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Enhance Your Inner Beauty with…Self-Control

Hey ladies, I pray that you’re finding these natural inner beauty posts valuable. Our culture is so focused on outer beauty that the more important inner beauty is often neglected, tarnishing the outward appearance. Inner beauty is not as easy to attain as outer beauty. It takes time, discipline, practice and, most important, the help of the Holy Spirit to develop certain virtues. The upcoming second book in my Faith & Kung-Fu series centers on this week’s natural inner-beauty virtue: self-control.

What is self-control? Well, Bible Gateway describes self-control as “physical and emotional self-mastery, particularly in situations of intense provocation or temptation.” Living in the world without becoming worldly requires a lot of self-control. And this is why this virtue is fundamental in instilling many of the other virtues we’ve discussed previously, such as patience, kindness and integrity.

 Like a city breached, without walls, is one who lacks self-control. (Proverbs 25:28)

 

Consider practicing more self-control in the following areas of your life:

  1. At school. When you’re around your friends, it’s easy to emulate the bad habits and character traits of those you look up to. You want to fit in with your friends or be cool in front of a boy, so it’s tempting to do something unbecoming of a Christian girl. Self-control sets you apart. It may mean that you miss out on doing some things, but usually they’re the things you shouldn’t be doing anyway, right?
  2. At home. Showing self-control can be difficult at home. Sometimes we take things out on those we love. But showing self-control when we deal with parents or siblings is really important.

Benjamin Franklin once stated, “Educate your children to self-control, to the habit of holding passion and prejudice and evil tendencies subject to an upright and reasoning will, and you have done much to abolish misery from their future and crimes from society.” Think about that! When you lack self-control, it can make you unhappy. You get angry or upset with people quickly and without much provocation. Or maybe you crush on guys easily, and you are heartbroken and get depressed when the feeling isn’t reciprocated. Or you’re easily tempted to get intimate with a guy you like, and after you do, you feel guilty.

Lacking self-control could mean you get angry and hurt others, or you want something and steal it. So, Franklin was spot-on. A person with self-control is happier and law-abiding because she knows how to control herself physically and emotionally.

If you’re finding it a struggle to have self-control, then consider the following tips:

  1. Read your Bible. Self-control is discussed many times in scripture. It’s the mark of a Christian.
  2. Practice it. Like any virtue, you really need to practice it. Open your eyes to all the situations that require self-control. You may find that these moments occur more often than not.
  3. Pray for it. Self-control is not an easy virtue to attain and you will definitely need the Lord to help you. So call upon Him in all moments that require it. Pray that He helps you recognize the weak and vulnerable moments and that he helps you control them with ease.

For this very reason, you must make every effort to support your faith with goodness, and goodness with knowledge, and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with endurance, and endurance with godliness, and godliness with mutual affection, and mutual affection with love. (2 Peter 1:5-7)

 

Ladies, do you have self-control? Do you know of other ways to strengthen your self-control?

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  1. poliwag48

    Posted by poliwag48 on February 17, 2015 at 18:56

    Holding your tongue. The Bible says that one who can control their tongue can control their whole body. If you Google what the bible says about words, you may easily find many scriptures about words, talking too much, etc.

    • poliwag48

      Posted by poliwag48 on February 17, 2015 at 18:58

      I can also personally testify that holding your tongue is so good to do. It gives time to think, contemplate, not act on every impulse, etc. I also think people respect you more. The Bible says that even a fool who keeps silent appears wise.

  2. jeans

    Posted by jeans on January 26, 2015 at 17:20

    I used to have so much self-control. Over the past couple years my life has flipped completely out of control. I don’t feel like that is life at all, but death. The devil brought death to my doorstep. I miss self-control. And I know God is giving me a grace perspective on myself to lead me into a life more than I could have imagined.
    I dropped out of school two years ago. The dreams I had faded. I was scared. This was so new to me, I had my whole life planned out. I had self control, and self discipline. I feel like I’ve lost a lot of that when I dropped out. I was taking care of my Momma, who recently died Dec. 17th.
    I’m really excited about my life to come. I know God is leading me somewhere I’d have never imagined. And even though it wasn’t what I had planned, he is the master planner. I love surprises and I can’t wait to see, to feel the life he is walking with me. I will gain more self-control and regain self-discipline directed towards Gods plans. No more getting carried by the current. God’s rowing my boat.