Do You Let Jesus in the Door of Your Heart When He Knocks?

    Girls, have you read the Song of Solomon (also called Song of Songs)?

    Even if you haven’t read it, you’re probably aware that it’s a love story, but there’s a portion of the book that confused me for a long time. I’m using the New Living paraphrase here because it makes the passage a little easier to understand:

    I slept, but my heart was awake, when I heard my lover knocking and calling:

    “Open to me, my treasure, my darling, my dove, my perfect one. My head is drenched with dew, my hair with the dampness of the night.”

    But I responded,

    “I have taken off my robe. Should I get dressed again? I have washed my feet. Should I get them soiled?”

    My lover tried to unlatch the door, and my heart thrilled within me. I jumped up to open the door for my love, and my hands dripped with perfume. My fingers dripped with lovely myrrh as I pulled back the bolt.

    I opened to my lover, but he was gone! My heart sank. I searched for him but could not find him anywhere. I called to him, but there was no reply. (Song of Solomon 5:2-6)

    To clarify, the woman is at home. She’s cleaned herself up, taken off her makeup, changed into her pajamas and gotten ready to go to sleep. She’s not expecting any more visitors for the day and isn’t planning to go out. (Keep in mind that during the time this was written, it wasn’t customary for a husband and wife to sleep in the same room together every night.)

    Everything before this point in the book is all of that excited kind of love. The kind of love you feel for the first few months of a new relationship when you still get butterflies in your stomach anytime you see your boyfriend. Suddenly the excited love cools down a lot. So much so that the beloved man comes to the woman and she goes through all these excuses about why not to let him into her room!

    What the heck? A couple of verses ago she’s comparing herself to a garden and inviting him to come to her—now she’s not sure she even wants to open the door for him?

    By the time her heart reawakens to his love and she decides to open the door, her lover has left.

    When my friend Christina was getting her master’s degree in operatic music performance, she had to plan and put together a recital, which meant choosing a theme and music that illustrated her theme. To do this right, Christina needed to know her theme and her music thoroughly, and she made her theme the Song of Solomon. So recently I asked her what she thought about this passage.

    She told me that as she spent time studying and praying through the book for her recital, God showed her that while the book is a beautiful picture of a husband and wife and of Christ and the church, it’s also about our personal relationship with Jesus.

    At this particular point in the book, the woman must decide if she’s going to make the effort and do the work to keep the relationship strong or if she’s going to allow the love to continue to cool off.

    She makes her decision when she runs through the city searching and calling for her lover; she wants the relationship to stay strong and get stronger.

    Think about your relationship with Jesus now. Have you reached these places when you needed to make a decision about whether or not to open the door for Him when He knocked?

    I have. I’ve had more of these times than I feel like I should have. Sometimes it’s a long time before I get up to open the door. Sometimes I drag my feet a little when I go out to search for the lover of my heart. I make a lot of excuses.

    Girls, we don’t need to feel guilty about those times when we question whether or not to open the door for Jesus. Those are natural points we all come to in our relationships.

    The important thing is what decision we make next.

    You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart. (Jeremiah 29:13)

    Girls, do you go out and search for your beloved or stay inside and ignore his knock?

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    Jenn Arman
    Jenn Arman is a youth pastor, freelance writer and blogger. She was born in San Diego, California and raised 2 hours north east in the Inland Empire where she lives with her husband David and their cats. Jenn desires to bring glory to God and a healthy dose of reality to Christians through both writing and preaching. Visit for more on her work. You can also connect with her on and


    1. Wow. I never really got into Song of Solomon because I didn’t understand it. This makes perfect sense. We need to work in relationships, be it with a man, a friend, or Jesus. If we work together, which Jesus always does, then we can have a good relationship. Thanks, PI!

    2. OMG I finally understand this verse and the songs of Solomon. it’s true that we often are lazy at keepin the fire burnin in a relationship, always waitin for the other person to act. when its that way on both sides even the strongest love drowns. but God our father is faithful to answer us and be our comforter. I had a hard time hiking up the mount of God after he lowered the amount of his presence that I could sharply sense for me to seek him more… but he never misses occasions to visit us powerfully we just need to be used to sensing and recongizing his voice. and that comes with practice: spending as much time with him as possible, in prayer, meditation of his word and also in worship. God bless you girls, luv yall.And thank you sister-Jenn for this article full of guidance, love and uplifting!

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