“How do you know when it’s time to end a close friendship?”
Ending a friendship can be a very difficult thing to do. Whether you’ve been friends for just a few weeks or for many years, it’s hard to make that decision. So if it feels bad, how do you know it’s the right thing to do? Here are some questions to ask yourself:
- Is your friendship distracting you from God? God always wants to have first place in our lives. If a friend is tempting you to do ungodly things on a regular basis, perhaps it’s time to put some distance between you and your friend. 1 Corinthians 15:33 says this: “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” Don’t constantly put yourself in a position to be influenced by a friend who doesn’t share your morals or lifestyle.
- Is your friendship toxic? Do you find that your friend is constantly putting you down or seems to be more of a frenemy than a true friend? You deserve better than that! God requires us to love everyone, but that doesn’t mean you have to put up with people mistreating you. Sometimes it’s better to love people from a distance.
- Do you find that your friendship drains you? Sometimes people require a lot of emotional support when they’re going through life’s challenges. And that’s okay! Good friends are there to support one another during tough times. However, if you find that a friend always expects your support but is unwilling to reciprocate when you need her, then maybe you should take some time to reevaluate the friendship. Likewise, if you ALWAYS feel drained after a conversation with a friend, perhaps you should try spending time with more positive people. This doesn’t mean that you can’t be there for your friend, but you have to take time to regenerate and distance can help.
- Have you grown apart? I’ve learned that not all relationships are meant to last forever. Sometimes friendships are just for a season; your paths intersected because one or both of you needed to learn something from the other during that season in your life. You may find you grow apart from friends as you grow higher in the spirit. When your peers don’t understand spiritual things, they may withdraw from you or try to stunt your growth. Don’t allow that! Remember, it’s okay to love people from a distance.
If you’re asking this question, then it probably means you already know something is amiss in this friendship. Being a Christian doesn’t mean that you have to stay in unhealthy or unproductive relationships. Seek God about what you should do. For more help, try reading this article about how to appropriately end toxic relationships.
What do you girls think? When is it time to end a friendship? Have you ever had to end one? How did the situation turn out?