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Ask Aysha: “I Told My Crush I Like Him and Now It’s Awkward. What Should I Do?”

My best friend convinced me to tell my crush that I like him, and now it’s awkward between us. What should I do if he doesn’t like me back?

It can be tough when you get up enough nerve to tell a boy that you like him and he doesn’t respond the way you hoped he would. Now things are awkward and you don’t know what to do. Here are a few tips that might help:

  • Talk about it. Pull your crush to the side and have a conversation with him about what’s bothering you. Share with him that you’ve been feeling a little awkward since you told him how you felt and that you’d like to clear the air. Let him know there’s no pressure and that you’d like to at least be friends.  
  • Remain confident. Remember that relationships don’t define you! Even though things didn’t work out with this guy the way you’d hoped, you’re still an AMAZING person. God doesn’t make any mistakes and He created you with awesome gifts and talents to accomplish the purpose He specifically has in mind for YOU. Just because a guy just wants to be friends doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you; it means the relationship isn’t meant to be. Don’t lose your cool. Remind yourself of how special you are and never lose sight of the fact that eventually, the right boy and the right relationship will happen.
  • Focus on other things. You might be a little bummed about the situation, and that’s okay. But instead of letting yourself become overly depressed, be sure to focus on other things. Try some new activities, read a book, check out a movie that sounds cool, or even plan a girls’ night with some friends. Whatever you do, don’t just sit around reminiscing about what happened.
  • Pray about it. Remember to pray about the situation. God will strengthen you so that even if it’s a little awkward for awhile, you’ll be able to withstand it.

Keep in mind that every guy you like may not like you back. And that’s okay! It may be a little awkward and you might even be a little sad for awhile, but never forget your self-worth! Psalms 139:14 says that you are “fearlessly and wonderfully made,” which makes you a gem. Don’t worry: The guy God has for you will be absolutely wonderful and better than you’ve ever dreamed!

Girls, have you ever been in this position? What did you do?

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  1. Artsy_Shy_Girl14

    Posted by Artsy_Shy_Girl14 on April 17, 2016 at 18:43

    I just read this and I can’t really do what your suggesting I do in your advice column thingy the guy I like is practically one of my best friends we used to live in the same city we both went through some things nobody should ever have to go through I wound up dealing with it in a not so good way I started hurting myself; physically. A couple months later my crush lost his memory all of it people and places, not education though. My crush also found out he used to hurt himself, he was heartbroken that he had resorted to that and when he found out that I went through that he started helping me I told him why I was hurting myself and he was very shocked to hear what had happened to me he was furious, one day I found out I had to move away and I was heartbroken that I’d have to leave him I didn’t know if I could live without him by my side the night before I moved my youth group through me a party my friends tod me that i should tell him how I feel towards him they told me I’d regret it soooo I was thinking and I told him and he had practically no comment I guess he was too surprised to talk my friends thinking I had gotten a reply pulled me away and asked me what he said I told them I didn’t get a reply that night I opened up to my friends and family that I had been self harming (the only person who knew before I told everyone else was my crush) and told them what happened to me everyone was shocked, angry, upset, and sad to because of what had happened to me I have a mental illness two actually I suffer from depression and anxiety I’m traumatized because of what happened to me and I know I’ll never be the same (sorry that got all sad and mopy but… yeah) it’s been a year since I’ve moved and told my crush/best friend that I like him. I was thinking about sending him a letter and writing down how I feel (I live 600 miles away from them) because I knew if I called or texted him I’d chicken out I really don’t know what to do guys I could really use some advice on what I should do… and I know ALOT of girls like boys because they’re “cute” or “popular” but I like him because even though there are sooo many things wrong with me and after telling him everything that happened he never thought or treated me any different and I love the fact that he cares about me like that and how he always gets scripture in when he talks to me how sweet, kind, and honest he is him being cute is just a bonus! But I really really like him so please help me figure out what to do! Please!

