Advice from Nicole: My Facebook Rules Guide (You Need to Read This!)
Written by Nicole | January 5, 2013
Hi beautiful Project Inspired girls!
Almost every one I know or communicate with is on Facebook. If you’re not, then I applaud you for removing one technological distraction from your life.
If you’re like me, then you use Facebook to interact positively with friends and family, and share the word of God. Truthfully, that’s what excites me the most about Facebook! Not sharing photos of my food (not that there’s anything wrong with that!) or even posting pictures of my outfits (though I have to admit, it’s a lot of fun for me to do, and I like to show you girls fashionably modest clothing options), but sharing His word is the best part of social media for me.
However, there is a lot of inappropriate behavior on social media, and certain things that I really believe are dangerous. Here are my thoughts:
1. NEVER post your home address or phone number. That is an automatic signal for stalkers or thieves to come into your house and steal. Also, you don’t want your personal phone number to be in the hands of any bully who wants to harass you. Truthfully, you shouldn’t even put the school you go to in your “About Me” section. My opinion is that you only put your state, and at the most, your city. Even posting your email address publicly can put you on spam lists, so only share it with trusted sites and friends.
2. Always make sure your photos are completely private, as well as your timeline and personal information. Facebook makes it really easy to think that your settings are on private, but it turns out that your “profile pictures” album is public. Double-check, and have a friend or family member check when they are not logged on as themselves.
3. If you go out of town, my opinion is it’s best NOT to mention it until you come back from your vacation so your house is not susceptible to being robbed. PLEASE make sure to not say how long you will be gone on Facebook. Don’t say, “I can’t wait to go NYC in January for three weeks, we leave on the 15!” That alerts potential thieves that you and your family won’t be home.
4. Please don’t take or send provocative photos of yourself ANYWHERE–not on your cell phone, to a friend or boyfriend, or just for yourself to keep. I recently read a statistic that said 95 percent of all “sexy” pictures that people take of themselves end up in the wrong hands, and then they are are humiliated and regret taking them. This also sets yourself up to get bullied. Please do yourself a favor and never take compromising photos of yourself.
5. Don’t use status updates to hurt or make someone mad, because ultimately you are just hurting yourself. In addition, it is not classy.
6. Don’t ever use profanity online. It comes across even harsher than saying it in real life, and it gives people the wrong message about you. Point blank period.
7. Take the time to make someone’s day. I like to comment on photos of people I don’t usually talk to and say something nice to them. It’s amazing how a simple “You look pretty” can really brighten someone’s day!
8. Kindness is contagious! If you share a Godly message or an inspiring quote on your wall, often people will click “share” and post it on their wall too, so all of their friends can see it! That way you are inspiring a whole different audience, just from your simple picture.
9. If you or someone you know is being bullied, you need to report the person. Write exactly what they are saying to you in an email and send to the Facebook moderator. In addition, if you know them and they go to your school, print out the harsh words they are saying to you and show your parents, as well as the principal of your school. Cyber bullying is dangerous and a real threat to your emotional esteem. If their bullying is life-threatening, you can even print it out and show it to your local police so they are aware of who is harassing you.
10. Lastly and most importantly, share your love for God on Facebook! It’s so inspiring and rewarding to do so. It really makes people think about their own relationship with God, and that’s a great thing! You also could be witnessing to someone over the Internet you don’t even know!
God bless you girls, and I hope you learned something! Think about what you could do to be safer on Facebook and let me know in the comments! I love you!