Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
This week in the Middle School “Girl Talk” forum, a preteen asked about what age it’s okay to wear heels. Check out the full post here.
With society pushing young people to dress older and immodestly in keeping with the trends of the day, it can be hard for a girl trying to grow into a teenager and wanting to fit in with the “in” crowd. Of course, there are times and places for high heels, but where, when and on what occasions? Is it odd to wear high heels outside of middle school dances or graduation? Should you only wear them to weddings, dances and special occasions? This week, I will answer this lighthearted and fun question for you preteens out there!
If you’re under the age of 12, I’d say it’s probably best to wait to wear high heels because you’re still growing. High heels are not only mature-looking, but can even be dangerous to walk in. It’s different if you’re wearing them for fun or dress-up, or you’re wearing an appropriate wedge for a special occasion such as a wedding—but outside of this, it probably isn’t a good idea.
The design of the shoe definitely makes a difference. If you’re going to a special birthday or event and want a small heel, there are preteen shoes with an age-appropriate height in the heel. Obviously, stilettos (very high heels) would look a little mature and probably too immodest on a younger girl, but when you reach your teenage years and you begin to go to proms, dances and other fancy occasions, it will most likely be appropriate then.
Here’s an example (in two colors!) of age-appropriate heels for a preteen:
When I was a little girl, I loved dressing up in heels, and many little girls love putting on makeup, wearing pretty dresses and trying on new shoes—there’s nothing wrong with that—but the question here is more about wearing high heels on a regular basis. I would say if you’re in your teen years and your parents or guardians approve, they will most likely observe what looks best for your age. It never hurts to ask, and remember, you don’t have to be like everyone else to look and feel beautiful! I hope that helps!
PI Girls, what do YOU think? What age is best to start wearing high heels?