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by babydoll241 on June 26, 2014 at 07:57

    But when it comes to talking to me that’s where the problem starts everything was fine with me and him instill I told him how I felt in a letter I juss wish things wasn’t so awkward between me and him I juss wish things will go back to the way it used to be before I told him how I felt the in that letter I wrote him sorry of I didn’t use my re name in the long comment if you would like to knowy real name I will gladly be more than happy to tell you what it is I really need some advice here so can you please really help me out on what I can do and how I can tell him in person and face to face on how I feel bout him he And how to make him less nervous and more talking to me and also how to get things less awkward between me and him I would really really appreciated if you guys would give me some advice I am an adult and so his he

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by babydoll241 on June 26, 2014 at 07:43

    I am in a similar situation I really really like this guy a lot he is a lot lot years older then me I had a mutual friend of me and his ask him who he liked n what was her name so she asked him who he liked and he told her I like Katie so she told me he who he liked and what was her name and I said wait a minute my name is Katie then she said well I guess it’s you he likes then well I wrote him a letter telling him how I felt and that I really want to be more then friends with you so I gave him me and my crush are volunteers at a nursing home me and him used hang out and talk all the time and now since I wrote him a letter telling him how I felt things had changes me and him don’t hang out like we used to or do we talk like we used to when me and him are in the same room he’ll walk in and out of that room for noreason what’s so ever he makes me so nervous walking in and out of the room I am at he gets nervous around me to where he start fixing his clothes his hair or play with something in front of him he can’t even talk to me he is normal and talijng around other girls

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by THQEHope on November 8, 2013 at 13:16

    I once liked a guy and told him. But not in the normal way. I dropped a letter in his locker. Word of advice don’t ever do that. Ever. But anyway. He didn’t like me back. He told his friends and they laughed about it and word got around and I was made fun of.
    Two things happened because I chose to tell this guy what I felt.
    1. I was hurt. I spent months afterward brooding, wishing and writing poem after poem and spending hours pouring out my thoughts into my journal.
    2. I blamed him for everything. I got mad and have held a grudge against him to this day.
    I still see him around a lot. We have both changed so much in the past four years. We now attend the same church so after avoiding each other for so long we pretend that nothing is wrong but there is definitely still a rift between us.
    My advice to anyone who is reading this who is going through the sameish situation: don’t let the situation go unresolved. Fix it. Talk to the guy. And don’t let his reaction affect you to the point where it takes up all your time. It is important through this whole predicament to stay true to yourself and move on and, if possible, still continue to be friends with your crush. You will never get over it but you can always move on

  5. hannahbethany16

    Posted by hannahbethany16 on October 13, 2013 at 19:28

    wow thanks for this!!(: this made my night like a lot better for me understanding what’s happening!! I always look for stuff like this on here *pertaining kind of to this* but never been able to find exactly what I’m going through til just now!!(:

  6. emma4623

    Posted by emma4623 on February 19, 2013 at 16:20

    I have a crush on one of my close friends whose a boy, and I told him that, we just agreed to keep it to ourselves, remain friends, an dto not let it be aqward! we are still friends and it isnt aqward anymore! =D

  7. ProudGFIC17

    Posted by ProudGFIC17 on February 17, 2013 at 18:07

    Thank you for this…funny because I’ve been struggling with something similar recently as this and another posting (blog?) on her really helped me get my eyes straight and upwards where they need to be again. Thank you so much! God Bless You And Keep You! <3

  8. bubbletealuver

    Posted by bubbletealuver on February 7, 2013 at 11:21

    I’ve done this, and it’s definitely awkward! After about a year of awkwardness, I finally wrote a letter to the guy explaining why I liked him and how I’d like things to be normal between us again. He wrote back a really positive response, and we were friends again!

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by on February 7, 2013 at 11:31

      I wish I had this advice a couple yrs ago. i told a guy i liked him and it was so bad. Not only was it awkward, but it was bad. He was too young to understand feelings or whatever so every time i came across him he would get all the other boys to laugh at me. It was quite awful and i wish i hadn’t let it get to me so much, but it hurt a lot. it totally solved my liking him problem though.

  9. Livelikeurdying

    Posted by Livelikeurdying on February 5, 2013 at 13:37

    To be honest, this is probably the BEST advice about a crush. Although I don’t have one at the moment. But I will always remember this 🙂

  10. Project Inspired

    Posted by stephyB on February 5, 2013 at 11:17

    I don’t mean to be picky, but you are mis-quoting scripture. Psalm 139:14 says you are “Fearfully and wonderfully made”

  11. Project Inspired

    Posted by jacky on January 31, 2013 at 18:39

    Thank you so much for your help it really heled:)