It’s important that you surround yourself with positive people! So, how do you know if your friends are pulling you up or bringing you down? Take this “yes/no” quiz to find out!
- When you’re with your friends, do you feel comfortable expressing your individuality?
- Do your friends talk about positive things and avoid gossiping about others?
- Do your friends compliment you for things that you do well?
- Are your friends supportive when you’re going through hard times?
- Do you find that your friends are honest without being overly critical?
- Can you confide in your friends without worrying that everyone in school will know your secrets the next day?
- Can you have fun with your friends without fearing that you might end up getting into trouble?
- Do your friends encourage you to do what’s right, even when it’s hard?
- Do your friends get excited about things that are important to you?
- Do your friends love God and respect your relationship with Him?
Okay, let’s count up your “yes” responses to see if your friends are pulling you up or bringing you down.
8-10 “yes” responses means:
You have a great circle of friends! It seems that you’re helping one another succeed in life. Continue to surround yourself with positive people!
5-7 “yes” responses means:
Sometimes you’re in great company, but there may be a frenemy hiding in the bunch. Maybe you should take a moment to assess your true friends. If a “friend” is bringing you down, you might want to consider removing that toxic relationship from your friendship circle.
4 or Less “yes” responses means:
Your responses seem to reflect that your “friends” are bringing you down, so you may want to re-evaluate them The people you choose to surround yourself with should be positive people who build you up! If they’re not doing that, then it’s probably a toxic situation.
Remember, this is just for fun and isn’t a scientific poll. Rely on The Holy Spirit for all things–He’ll let you know if you need to make better choices when it comes to friends. If it feels wrong, it probably is!
All of your relationships should be healthy ones. If you find that a friendship is negatively affecting you in any way, then it’s time to take a moment to reassess the friendship. Building Healthier Relationships Part 1: Identifying Toxic Relationships offers five ways to identify toxic relationships and Building Healthier Relationships Part 2: Five Steps to Removing Toxic Relationships shares way to remove those unhealthy relationships from your life. Remember, YOU are God’s daughter, and you deserve healthy and happy friendships.
So, are YOUR friends pulling you up or bringing you down?