Is he just a friend—or is he into you? Was that hug supposed to mean something? If so, why did he completely blow you off the next week?
Welcome to life with the guy who plays games.
One day he likes you. One day you’re all he sees or pays attention to. The next, you’re one in a line of girls jockeying for attention—attention he certainly doesn’t send your way. The confusion is both frustrating and addictive; you hate it, but you kind of want to find out how it ends.
Let me save you some time: It’s not going to end well. The guy who plays games is not the kind of guy worth waiting for, and he’s not the kind of guy God wants for you. Read on to see why.
Insincerity Is Not of God
Game-playing, for both guys and girls, is, in essence, insincerity. Someone who acts as if they’re into another person when they’re actually not is being deceitful, selfish and unloving. While game-playing may seem harmless, it reveals the state of the player’s heart. He doesn’t actually care about people; he only cares about what people give him.
Insincerity is not of God. God is absolutely sincere, completely trustworthy in everything He says. A man who knows God should pursue the same level of honesty in his own life. So if a guy is playing games with your heart, his heart isn’t sold out to God’s plan—and that’s a problem.
Game-Playing Is a Sign of Immaturity
Secondly, playing games in romantic relationships is a sign of immaturity. Mature, spiritually grounded men and women don’t waste time leading others on. They choose sincerity and brotherly love over the short-term thrill of attention.
If there are any three-year-olds in your life, you know what immaturity looks like: vying for attention, demanding what is wanted, unwilling to wait. All of these things characterize a player, which means his inner maturity level is little more than that of a toddler. It doesn’t matter how cute he is: He’s not worth the trouble.
Focus Your Time on Authentic People
There are so many amazing people in this world—people with stories to encourage and inspire you. Why waste time with a person who plays selfish games? Turn your attention instead to the authentic people in your life: people of all ages, races and backgrounds who can help you mature spiritually and personally.
Authentic people are real; they are the same every time you see them, and also transparent about their lives. They don’t pretend to be someone they aren’t. They are honest and true just like God is honest and true. These kinds of people teach us how to be better friends and followers of Christ just by being in their presence! Their attention is not short-lived but long-lasting, building us up in our own goals and walk with God.
Time is precious—and so are you. Don’t waste your heart and your hours on someone who plays games with both. Choose wisely who you spend your time with, and let the guy who plays games take time to grow up.