“Everyone I Know Has Been Baptized, But It Doesn’t Feel Right for Me Yet. Help!”

    “Alright, I have a question. So I’m 14 years old and I’ve never been baptized. The last time our church did baptizing, I didn’t feel like it was time to do it. But I’m getting older and everyone I know has been baptized and I want to do it because it’s one of the huge steps in Christianity, but it doesn’t feel right, yet. IDK what to do…I have 2 older sisters who haven’t done it either. What should I do? Should I wait till I feel it’s right? I just feel super behind since like everyone I know has done it…”

    When I think of baptism, I think of Acts 2:38: “Peter [said] to them, ‘Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins; and you will receive the gift of the holy Spirit.'” There are tons more references in scripture that make it really clear just how important baptism is.

    The meaning behind baptism varies among Christian denominations. Some consider it just a symbolic act, while others believe that it not only saves and washes away original sin, but also allows us to receive the Holy Spirit.

    No matter what denomination you are, baptism is a big deal! If you’ve accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior and you have put your faith in Him, then you should totally be baptized. After all, even Jesus was baptized! So as a Christian, I’m all for it.

    Here’s what I think you should do:

    1. Spend some time reading the Bible, learning more about Christianity.
    2. Discuss the significance of baptism with a pastor or priest.
    3. Decide if you want to follow Christ. If you do, then I would encourage you to get baptizedThe rewards of accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior and being baptized will far outweigh your fears, so go for it, girl!

    “Then Jesus approached and said to them, ‘All power in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, until the end of the age.’” (Matthew 28:18-20)

    Good luck and God bless!

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    1. Thank you SO much for this! I have accepted Jesus into my heart in 7th grade. Now i want to get baptized the next time they do it at my church! 🙂 but before that im going to try to learn more about it and stuff 🙂 thank you for the advise, and verses! It helps me a lot!

    2. In my Bible class we were talking about walking with the Spirit and how when you accept Jesus as your Savior you receive Spirit Baptism, which is pretty much what it says it is, spiritual baptism. I think I want to to spend a few more years growing my relationship with God first and then when I feel ready be baptized I’ll know it but right now just doesn’t feel right. I feel like such a horrible Christian for saying that.

      • I think it’s very wise decision that you are wanting to grow more in your relationship with God, in order to move forward with what baptism is going to be personally for you. If there is someone you may talk with like a youth leader, pastor, or even your parents who are very familiar with this specific topic I would let them know what you’ve been thinking and feeling so that they can help guide you! I don’t see it wrong for you to say that! I hope this could help 🙂

        • You can’t be a “bad Christian” for not being baptized…it’s just a way to really commit your life to Christ and it’s okay if you’re not ready for it yet! 😉

    3. I think baptism is a way to publicly declare your life for Christ-but you shouldn’t do it just because of some peer pressure.
      Also, I believe that you can be baptized in the Holy Spirit at any time!

    4. I need help!! 🙂

      My best friend in the entire world has gone through a huge transformation since we started middle school, I’d say. We’re both seniors in high school now. She has accepted Jesus into her life in a way that she never expected; she is middle eastern, has some family that is Muslim, some family that is Christian, some people that are atheist! She called herself “Agnostic” for the longest time. But then she started spending more time with me and started asking me questions about MY faith (I’m Roman Catholic), and she realized she believed in God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. She didn’t really submerge herself in my church, she was still on the fence about “denominational stuff”. She started going to a church in our city that is really popular, but there has been a lot of scandalous stuff that has recently come out (namely being the worship leader has been skimming off the top of donations to build himself a multimillion dollar home), and she just doesn’t feel connected anymore. She cut ties with that church; shortly after that she began having trouble in her family life, and started questioning her faith. “Why would a fair God let people go through this?” We had a heart to heart and I helped her to realize that it wasn’t because there isn’t a God, but it’s because He does what he has to in order to get us where we belong. It was a test of her faith, and she came out stronger, which was ultimately what He wanted. She still feels that she’d like to be a member of a church again; I would love for her to come join my parish! I just don’t know how to suggest it! Obviously our church isn’t going to be as “fun” as her church was (she described it as a great big concert? haha), but it is so spiritual and I leave feeling wholesome and complete, and I think that the teen mass, which is definitely more “her speed”, could be really fun and enlightening for her! She’s not baptized and would like to be someday, but she feels the need to be a member of a church/community to do that. So how can I suggest to her that she join my parish? Or at least give it a shot?!! Thanks, Olivia 🙂

    5. Baptism is a beautiful thing. It is a way to publicly declare your faith. It symbolizes the old, non-christian you being dead and the new, christian you being alive instead. Part of why we do baptisms is Jesus himself did it. We are told in 3 of the 4 gospels that Jesus went to John the Baptist, who was baptizing in the Jordan river and was baptized. As Christians, we are called to be imitators of Christ. He was baptized and so should we be also. Jesus even said that we are to go into all the world making disciples and baptizing them in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit (Matthew 28:19) . To not do this would be to disobey God.

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