Coping with Loss During the Holidays
Written by Christi Given | December 11, 2011
The holidays are a time for celebration, spending time with your loved ones, and relaxing. But for some, they are a painful reminder that someone you love is gone.
I remember my first Christmas without my dad and how strange it felt not to have him there. If you are dealing with the loss of a family member or friend, know that you are not alone! Loss is hard and everyone experiences healing differently, but God is with you!
The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit (Psalm 34:18).
Do not be afraid; I am the First and the Last. I am He who lives, and was dead, and behold, I am alive forevermore. Amen. And I have the keys of Hades and of Death (Revelation 1:18).
Draw near to God and He will draw near to you (James 4:8).
Here is some advice for getting through the holidays if you feel lonely or are missing a relative who has passed on or is not nearby:
1.) Pray for God’s peace. It says in the Bible that Jesus is the “Prince of Peace.”
For unto us a Child is born, unto us a Son is given; and the government will be upon His shoulder. And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace… (Isaiah 9:6).
When I lost my dad, I missed him so much. It seemed so surreal not having him there. But God gave me peace and strength–without Him I couldn’t have done it.
2.) Ask for God’s comfort. Jesus said he would leave the Holy Spirit to us as our comforter. When my dad passed, the only way to get through it was to rely on Jesus and the Holy Spirit.
But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you. Peace I leave with you, my peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid (John 14: 26-27).
And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide in you forever–the Spirit of Truth… (John 14: 16).
3.) Remember the positives and think of happy memories with your loved one. I know my dad would want me to reflect on the good, happy memories I have of him!
Whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy–meditate on these things (Philippians 4:8).
4.) Enjoy the holiday season! Think about the person you are missing-they would WANT you to enjoy the holidays and your life. I still miss my Dad to this day, but I just believe that he would want me to be happy, and I trust the Lord.
PI girls, I hope this encourages your heart and lifts you up. I totally relate to loss–this year I also lost a close family friend. Remember, we are here for you at Project Inspired and most importantly … Jesus LOVES you SO much! Always remember that!