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    A Gazillion Reasons Why I’m Not Obsessed with Getting Married

    I’ve been planning my wedding since I knew what a wedding was. I am absolutely the annoying girl who turns her birthday into a “birth-week,” so a huge party devoted to me where I get to eat lots of cake, dance like a crazy person and wear a killer dress is totally my jam.

    Thus, the explosion of awesome that is my wedding Pinterest board.

    I’ve got a few ice rinks masquerading as engagement rings on that bad boy, along with eclectic yet classy bridesmaid dresses and wedding pictures to make National Geographic photographers weep.

    Despite all of the evidence to the contrary, I’m actually not obsessed with getting married. Sure, I want a huge party and I want all my friends to get dressed up, and I’d like some nice jewelry to go along with it, but the word on the street is an awesome wedding does not a good marriage make. Really, I should just throw myself a super formal birthday party (or “birth-week”) and be done with it.

    So why am I not overly preoccupied with getting hitched?

    1. Most of my friends aren’t married: Will this change? You bet. However, having a great group of girlfriends who are also riding the singleness wave makes being single a lot easier. Nothing makes you feel more like Chewbacca’s slightly more attractive female sibling than being the only single person in a room full of married people. Not to say you shouldn’t have married friends—I’ve got some great ones—but having a good chunk of single gal pals around makes you feel less like one of the aliens from Star Wars and more like a normal person.
    2. It makes being friends with guys way easier: Guys get super nervous around girls who are so focused on the “M word” that it’s like a predator special on Animal Planet. Want to have great guy friends? Then don’t care if you date them or not. Suddenly you’ll be invited to late-night Mario Kart parties that include lots of pizza and bathroom humor. Delightful.
    3. I know marriage isn’t going to make me happier: Like our buddy the Apostle Paul says, who I fondly refer to as AP, “I’ve learned by now to be quite content whatever my circumstances. I’m just as happy with little as with much, with much as with little. I’ve found the recipe for being happy whether full or hungry, hands full or hands empty.” (Philippians 4:11-12 MSG) Basically, our happiness or our contentment shouldn’t be contingent on our circumstances; it should be based on our relationship with Jesus.
    4. I’m not called to be married, at least right now: How do I know? Because I’m not married or in a serious relationship. In Matthew 6:34 (NIV), we’re told “not to worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” So focus on today. What is God calling me to do today? Work? Volunteer? Study? Meet with a friend? Tomorrow, marriage might be slightly more interesting, but I’ll worry about that tomorrow.

    Ladies, why are YOU not obsessed with being married? What helps you recognize that being single is great?

    Claire Wyatt
    I'm overly obsessed with shoes, dystopian novels and I write a blog called Single Christian Girls.

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