In the midst of the high-tech world, things are constantly changing and close friendships are hard to keep. On social media, I have hundreds of contacts, but I can only think of a few friends in real life that I would really want to call in a time of need.
If you’re like me, you probably have a small number of people that you would really consider your close friends. With people moving, getting married and growing up, friendships aren’t easy to start or to maintain. I’ve come up with a few things that I have learned over the years. Hopefully, these tips will help you create lasting friendships as well!
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)
1. Make an effort. Nothing can replace seeing people in person. Go to the wedding, go to the party or shower, enjoy the movie, make the date for lunch, stop by someone’s apartment. You will be thankful you took the time to do it when it’s over. Friendships are good for you!
2. Stay true to yourself. In college and even in the workforce, everyone is trying to fit in and conform to those around them. Dare to be different. It is impossible to have a real relationship if you are pretending to be something that you aren’t. I guarantee people will love you just the way you are.
3. Don’t expect too much. People are busy. They have their own lives with busy schedules that have little room for additions. Don’t feel rejected if you ask someone to hang out and it doesn’t fit his or her schedule.
4. Be vulnerable. Nobody wants to sit around and talk to a brick wall. If you want to have meaningful relationships, being vulnerable is key. Open your heart. Open your mind. Express yourself.
5. Let go of the past. Whether you like it or not, some of your friends will break your heart. They will make decisions you don’t agree with and friendships may fall apart, but don’t let the outcome of one friendship change your attitude on all friendships. Let go of the past and put yourself out there. In order to have good friends, you have to weed out the bad ones.
6. Admit your mistakes. If something is your fault, fess up! Be mature enough to admit your faults and take responsibility. Ask for forgiveness when it is needed. Others will respect you and love you through your faults when you are brave enough to admit them.
7. Love like God loves. God loved us enough to send His one and only son to die on the cross for us. That’s a love that can’t be put into words. Love others the way He loves you and He will guide your friendships.
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