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“Dear Future Husband…”


Dear Future Husband,

How much am I looking forward to meeting you? With the dating scene more and more nuanced, I just can’t wait to get to know a guy like you. A guy who knows what he wants, who has goals and dreams and wants to share them with someone else. A guy who wants to get to know the real me. To help you get started, I figured I’d give you some hints.

I’m complex, not complicated. I want you to pursue me—all my interests, my passions, my joys and fears. I want to know you in the same way. I look forward to saying on our 25th anniversary, “We’re still getting to know each other every day.” This doesn’t mean I’m hard to get to know, I just don’t like to put it all out there for just anyone. You’re going to have to work a little to know and understand me, but I know I’m worth it and so are you.

I’m independent, but it doesn’t mean I don’t want to need you. I’ve lived on my own since right after college. I’m used to pulling out my tool kit and looking up whatever I need to fix on YouTube. I kill all the bugs (or at least trap them under a cup), carry the groceries and unpack all the boxes when I move to a new apartment. Would I love to allow someone to share the load with me? Any day. I want you to open my car door and walk on the outside of the sidewalk to protect me. So when you see me struggling with that heavy box, know that I’m fine on my own, but I can’t wait for you to offer to carry it for me.

I’ve had my heart broken before, but that doesn’t mean I’m not strong now. I’ve been intentional to talk and pray through past hurts with counselors, pastors and friends. I’m healing, although I may not be perfect. We’re both on a journey, one that hopefully we’ll be able to help each other on soon. I’m walking my part, and I hope you’re walking yours. I’ll continue to be strong in God and in my own heart until you’re here to add your strength to the mix.

I’ll be your biggest fan, your encourager and confidant. When I care about someone, I want them to be their best self. Same goes for you. When you tell me your dreams, I’ll ask you how soon we can get started making them come true. I’ll ask what your first step is and when you plan to take it, and then I’ll cheer you on the whole way there. I want you to live a full and adventurous life with me, with both of us fulfilling our purpose and calling together.

I’m so excited for the life we’ll live together, the places we’ll travel to, the people we’ll meet and the kingdom work we’ll be a part of together. Together will be my favorite place.


Your Future Wife

Image: LightStock | Mari Yamagiwa


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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by Stephany10 on May 5, 2018 at 10:14

    I am gonna do this

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by Iheartsparkles23 on September 20, 2015 at 17:11

    Gee…if only I wanted a husband….

    • PrayerWarrior

      Posted by PrayerWarrior on January 28, 2016 at 16:33

      Interesting way to put it.

      I see you are an atheist so its cool that you found this cite

  3. Madison307

    Posted by Madison307 on August 31, 2015 at 22:29

    I wrote a letter to my future husband, too! I keep it tucked in my prayer journal and I plan on reading it as part of my wedding vows someday.

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by HisPrincessWarior on August 24, 2015 at 22:03

    This was definitely a thought-provoking post! Encouraging and awesome!

  5. Busygirl996

    Posted by Busygirl996 on July 26, 2015 at 01:18

    I just wrote a letter to my future husband a week ago!! 🙂 love this!!

  6. MoreRadiance

    Posted by MoreRadiance on July 11, 2015 at 07:04

    This is beautiful! Thanks for writing and sharing this. I’ve been hearing a lot about writing letters to your future husband and it’s something I would like to do. Thank you!

    • Busygirl996

      Posted by Busygirl996 on July 26, 2015 at 01:19

      I dont remember ever meeting someone named Rebekah who spells there name like I do, so I had to say something 🙂
      -Rebekah <3

  7. Pinkypie2017

    Posted by Pinkypie2017 on July 11, 2015 at 01:03

    Oh how much I get a kick out of these cheesy pi “dear future husband” posts LOL! I guess cause I’m not a chick flick loving hopeless romantic, I never see the allure girls get out of writing these letters but I guess if it makes you happy there’s nothing wrong with that to each his own.

  8. Smylinggirl

    Posted by Smylinggirl on July 9, 2015 at 17:16

    This is incredible!! Such a great idea.

  9. crazy4christ

    Posted by crazy4christ on July 9, 2015 at 14:28

    Hi can I just say that I love this post! It is so special and so amazing. I also started writing to my future husband and it is so fun I must say. It keeps the dream alive. God will always be there and He knows just the right time for everything.

  10. Project Inspired

    Posted by Gymnastics14 on July 9, 2015 at 10:05

    I love this so much! It sums up my thoughts as of late PERFECTLY. I mostly want my future husband to know that I love them, too, and it’s not just about what I want. This is a great article.