Ask Aysha: “I Told My Crush I Like Him and Now It’s Awkward. What Should I Do?”
Written by Aysha Ives | January 31, 2013
My best friend convinced me to tell my crush that I like him, and now it’s awkward between us. What should I do if he doesn’t like me back?
It can be tough when you get up enough nerve to tell a boy that you like him and he doesn’t respond the way you hoped he would. Now things are awkward and you don’t know what to do. Here are a few tips that might help:
- Talk about it. Pull your crush to the side and have a conversation with him about what’s bothering you. Share with him that you’ve been feeling a little awkward since you told him how you felt and that you’d like to clear the air. Let him know there’s no pressure and that you’d like to at least be friends.
- Remain confident. Remember that relationships don’t define you! Even though things didn’t work out with this guy the way you’d hoped, you’re still an AMAZING person. God doesn’t make any mistakes and He created you with awesome gifts and talents to accomplish the purpose He specifically has in mind for YOU. Just because a guy just wants to be friends doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you; it means the relationship isn’t meant to be. Don’t lose your cool. Remind yourself of how special you are and never lose sight of the fact that eventually, the right boy and the right relationship will happen.
- Focus on other things. You might be a little bummed about the situation, and that’s okay. But instead of letting yourself become overly depressed, be sure to focus on other things. Try some new activities, read a book, check out a movie that sounds cool, or even plan a girls’ night with some friends. Whatever you do, don’t just sit around reminiscing about what happened.
- Pray about it. Remember to pray about the situation. God will strengthen you so that even if it’s a little awkward for awhile, you’ll be able to withstand it.
Keep in mind that every guy you like may not like you back. And that’s okay! It may be a little awkward and you might even be a little sad for awhile, but never forget your self-worth! Psalms 139:14 says that you are “fearlessly and wonderfully made,” which makes you a gem. Don’t worry: The guy God has for you will be absolutely wonderful and better than you’ve ever dreamed!
Girls, have you ever been in this position? What did you do?
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