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College Beat: How to Stay True to Your Faith Even When Your Friends Are Not
Written by Christi Given | October 12, 2014
Recently, a lot of PI Girls have been asking how they can be set apart and true to their faith even when their friends are not being true to their beliefs. This is a hard situation, and definitely peer pressure and living against the pull of the current is a challenge, but it is possible. Also, this doesn’t just pertain to college—this can happen at any age, even as an adult or younger, even in middle school. Stay true to your convictions and don’t give in to temptation. Keep yourself prayed up as well as your friends.
You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men. (Matthew 5:13)
One thing we need to remember is that we are called to be salt and light (Matthew 5:13-16). Why salt, you might ask? Salt is supposed to be sprinkled lightly on a meal, to not only increase flavor but also can increase or stimulate thirst. We are to be sprinkling the Gospel and the fruits of the Spirit in the form of our lifestyle and how we represent Christ (Galatians 5:22-23). As we share the Word of God, it increases and causes a THIRST for the living water, which is Jesus and the living, active Holy Word of God.
The second thing we are called to be is light. Matthew 5:16 says, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”
You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lamp stand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. (Matthew 5:14)
My question for you is—if you are in college and finding yourself being the only one to want to be set apart, pure, or just a leader in your group of friends and are struggling, just remember WHY you are chosen to be Holy before God.
Why Should I Go Against the Grain of Culture, Peer Pressure or the World?
1. As a child of God, you are set apart and to be holy in your lifestyle: 1 Peter 2:9 in the Bible says, “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His wonderful light.”
2. We are called to not copy the world: We are to be in the world, but not of it. The Bible says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:2)
3. If your friends are going in the opposite direction of faith, you can be light: Sometimes people change, and friends change in life at times, but you can be encouraged! God may have you be the light or leader in your friends’ lives. Granted, it’s very difficult to do this alone; for example, if you are the only Christian or believer in your group of friends, this can be dangerous at times because typically you are who are hang around with. No guarantee, but it’s more than likely that if your friends drift from their faith, doubt could creep in or temptation possibly could start to pull you to their side. You need to pray and wear the full armor of God (Ephesians 6).
4. Try and meet a godly friend in Christian club and pray for a faithful friend: Try and stick together with at least one believer because in college, you will need the encouragement, the prayer and the sharpening of your faith. You both can help each other out when one gets discouraged or falls down. If you find yourself surrounded by tons of unbelievers, this is a challenge and will prove to be difficult. Please pray God sends you a godly friend because it is hard to stand alone.
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. (Ecclesiastes 4:9)
In college, there are so many life changes and pressures—especially if you live in a dorm, you have a lot of adjusting to do. If your roommie isn’t a believer, the best thing you can do is be loving, a good listener and shine your light for the Lord. Make sure to stand your ground when friends or other people try and tempt you to go along with the crowd. Also, make sure you guard your heart and spirit for the warnings the Lord gives you. Don’t ignore the Lord’s voice—He will show you the way. Read the Word and ask God to speak to you and guide you.
My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me… (John 10:27)
PI Girls, I am so praying for you and your friends. I pray you stay plugged in and planted in God’s Word and truth so you may flourish and produce GOOD fruit (John 15:5).
Comment below for prayer requests! Also, to email me any questions or prayer requests, go to facebook.com/ChristiGiven. God bless you!