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    A Quick Guide to Staying Strong When People Try to Bring You Down!

    Mean people suck. Often times when we try to do something we’re passionate about- there’s always that one negative person that tries to bring us down. But check out these five productive tips to leave them by the wayside, so you can take control and shine!

    1. Focus on the outcome! When you get stuck in the moment and someone is criticizing you for not doing something right, think of the long-term goal of why you’re doing what you’re trying to do. For instance, mine is working on this website- when I get a comment saying that I’m being “Unchristian” or something negative, I try not to let the comment affect me because my ultimate goal is to inspire people. What’s your goal?

    2. Don’t Quit. Adding on to the last tip: It’s too easy to just throw up your hands and decide to stop doing what you love because someone tries to bring you down. If you quit, you’re only letting the other person get the best of you and you won’t be living up to your fullest potential!

    3. Look at it from their point of view! You might be thinking, “Why would I want to do that when they’re the one who’s wrong?” So often people waste their time criticizing you just because they have excess time on their hands. The reason could be that they don’t understand your point of view, or you aren’t communicating in the most effective way. Looking at it from their perspective gives you insight into how you can better your stance on a particular subject.

    4. Don’t worry about conforming to the crowd. Everyone wants to fit in and be liked. But when someone steps up and speaks out for their beliefs, people are quick to attack and criticize because it’s going against the grain. So don’t be afraid of being the only one, your courage in standing up for what you are passionate about will subconsciously allow others to do the same. You’ll be a new role model!

    5. Have some guts! It takes a fearless attitude to make things happen for yourself- because life can be scary. So don’t worry about the potential negative outcome, because chances are it won’t even happen!

    What do you do that helps you overcome mean spirited people?

    Nicole
    Nicole
    Nicole Weider is a Salem, Oregon native who moved to Los Angeles and quickly found success as a fashion model at the age of 17. Today, Nicole is an active wife, mom, producer, actress and author and has made it her mission to share her personal story, the bright moments and the challenges, with young women around the world.

    26 COMMENTS

    1. Something I do is look at them in the eye and give them a compliment or quote a verse to them and if that doesn’t stop them, I walk away. Thanks for your website, its such a help and a blessing and has actually helped me spiritually. Keep up the good work. God is defiantly using you in more ways than you may know 🙂

    2. Mean people are so difficult to appreciate. They really make it difficult to obey His command to love everyone as your neighbor. But personally I just try to remember if they are miserable enough about themselves to take it out on me, I should be feeling bad for them and praying to God to make his/her life better. Thanks for writing this article…It really struck home with some stuff that’s been going on in my life. You are amazing!

    3. Don’t let them get to you! I’m so sorry that people are mean Nicole. I know what that is like. I’ve been bullied my entire life and when I feel down I pray and I listen to my favorite music! 🙂 It helps me alot. I like to think that when people call me crazy and say hurtful things that Jesus endured SO much more so I am simply following in His footsteps. And isn’t that what it’s all about???

      You are a great role model and PI has helped me SO much! xx

      • thank you so much for saying that! People just want to bring others down either when they are jealous, insecure of themselves, or are intimidated by your passion to go after your dreams and do something big with your life. Don’t listen to the haters!

    4. I love #4 and #5 especially.

      What do you do that helps you overcome mean spirited people?

      2 girls in my gym class are mean, snobby, party-life, rude and disrespectful and don’t give a you-know-what about school- ESPECIALLY PE. Both of them were on my team for volleyball- one was talking on her cellphone (the teacher somehow did not see) and the other one would kick/catch/throw the volleyball when it comes to her. I finally got fed up and said “Hey if you guys don’t want to play then you don’t have to- but we all do- you’re not helping the team.” One of them is like “Please it’s just gym” (the other called me a nasty word and mimicked me) and everytime I would miss the ball or hit it in the wrong direction the 2 girls would say “don’t mess up the team” OVER and OVER.
      I have not had to deal with mean people in many years until now but I did not give attitude back because I am more mature in my faith now.
      So what did I do that helped me overcome mean spirited people?

      I just ignored their comments, laughed, played the game and prayed in my head for them. They are so insecure of themselves that I am not intimidated by them. Whatever comes out of their mouth will only be a knee-jerk reaction to a pricked conscience. I try not to be prideful but I am joyful that the Lord will use me to show these 2 girls forgiveness and love.

    5. how do you deal with people in authority that thinks badly of you? I am on a swim team and ended up with a new coach a few months ago. They fired the woman who used to coach me without giving any reason. Anyways, she had always stood up for me & is the reason I have kept swimming. My new coach is a friend of the man who hired him but he keeps telling me the wrong things to do & other people agree that his practices aren’t helping us improve. It’s really hard for me to deal with being around him. He knows I don’t trust his judgement & I think he is telling the other coaches I don’t work hard, which is not true! I think the worst part is feeling alone & not having the support of any of my coaches. What do I do to feel confident & trust that I know what to do in practice? He makes me feel like I’m stupid & just trying to go against him for some reason. The truth is I know how to train and I don’t want to sacrifice my last season as a swimmer.

    6. I laugh to hide my weeps… that confuses the enemy. >:{D I stand my ground, and say, “Why? Why do you have to push me down? Huh?” or I say something from this website. “You’re sure spending a lot of time making fun of me…. maybe you need something to spice up your life?”
      I also be horribly, srarily nice to the bully. Confusion and kindness are my best weapon… >:{D

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