Churches are like relationships: You want to commit, but when is it time to call it a day? No one wants to go from boyfriend to boyfriend or from church to church, but sometimes, when a relationship reaches a natural end, it’s time to move on. Here are some signs that it might be time for you to find a new place of worship.
- Your church and your spiritual gift don’t quite match up. If your gift is teaching, but your church has no children’s program, your skills might be better utilized elsewhere.
- You only started going to your church because that cute guy you were crushing on went there. You never really cared for the preaching, but his hair was on point!
- You’ve tried to get involved, but still have very few real connections with the people there. While you shouldn’t constantly look for contentment outside of yourself, if you’ve made a concerted effort to connect and still feel like a fly on the wall, it might be time to look for a more natural fit elsewhere.
- There isn’t an active group your age. It’s awesome to be able to mingle with believers of all ages, but if you’re wanting to attend a Mercy Me concert and all your church has going on socially is the knitting club, it may be time to start a new group, attend a student group elsewhere or leave altogether.
- You’ve tried to correct difficult situations at the church lovingly, only to be shot down and watch non-Christian behavior continue. (Argh! It’s so frustrating to not be heard—especially if you’re a discerner!) If church leadership allows non-Christian behavior to go on, it’s the same as giving it a stamp of approval. Find a church that upholds the same Christian values that you do. (That doesn’t mean being judgmental about differences, but adhering to your personal view of sound doctrine!)
- God is speaking to you about moving on through prayer, scripture and that invisible pull that you need more. (Sometimes, all you get is that still, small voice from within!)
- Your faith is feeling stale and you desire more inspiration in your soul! Obviously, you don’t want to church-hop because you’re missing something from within, but if your faith is starting to wane, don’t ignore that feeling for too long. Another pastor and/or ministry might be able to rekindle the fire within you!
While you don’t want to leave a church with a trail of burned bridges behind you, you also don’t want to stay in the wrong place for too long. Just be sure you’re not changing churches to avoid uncomfortable feelings that God might be using to refine you! God’s Voice speaks to His children. Are you listening?
Keep watch over yourselves and all the flock of which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers of the church of God which he bought with his own blood. (Acts 20:28)