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How to Deal With Mean People!

Are people mean to you sometimes just because you’re different? Do they make fun of the way you wear your hair or your creative style of dress? Do they mock you for professing God in front of them? So what do you do when the people around you are being mean?

Check out these five tips for dealing with mean people:

  1. Recognize who you are in Christ. Knowing that you’re a child of God should give you some comfort! God’s children are “aliens and strangers in the world” (1 Peter 2:11) because “our citizenship is in heaven” (Philippians 3:20.) People won’t always understand your shining light, however God is always near those who love Him. Pray for strength when you’re dealing with mean people and ask the Holy Spirit to guide and direct your actions.
  2. Keep your composure. Mean people are always looking for a negative reaction. Unfortunately, they get a thrill out of it. However, if you remain calm and collected in the midst of the teasing, they’ll soon feel pretty silly and will eventually move on.
  3. Know when to seek help! YOU DON’T HAVE TO TOLERATE BEING BULLIED nor do you have to accept excessive teasing. Teenagers sometimes react to bullying by hurting themselves or hurting someone else, however it’s much better to seek help from an adult. This way, everyone remains safe and the teasing will be addressed.
  4. Continue to be kind to those who are mean to you. The Bible tells you to love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matthew 5:44.) God will deal with their mean spirit in the most suitable way. He might even be using you as a role model for them. Wouldn’t it be awesome if your kindness is what ultimately helps them find Christ!
  5. Love yourself. It’s okay to be different because your differences are what make you unique. Differences set you apart from others and should be celebrated, not ridiculed! Don’t internalize the negativity of others. Remember,

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent!

~Eleanor Roosevelt

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by MM_Girl on March 6, 2012 at 13:58

    There are a couple girls who are really mean to me all the time. And the worst thing is they used to be my best friends. I don’t know what happened exactly, but I started hanging out with more people, and they got jealous, but they didn’t tell me. They pretended to be my friends but were speading all the rumors and saying things about me that weren’t true. We finally just stopped hanging out all-together but I know they still don’t like me, and I know they’re still saying things about me that aren’t true, that they know I would never do. It still hurts, but.. I’m moving on, slowly.

  2. rtfgirl

    Posted by rtfgirl on December 16, 2011 at 19:39

    Well… last year I was talking to some girls at school about about dressing modestly because guys think about sex all the time and that’s all they want to do. So I told them that and they were laughing at me which I don’t really care about… well kind of I do… but 3 girls beat me up last year in the bathroom and told me to never speak to them again and never tell anyone what they did.

    Is there something I’m missing here? I tried to tell them that because of all the girls being raped in the US. And because the bible tells us to dress modestly… idk I’m at a complete loss! I don’t want to say anything to them!

  3. Posted by on October 16, 2011 at 16:07

    Well what if they arent bullying you for your belief in god? What if they are just bullying you? How do you stand up to them? What if they used to be your best friend how do you deal with that?

  4. Posted by on September 7, 2011 at 07:00

    Does it count as being a bully if your little brother constantly mocks you? But it’s okay because I like to bother him sometimes too. 😛 We both love each other but we have an odd way of showing it.

  5. Posted by on August 15, 2011 at 20:15

    Another good piece of advice is to “turn the other cheek”. We have all heard that one, right. Cheesy? Not so much. Not only does it mess with their heads, but also, during bible times, in the ancient cities, roman soldiers could literally hit or slap any jew on the street. Jesus says

    “If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic.”

    This is not being cliche or cheesy. In those times, if a Jew would stand back up and offer up the other side of his face, the roman would have a chance to ask themselves, “Do I really want to be this type of person?” Yeah, they will probably say yes. But still, it messes with their heads.

    • Posted by Nicole on August 16, 2011 at 13:48

      I LOVE this. So true!! thanks for sharing Celia!

  6. Posted by AyshaIves on May 26, 2011 at 05:05

    I think that praying for him is a great idea, Stephanie! Unfortunately, people who’re mean to others are often hurting themselves in some way but they take it out on other people. But prayer is powerful and God is amazing! He truly can work on your classmate’s heart. Always remember that you’re wonderful and that God has a SPECIFIC purpose for your life. And Patricia, its AWESOME to know that you love the Lord so much! God bless you both!

  7. Posted by on May 25, 2011 at 22:29

    Thank you for posting this Nicole! Everyday, especially in high school, people have to deal with this issue. This guy in my chemistry class always has to point out people’s flaws, like being more heavy or strange, to hurt them. I used to get so angry because it’s not fair for him to do that, especially considering he’s not the greatest person either. I’ll pray that he becomes a kinder person though, instead of wasting my time gettind mad !

  8. Posted by on May 24, 2011 at 15:58

    There’s a girl at school I don’t like. Everyone that are mean to her because she was mean to them. But I think, I’m better than that and God wouldn’t want me to hurt another. I just think about what Jesus would want me to do. Also i know something about the word J.O.Y.
    J- Jesus comes first
    O- Others come next.
    Y- You come last
    So think of others before yourself and Jesus before others

    • Posted by Nicole on May 24, 2011 at 16:42

      Hey nikki- This is great! I’ll remember this acronym 🙂

  9. Posted by on May 24, 2011 at 11:15

    I love my Lord with all my heart, with all my soul, and with all my strength……

  10. Posted by AyshaIves on May 24, 2011 at 08:25

    I’m so glad that this article inspires you, Amanda! You might want to try printing it out and keeping it with you as a reminder. I always keep inspirational writings around to help guide me! Stay strong Amanda, and never forget how very SPECIAL you are!

  11. Posted by on May 23, 2011 at 17:34

    Thank you so much! I’ve been struggling with this, especially recently, and you’ve really inspired me. Thanks! 😀