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6 Ways To Be a Good Friend

Friendships are very important. Like any relationship, they need to be nurtured. Here are six things that you can do to be a good friend to others.

  1. Help out when you can. There’s so much going on in our own lives that sometimes we forget about other people. However, the Bible instructs us to “Share with God’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.” (Romans 12:13.) Take a moment to help friends when they’re in need.
  2. Demonstrate active listening. Sometimes all a friend needs is a listening ear. The next time that she has some exciting news, take a minute to listen to her and share in her excitement. Likewise, if she’s going through some turmoil in her life, take a minute to give her an empathetic ear. You don’t always have to know exactly what to say because just knowing that someone cares enough to listen is often helpful for someone who is hurting. Also, remember that if you ask The Holy Spirit, He will give you the right words to speak.
  3. Get help from adults when necessary. If a friend is involved in destructive behavior or needs more help than you’re equipped to provide, seek help from a trusted adult as quickly as possible. Let your friend know that you plan to get help so that she doesn’t feel betrayed, but don’t let her talk you out of confiding in a trusted adult. Although she may be a little upset at first, eventually she’ll appreciate that you loved him/her enough to get help.
  4. Try not to offend your friends. Remember to demonstrate love in every interaction even if you don’t see eye to eye with one another. It’s possible to agree to disagree. If your friend doesn’t agree with you, be slow to take offense. Instead, pray that God will offer discernment in the situation. You never know what God will reveal to BOTH of you!
  5. Show respect for your friendships. Make sure that you foster a sense of respect and loyalty for your friends. Gossiping about a friend is never cool and neither is telling the secrets that your friends have entrusted to you (unless they’re hurting themselves or others and you’re seeking adult guidance). Once you betray a friend, sometimes its hard to repair the friendship!
  6. Include your friends in your prayers! God ALWAYS knows what’s best for us and putting situations in His hands never fails.

What do you think are the most important qualities in a friend?

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    Posted by amandarocks on April 28, 2012 at 08:08

    trust is the most important thing in a friend

  2. Posted by on November 12, 2011 at 21:31

    Loyalty is a must in friendship 🙂

  3. Posted by on September 3, 2011 at 21:43

    In every class there’s a popular group of people in my school the girls are noelle,greyson,and katana.Noelle and katana are best friends but can be REALLY mean sometime episally noelle,she say alot of bad words,but greyson is the nicest person in the world.There always a perfect best friend for you,you just have to keep an eye out.

  4. Posted by on July 21, 2011 at 12:23

    If you find out what their ‘love’ language is things go so smooth. My friend’s is touch, so I make sure we do lots of hugging! I put my arm around her and stuff to. One of the first things I do in a friendship is figure out what makes them happy in the friendship. It helps make the relationship get stronger and you to grow together. Reading scripture and praying together are good things to.

  5. Posted by on July 14, 2011 at 09:00

    my friend is having a really hard time with herself right now….. she thinks that she’s not a good friend, just because she can’t convert her Hindu friend!!!! she’s an AMZING friend, but im not sure how to tell her that!!!she won’t listen to me!!!!!!!!!! her friend is just stuck in her ways!! can u tell me how i can be a good friend to her and lift her spirit????

    • Posted by Nicole on July 14, 2011 at 22:41

      She doesn’t need to convert her Hindu friend, she needs to respect what she believes in, and accept that. All she can do is pray for her, and ask God to show her His love and His son Jesus.

  6. Posted by on July 13, 2011 at 19:00

    I read this just in time! im about to start high school i think this will save me alot of pain. I think a really important quality is to have trust in ur friend and God

  7. Posted by on July 13, 2011 at 13:59

    That’s really helpful, this is kinda of an eye-opener for me, thanks for the advice, it’s really helped me!! THANK YOU SOOO MUCH!!!

  8. Posted by on July 6, 2011 at 20:56

    Great advice! If only I had learned it when I started high school, that would have saved a bunch of drama from taking up most if my time. But its never too late 🙂

  9. Posted by on July 1, 2011 at 19:53

    I think a good quality is that they do the right thing and they don’t pressure you into doing something that is not pleasing to God.

  10. Posted by on July 1, 2011 at 16:02

    That is really good advice. I think some good qualities is a person who really cares about you, and isn’t just hangin out with you cause they don’t have anything else to do.