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When Should You End a Friendship?

“How do you know when it’s time to end a close friendship?”

Ending a friendship can be a very difficult thing to do. Whether you’ve been friends for just a few weeks or for many years, it’s hard to make that decision. So if it feels bad, how do you know it’s the right thing to do? Here are some questions to ask yourself:

  • Is your friendship distracting you from God?  God always wants to have first place in our lives. If a friend is tempting you to do ungodly things on a regular basis, perhaps it’s time to put some distance between you and your friend. 1 Corinthians 15:33 says this: “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” Don’t constantly put yourself in a position to be influenced by a friend who doesn’t share your morals or lifestyle.
  • Is your friendship toxic? Do you find that your friend is constantly putting you down or seems to be more of a frenemy than a true friend? You deserve better than that! God requires us to love everyone, but that doesn’t mean you have to put up with people mistreating you. Sometimes it’s better to love people from a distance.
  • Do you find that your friendship drains you? Sometimes people require a lot of emotional support when they’re going through life’s challenges. And that’s okay! Good friends are there to support one another during tough times. However, if you find that a friend always expects your support but is unwilling to reciprocate when you need her, then maybe you should take some time to reevaluate the friendship. Likewise, if you ALWAYS feel drained after a conversation with a friend, perhaps you should try spending time with more positive people. This doesn’t mean that you can’t be there for your friend, but you have to take time to regenerate and distance can help.
  • Have you grown apart? I’ve learned that not all relationships are meant to last forever. Sometimes friendships are just for a season; your paths intersected because one or both of you needed to learn something from the other during that season in your life. You may find you grow apart from friends as you grow higher in the spirit. When your peers don’t understand spiritual things, they may withdraw from you or try to stunt your growth. Don’t allow that! Remember, it’s okay to love people from a distance.

If you’re asking this question, then it probably means you already know something is amiss in this friendship. Being a Christian doesn’t mean that you have to stay in unhealthy or unproductive relationships. Seek God about what you should do. For more help, try reading this article about how to appropriately end toxic relationships.

What do you girls think? When is it time to end a friendship? Have you ever had to end one? How did the situation turn out?

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13 Comments

  1. AJEatsGlitter

    Posted by AJEatsGlitter on January 28, 2017 at 16:08

    My best friend of 6 years and I are going through a very rough time and I feel it may be time to end the friendship. She is constantly degrading my problems because I’m skinny, gossiping about me and then lying about it, and cussing when I’ve asked her to stop. I’ve prayed and confronted her and she denies it all. What would you do?

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by ShepherdL7449 on December 5, 2016 at 17:31

    Lately my friend has been getting very rude, how do I encourage her to be kind?

  3. SuperGirl33

    Posted by SuperGirl33 on December 5, 2016 at 07:31

    So helpful ☺

  4. coastercopper

    Posted by coastercopper on May 25, 2013 at 18:03

    This is great advice. When I was younger, a girl ended our friendship because she didn’t “understand” me. She couldn’t “read” me as well as she could her other friends. I have autism and struggle to express myself, and that stung pretty badly. Don’t end a friendship because you just don’t “get” your friend. spend time with her and get to know her better. It’ll most likely end up strengthening your friendship!

  5. caramel_99

    Posted by caramel_99 on May 13, 2013 at 08:44

    Thank you soooooooooooo much!!! Reading this article made my day! 1. because I really needed this advice and 2. because it surprised me that my question was actually answered! Thank you so much for the advice! <3 <3 <3 ~ God Bless You!!!

  6. chocolaterobin

    Posted by chocolaterobin on May 12, 2013 at 13:47

    I’m in a toxic relationship with a friend right now. We’ve been good friends for years but this year she turned on me. She never talks to me anymore and she now hates me. Praying that things will be fixed and if not, then it’s time to let go.

  7. worship

    Posted by worship on May 11, 2013 at 10:33

    What a God-send! Thanks for putting this article up!

  8. HisPrincess56

    Posted by HisPrincess56 on May 10, 2013 at 18:08

    I was in a terrible friendship for way to long than I should have been. She’s a really mean person, but she can make you feel like you are really special when she needs you for something…then she ditches you. And she would just say little comments that would make you feel bad about yourself, because she’s so insecure. She was mean to others and me while I was in the friendship, I don’t know why it took me so long to realize it, and I feel stupid for it.

  9. Project Inspired

    Posted by Beca on May 10, 2013 at 15:40

    I want to end a friendship with my “bestfriend”. I feel like she only uses me as a counselor, and drains me all the time. She seems more like a frenemy to me and doesn’t appreciate what I do most of the time. She thinks all eyes are on her, that she has it the worst. How do I end it? It looks like it’s falling apart anyways, and I think she knows that too.

  10. Emi

    Posted by Emi on May 10, 2013 at 12:19

    I had to end a friendship before, but I’m still not sure I made the right decision or ended it the right way. It was especially hard because she was one of my only two friends. It sucks, ending friendships. Friendships are wonderful things to have in your life and for me it’s a rare thing…. How come they do a complete 360 and instead of making you happy instead they can make you miserable? Couldn’t we talk with our friends and tell them how we feel? Tell them you don’t want to end your relationship with them? =/

  11. PumpkinGirl

    Posted by PumpkinGirl on May 9, 2013 at 17:45

    I am soooo in a HUGE toxic friendship…. :-/

  12. MissMeggles

    Posted by MissMeggles on May 9, 2013 at 15:33

    This is great advice…definitely something I’ve been needing to hear. Recently I’ve realized that my best friend of 8 years is extremely emotionally manipulative and hard to be around. She’s great to be around when she’s happy, but she reacts so harshly to things she doesn’t like it’s scary and just overemotional. She accuses me of not caring enough, when all I do is care. I never give her anything but love, always supporting her, and I can always expect some criticism or negative reaction from her, be it when I get a better grade than her or something or she doesn’t like what I’m wearing. she never congratulates me. I don’t share the good things in my life with her, Part of me thinks she needs me to calm her, but, at the same time, if she really cared she would show it. I know I’m going to have to end it at some point, and I think it will be soon, thanks to this article. I will be praying that God gives me guidance through this time. Thank you for reading.

    God bless,
    M

  13. god_girl_15

    Posted by god_girl_15 on May 9, 2013 at 13:15

    This is such good advice! I have had to end a friendship before, and I won’t say that it was easy. I takes lots of prayer, time, and energy to decide if it is right for you.