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Coping with Loss During the Holidays

The holidays are a time for celebration, spending time with your loved ones, and relaxing. But for some, they are a painful reminder that someone you love is gone.

I remember my first Christmas without my dad and how strange it felt not to have him there. If you are dealing with the loss of a family member or friend, know that you are not alone! Loss is hard and everyone experiences healing differently, but God is with you!

The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit (Psalm 34:18).

Do not be afraid; I am the First and the Last. I am He who lives, and was dead, and behold, I am alive forevermore. Amen. And I have the keys of Hades and of Death (Revelation 1:18).

Draw near to God and He will draw near to you (James 4:8).

Here is some advice for getting through the holidays if you feel lonely or are missing a relative who has passed on or is not nearby:

1.) Pray for God’s peace. It says in the Bible that Jesus is the “Prince of Peace.”

For unto us a Child is born, unto us a Son is given; and the government will be upon His shoulder. And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace… (Isaiah 9:6).

When I lost my dad, I missed him so much. It seemed so surreal not having him there. But God gave me peace and strength–without Him I couldn’t have done it.

2.) Ask for God’s comfort. Jesus said he would leave the Holy Spirit to us as our comforter. When my dad passed, the only way to get through it was to rely on Jesus and the Holy Spirit.

But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you. Peace I leave with you, my peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid (John 14: 26-27).

And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide in you forever–the Spirit of Truth… (John 14: 16).

3.) Remember the positives and think of happy memories with your loved one. I know my dad would want me to reflect on the good, happy memories I have of him! 

Whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy–meditate on these things (Philippians 4:8).

4.) Enjoy the holiday season! Think about the person you are missing-they would WANT you to enjoy the holidays and your life. I still miss my Dad to this day, but I just believe that he would want me to be happy, and I trust the Lord. 

PI girls, I hope this encourages your heart and lifts you up. I totally relate to loss–this year I also lost a close family friend. Remember, we are here for you at Project Inspired and most importantly … Jesus LOVES you SO much! Always remember that!

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by cristia96 on January 3, 2012 at 14:07

    ya i know how it feels to have a first christmas without a loved one my cuzin and aunt were murdered my aunt was 7 months pregnant with a baby boy . I missed them so much i still do i wish i could change them not getting killed but i know they are with god and happy

    • Posted by Nicole on January 3, 2012 at 18:10

      oh wow that is so tragic. They are all in heaven looking after you! May God bless you 🙂

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by Weaselbns on December 16, 2011 at 14:58

    Its almost been 5 years since my Grandpa passed away, and its still hard. Especially around the holidays.

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by HannahBee on December 14, 2011 at 06:29

    This is my first Christmas without my big brother. He passed away just four months ago. Thanksgiving was hard enough for my family, and I don’t even wanna image what Christmas day is gonna be like..

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    Posted by Lady Withington on December 12, 2011 at 21:07

    I have lost my family because I turned my brother into the police for molesting me when I was a teenager. So much was covered up because my Dad was a preacher and my Mom thought everything should only be handled in the church. But it is a crime and I can’t live this lie anymore. I feel so alone and depressed. I don’t know how I am going to get through this. Every day is so hard and I have had to leave my church. Many times I feel that only God loves me. But his children have forgotten me.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by honestnhopeful on December 15, 2011 at 21:54

      You are beyond strong. I do soooo hope that you do have a support system for yourself somehow. My issues are nowhere NEAR as large as yours (my parents are only getting divorced), so to think you are COMPLETELY alone is terrible. I hope something strangly special happens to you this season.

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    Posted by Waterfalls on December 12, 2011 at 18:37

    Last Christmas Eve, a friend of mine died of cancer. It’s not like she was my best friend or anything, but I used to play basketball with her and we ran track together one year. ANyway, it was really tough on everyone in the community. I come from a small town and it’s devestating to see a fifteen year old girl die the day before Chistmas. I miss her, but I’m also happy to know that she’s in a better place. RIP Meg, miss you<3

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by Lilly1227 on December 12, 2011 at 13:48

    Yea, I know how it feel. Its still tough sometimes, though its been 5yrs since I lost my grandmother on Christmas day.

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by Sarah16 on December 12, 2011 at 12:55

    I lost my Mum, two and a half months ago to cancer, my Nanny (mum’s mum) died 2 weeks ago and i’ve just had to put my cat down so I am finding this all very hard, i cried so much this weekend and I just don’t know how I’ll cope over the next few weeks, so thanks for this.

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    Posted by Allison on December 12, 2011 at 09:52

    this is my first Christmas without my parents being together. My mom has to work on Christmas and Christmas Eve, so It’s gonna be hard.