2016
When you’re suffering from a broken heart over a guy you loved, it can be hard to heal and move on. It can seem impossible to untangle your heart from him when you’ve devoted so much of yourself to this one person. But trust us—you can do it. While there’s no overnight fix for a broken heart, here are some things that can help you through the process.
- Redefine your vision. Let’s face it: As women, when we fall head over heels for a guy, we’ve probably already pictured what walking down the aisle with him (or even settled with babies) would look like. You may have visually and literally started planning for your future with this guy in mind. This can make it really hard to move on because for some time you haven’t experienced life without him.Redefining your vision is a big deal because your vision guides your life. Your vision is where your hopes and goals are, and what your direction is aimed toward. If this guy played a major role in your vision, then redefining your vision looks like getting back to setting goals for you. That includes who you aim to be, where you want to go and the areas in which you want to grow. Go ahead and make a list of short-term and long-term goals!
- Get involved in a hobby. Sometimes when there’s a serious interest in a guy we love, somewhere along the way we can lose touch with our own interests. Now is the time to explore your passions or even challenge yourself to learn something new. Whether it’s joining a photography workshop, culinary class or fitness group, or even learning a new language, it’s time to start investing in yourself again!
- Get on a daily Bible reading plan. Spending time with God renews our spirit and tends to put our lives back in perspective. His plan for your life is greater than your past relationship, and most of all, it doesn’t end here. Getting on a daily Bible reading plan should really be made a priority to start rebuilding that spiritual foundation that anchors your life in Christ—not in a guy.
But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace. (Romans 6:8)
- Spend more time with friends and family. Romantic relationships aren’t the only ones that are worthwhile. We were made to be in fellowship and share that soul-to-soul flow in support of those we love. This is a great time to be intentional with building the relationships around you and spending more quality time with those whom God has placed in your life! Plan a coffee date or a movie-night sleepover, or get to know your family history from a close relative.
- Go on more adventures. The truth is you don’t need a guy to enjoy life! Start exploring and getting out to new places. Find a local cafe you’ve never visited and get lost in a book. Take a nature walk. Learn how to appreciate art at a nearby museum. Try a new dish at a restaurant. Explore and enjoy—you have a whole life ahead of you to appreciate!
- Journal what you’ve learned. Journaling is a great way to express yourself freely and let out any burden of emotions that might be weighing on you. Not only that, but as you work through this experience, a major way to grow through it is by writing about the lessons you’ve learned from this past relationship. It will teach you what not to do again, what red flags to look out for in the future and how you’d like to move on from this. Never underestimate how incredibly freeing this can be.
Think about this for a minute: You’ve been through a lot of trials, changes and disappointments in your life, but you’re still here. That alone is proof that although it may not feel like it in the moment, you are stronger than you think you are. This is not the end of the whole book, but just a chapter in your story.
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