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    Choose Your Friends Wisely: Part I

    Our Lord has a specific plan for each of our lives. We are His masterpiece, created anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things that He planned for us long ago. We are citizens of heaven here on earth as foreigners for just a short season to fulfill God’s will and purpose.

    On our journey, we will meet many people who will impact our lives. Those we choose to call our “friends” are the ones who will probably have the most influence on us. They can help us fulfill our calling or serve as weights that will slow us down. Some will be a gift from God, and others will be tools in the hands of the enemy. That is why we must learn to choose our closest friends wisely. (Jeremiah 29:11, Ephesians 2:10, Philippians 3:20, Colossians 4:1-3, Ephesians 2:19)

    “Bad company corrupts good character.” 1 Corinthians 15:33

    I remember when I was a young teen, my mother would try to warn me about hanging out with the wrong crowd. She always finished her lecture by saying to me, “Lisa, birds of a feather flock together.” Of course I had that teen know-it-all attitude, and I would respond to her, “Mom, just because they do those things, or act like that, doesn’t mean I do or that I will.”

    I was so naïve. The more I hung out with them, the more I changed for the worse. I started to compromise everything good my parents had taught me. I listened to the advice of my friends more than I would listen to my mom who loved me with all of her heart and only wanted the best for me. She was right—I did start becoming part of their flock by looking, talking, and acting just like them.

    She was trying to teach me to choose my friends wisely because she knew that if I hung out with people that did bad things, I could follow their influence and get in trouble. She wanted me to hang out with people who were doing positive things with their lives because she knew that if I followed their example, I too would reap the rewards of doing good. King David knew this also, and gave his sons the same advice. Listen to what he tells his sons…

    “Oh, the joy of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers.” Psalm 1:1

    “I don’t spend time with liars or go along with hypocrites. I hate the gatherings of those who do evil, and I refuse to join in with the wicked.” Psalm 26:45

    His advice stuck with son King Solomon too. Listen to what he says…

    “Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble. Trouble chases sinners, while blessings reward the righteous.” Proverbs 13:20-21

    “Don’t do as the wicked do; and don’t follow the path of evildoers. Don’t even think about it; don’t go that way. Turn away and keep moving.” Proverbs 4:14-15

    Written by Trophy of Grace for weusedtobu.com.

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    1. Thank you so much Nicole for all these articles, I’m really starting to think about my choice of friends,though they’re not the worst people out there I’m sure I could to better. Again, thank you so much!

    2. Thank you for posting. 😀 I have always stayed true to god, and chosen my closet friends wisely. Me and my two best friends ever are Christians and we love talking about god and how he has impacted our lives.

    3. Wow… I haven’t really thought about that too much. I hang out with a lot of lesbians, bi-sexuals, and gay people. I USED TO date girls (I am a girl)… I now know that it is not right, and what the Bible says about it. While I no longer date girls, I still find myself having crushes on them… Probably because the majority of my female friends have same sex partners. I probably shouldn’t hang out with them as much as I do. They tell me that God made me that way, when I know that is not true. They confuse me, and sometimes I go back to my old ways when I am around them. Thanks for the article! I found it very helpful! God bless. <3

    4. I really appreciate this because I’m in the middle of two groups. One is prejudgemental, proud, boastful, and full of gossip and the other one sometimes gossips, but are occasionally partiers. And both of them are not Christian. In group 1 I have one friend who isn’t like that. I have a really godly friend in another class and I pray she is in my class next year (thankfully today is the last day of school:) But besides those groups my true friends are guys and so I hang around them when they are availible but then I was on my own. so next year I’m only going to have 1 or 2 friends in my “group” and I want them both to be antigossip.

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