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    6 Signs You’re Boy-Crazy

    Ladies, would you say that you’re “boy-crazy”? Do you think about boys all the time? Check them out? Talk about them? Are you just totally head-over-heel obsessed with them?

    While thinking about boys in general is a normal occurrence for young girls coming of age, there is a point where having an interest in boys becomes an obsession. Obsession goes way beyond having a crush and daydreaming about guys or one guy in general. In many ways, if it gets out of control, it can ruin your world.

    Ladies, if boys make or break your day, you may just be boy-crazy. Here are six signs that will let you know for sure:

    1. You’re always crushing on a boy or two. You don’t really remember a time when you didn’t like a guy. But when you don’t have a boy on your mind, you feel empty and broken.
    2. Wherever you go, you hope there will be a cute boy there. And if there isn’t, you’re truly disappointed. It’s like your whole day is ruined because there isn’t a boy there to check out, talk to or flirt with.
    3. You talk about boys with your friends all the time. And if they’re not talking about boys, you change the subject so that you are. It just makes you happy.
    4. In a room full of people, you look for the cutest guy. And once you’ve found him, you keep him in your sights at all times. You might even try to catch his eye or his attention in some way.
    5. You believe that having a boyfriend will make you happy. It’s all you think about, and you’ve convinced yourself that once you find a boyfriend, you’ll feel complete.
    6. You go places you know your crush will be. You actually plan your day around a boy. Maybe you go to the mall because some guy you like will be there, and then you and your friends follow him around, pretending to be discreet. You may even pretend to bump into him accidentally.

    Ladies, being boy-crazy can lead to destruction. I know that may sound a little dramatic, but consider the following:

    • Being boy-crazy can lead to bad choices. Some girls are just so desperate to meet a guy or have a boyfriend, they’ll do anything.
    • It can also leads to bitterness and jealousy. If other girls have boyfriends, or the boy you like doesn’t like you back, it can make you feel bad about yourself.
    • When the guy doesn’t like you back, it could also be a blow to your self-confidence. It’s not the guy’s fault if he doesn’t notice you or like you back, but you may get it in your mind that there’s something wrong with you.
    • Being boy-crazy can distract you from more important things in life, such as school or friendships.
    • Most importantly, being boy-crazy (or anything-crazy) distances you from God. Unless you’re God-crazy. Which is really the only “crazy” we Christians should be. So, if you want to be be obsessed, pick God. 

    Ladies, are you boy-crazy?

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    T.M. Gaouettehttp://www.tmgaouette.com
    T.M. Gaouette is a freelance writer, ghostwriter, blogger and fiction novelist. She was born in Africa, brought up in London and is now living in New England with her husband and four children. Devoted to Him, Gaouette is dedicated to glorifying God through her stories for teens and young adults. T.M. Gaouette is the author of "The Destiny of Sunshine Ranch" and "Freeing Tanner Rose," Christian novels for teens and young adults. She's currently working on completing her upcoming novel -visit tmgaouette.com for more on her Christian fiction work. Connect with her on www.facebook.com/TMGaouette and https://twitter.com/TMGaouette .

    10 COMMENTS

    1. Definitely not boy-crazy. I actually tend to avoid girls who just want to talk about boys all the time, because that just isn’t my thing, really. I’d rather talk about more meaningful things like ranting about the history test last bock that was so hard. 😉

    2. This is so me… I was actually just praying about how to become closer to God and what is holding me back. And this is it. I am boy crazy and I don’t want to be anymore. But I also feel like part of me only wants to become closer to God because I know when I’m only focusing on God that’s when he is going to bring the right guy into my life. But because of that subconscious thought I automatically lose that and I will never have a guy. Any thoughts or suggestions or advice?

      • First of all believe that God loves you so much he wants you bless you with a god given man. That’s my exact same struggle. It’s like God is your best friend and you don’t want to feel like you keep going to your best friend for just one thing. For me, whenever I start to get distracted with such thoughts I usually pray over the guy that God has for my life (I spend maybe half an hour just praying for him, for patience, for when God will send him my way) and I remind myself of Phillipians 4:19 – “19 And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus”. He knows what on your heart and he shall make it come to pass. Also spend time with God. A lot of it. Because the more in sync you are with God, the more you can lean on him for anything regarding any aspects of your life.

        Also, it helps if you keep yourself preoccupied with things such as friends, family, trying new hobbies, volunteering etc. Think of it as you building yourself up to be the best you, you can be for the guy God has for you. I hope that helps? 🙂

    3. I have been boy crazy for as long as I can remember. I really don’t want to be anymore because it is hurtful to my self esteem (especially because I’m horrible at talking to guys) and makes me a less interesting person to be around. If anyone has anything that has helped them will you let me know? Thanks 🙂

    4. All these steps that you’ve put described the old me to a T. I remember there was not a day that I wouldn’t think about having a bf or hoping I would find a cute guy when out and about and it turned into an obsession which was very bad. Because I didn’t know much of myself, I’d always talk about boys with my friends because I presumed that’s all I could talk about that would make me interesting. TOO many many guys I liked and I’m thankful to God that all of them were nothing more than a crush. Back then, I would just get upset at why they didn’t like me or what I did wrong or if there was something wrong with me. And more than half of them were jerks anyways (So thank you God again!) Glory be to God that I snapped out of it eventually and focused on the one who I should’ve been crazy about in the first place. G.O.D ^_^

    5. So all these steps describe me and so what am I supposed to do? How do I become less boy-crazy? I wanna focus on God but I just can’t help it sometimes. I sometimes make a complete fool of myself when I start liking a guy so what should I do? I surround myself with friends but I still look around for cute boys…. It’s just gotten bad and I wanna change from this bad habit or whatever you wanna call this. Thanks for answering in advance !

      • Hey there! So, I think (and it worked for me) that you need to accept yourself first and accept that only God can change your mind and heart, not you. I had to accept that I am “boy-crazy” and make mistakes, I had to accept I make bad decisions and I put God second, and then, even though I didn’t see how I would get myself out of it I just said to God: “I am sick of this state, I am sick of myself, I want to start a relationship with you, an engagement with you. Here’s the ring (I actually bought myself a ring and I’m wearing it everyday), I am putting it on my finger and the rest is up to You!” On the 4th of August will be a year since I put this ring on my finger and I can tell you a lot of things have changed! I am still single and still “looking for the cute guy in the room” but dealing with myself and my emotions has been a lot better and I always always felt God’s hand firmly in mine saying “I am here, I come first.” So, have courage! He loves you a great deal! You’ll be just fine! Hugs! 🙂

    6. Every single one of these things describes me so much, number 5 less than the others, but still. But… is it weird that I don’t want to NOT be boy crazy? Like I just think boys are really fascinating because they’re so different from us. I always wonder what’s going on in those minds of theirs and they are just so interesting to me. I just love them! Yes, I know to focus on God, but is it really so wrong to be interested in people who are so different?

    7. Maybe it just goes without saying, but I think they missed not just talking about boys all the time, but thinking about them (romantically) all the time. I am so thankful that I’m not boy-crazy! Of course, I have had crushes, but that was just that. I’ve kind of done #6, but that was just walking a certain route to class because I figured out his schedule… However, I’m barely a teen, so there is plenty of time for that to change :(.

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