Ask Aysha: “What Should I Do If My Parents or Friends Don’t Believe in God?”

    What should I do if my parents or my friends don’t believe in God?

    This is a tough question. As a Christian, you know how AWESOME God’s love is and you want your family and friends to experience it the same way you do. It can be heartbreaking when those you care about turn their backs on Him. From experience, I can tell you that only God Himself can soften the hearts of your loved ones. All you can do is continue to share His love with your family and friends, and be an intercessor in prayer for them. Here are some tips to help you along the way:

    • Remember that anyone can be redeemed. One of the great things about Jesus is that no matter what we do, God will forgive us if we repent. This means that your family and friends, if they repent, can achieve salvation. Never give up on people who seem to be so far outside of God’s will. Continue to pray for them, encourage them and speak life into their situations.
    • There’s POWER in prayer. Prayer is very powerful. Jesus Himself is at the right hand of the Father, interceding on our behalf. Isn’t that amazing? As we pray, Jesus is also praying on our behalf. So never underestimate the power of prayer! Even when it looks like nothing is happening, be encouraged knowing something definitely is happening in the spiritual realm. Keep praying for your family and friends with the knowledge that at some point, there will be a shifting in their lives.
    • Show love no matter what! Sometimes people who don’t know Christ yet can be a little frustrating to be around. Keep in mind that loving others is a command from God. Although it may seem hard to be kind to people who are mean to you, who do things that are downright silly, or who deny the very God you love so much, always remember that you are light. God uses YOU to help Him demonstrate His love to other people. It’s easy to fully love other Christians who are kind to you, but you have to love non-Christians too. God may be trying to work in their lives through you!
    • Be an example. People see what you do more than they hear what you say. Preaching at people may just run them further away from God. Instead, show them how great it is to serve our magnificent Lord. When they see you living a Godly lifestyle and watch how God blesses you, they’ll also want to know the God you serve.
    • Use your words carefully. Sometimes it’s easy to criticize others for not living a Godly lifestyle. Although it’s important to hold people accountable when necessary, we should also remember to speak life into others. Use your words to encourage and edify more often than you use them to criticize. Stay humble and nonjudgmental. We were all lost at one point in our lives and we all mess up sometimes. Keep this in mind when you interact with others. Your goal is to win them to Christ, and offending them often defeats that purpose.

    An offended friend is harder to win back than a fortified city. Arguments separate friends like a gate locked with bars (Proverbs: 18:19 NLT).

    • Keep your faith and peace. God is faithful and He’ll answer your prayers. Remind yourself of this when things seem particularly tough in your relationships with family and friends. When you cling to this knowledge, you can experience peace regardless of what it looks like now.

    Have you ever been in this situation before? Do you have any other tips or suggestions?

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    Aysha Ives
    Aysha Ives loves God with her whole heart and has a desire to help hurting people. With a Masters Degree in Psychology, she combines her education and experience with her love for God to help people live whole and fulfilled lives. Aysha is an Author, Mental Health Provider, Youth Church Teacher, and the mother of one gifted little boy whom she absolutely adores. Aysha is honored to be able to share her love of God with Project Inspired readers. Aysha is also the author of God Cares About Your Stuff: How To Believe For Tomorrow When Things Look Utterly, Completely, And Totally Impossible Today, released February 2013- Available at Amazon.


    1. I have members in my family who have been raised in church with rules and doing “good works” makes you a good person, and just deeply praying that one day they would recieve salvation and let Christ in their hearts. I’ve learned from my brothers and sisters in Christ, that what we say can’t change their hearts only God can!

    2. Thanks for this article it helps. My sister was a Christian then just became atheist all of a sudden. I try to pray for her every night but I don’t know what to do. She thinks Christians are judgemental, and she doesn’t like me to talk about religion because she says I’m shoving my beliefs down her throat. Is there anything else I could do?

      • I’m sorry that this has happened. Try to remember that God has a plan, and his grace and understanding is being poured all over your sister, right now. By praying for her, you are doing so much. I know it is hard to have her turn away, but she has time to return. I will pray for you both. Also, I am Catholic and one cool thing about that is that you can ask Saints to pray for her, too. It isn’t praying TO them, or worshiping them, but asking them to always pray along with us (it is like asking a friend to pray for her, but the saints are in heaven with god). Saint Monica is a Woman who always prayed for her son who turned away from god. Eventually he came back to god through her prayers. Whether you do that or not, God still loves her and I’ll be praying!

    3. My dad has a job and it wants him to move to another state far away. I am a freshmen in high school and the last thing I want to do is move to a new school. He said he could wait 4 years until after I graduate to finish high school. I don’t want to hold him back and what if going to Texas is God’s plan for me please help.

      • I would say, be a blessing to your dad. This is obviously really hard for him, and he’s choosing you and what you want over what he wants. Honor him in that and choose to move to Texas. I think you will see that Texas is an amazing state (some bias here) and that your dad will be impressed with your maturity. You’ll be a sophomore next year, and it really won’t be all that bad to move to a new school. God will be with you. 🙂

    4. Also, I would advise christian girls out there to make relationships with girls of the same faith. You don’t have to leave your other friends, but having someone there who can pray for you and understand what you are going through is to be treasured. This is what I have done, since most of my school friends are not christian :(. By making these friends, I have been so blessed.

      • AllForTheKing,
        Pray about it. Pray until He gives you an answer. If God’s path is steering you towards Texas, you’ll know! God will not forsake us!(: I hope that helped! It’s all I can really think to try that would leave the choice up to the one who’s opinion matters more than anyone else’s.(:

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