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    Faith Saver: How Do You See Yourself?

    How do you see yourself? God made us all beautiful, but do you believe it? It’s amazing how often people see others in a better light than they see themselves. We all do it, although usually not consciously.

    The following clip is an amazing look at how we see ourselves, and how often we perceive ourselves in a negative light.

    For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well (Psalm 139:13-14).

    This faith saver is one that focuses on our own selves, and I pray that it prompts you to see yourself the way God sees you–as truly beautiful.

    Ladies, do you see yourself in a negative light? Does this video inspire you to change the way you see yourself?

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    T.M. Gaouette is a freelance writer, ghostwriter, blogger and fiction novelist. She was born in Africa, brought up in London and is now living in New England with her husband and four children. Devoted to Him, Gaouette is dedicated to glorifying God through her stories for teens and young adults. T.M. Gaouette is the author of "The Destiny of Sunshine Ranch" and "Freeing Tanner Rose," Christian novels for teens and young adults. She's currently working on completing her upcoming novel -visit tmgaouette.com for more on her Christian fiction work. Connect with her on www.facebook.com/TMGaouette and https://twitter.com/TMGaouette .

    28 COMMENTS

    1. I just watched this from Pinterest yesterday. … and today I got on pinterest and project inspired had pinned it… maybe God is trying to show me that I was made in his image. What a great reminder to never look down on what God made perfect.

    2. This is an excerp from an article I read after I watched this video, it makes a super valid point about why this video isn’t as sweet and uplifting as it seems.

      “First off, I will acknowledge the positives in the video. The team at Dove makes a valid point: most of us are our own harshest critics. Most women probably are more beautiful than they think. This serves as a reminder that we shouldn’t be as hard on ourselves as most of us often are, and it’s uplifting to remember that others are more prone to look past the “flaws” that we perceive in ourselves and to see beauty. The fact that it’s reminding young women to see the beauty in themselves is a good thing, and I want to celebrate that.
      But…
      Let’s look at which descriptors the editors chose to include. When the participants described themselves, these were some of the things that were implied as negatives: fat, rounder face, freckles, fatter, 40— starting to get crows feet, moles, scars… Whereas some of the implied positive descriptors used by others were: thin face, nice thin chin, nice eyes that lit up when she spoke and were very expressive (my actual favorite), short and cute nose, her face was fairly thin (this was said twice), and very nice blue eyes. So… I don’t know if anyone else is picking up on this, but it kinda seems to be enforcing our very narrow cultural perception of “beauty”: young, light-skinned, thin. No real diversity celebrated in race, age, or body shape. So you’re beautiful… if you’re thin, don’t have noticeable wrinkles or scars, and have blue eyes. If you’re fat or old… uh, maybe other people don’t think you look as fat and old as you do yourself? Great? Oh, and by the way, there are real women who look like the women on the left. What are you saying about them, exactly?
      Because the message that we constantly receive is that girls are not valuable without beauty.

      Brave, strong, smart? Not enough. You have to be beautiful. And “beautiful” means something very specific, and very physical. Essentially every movie and tv show and commercial shows us that, right? It doesn’t matter what other merits a woman posses, if she is not conventionally attractive, she is essentially worthless (go watch Miss Representation for more thoughts on this). And my primary problem with this Dove ad is that it’s not really challenging the message like it makes us feel like it is. It doesn’t really tell us that the definition of beauty is broader than we have been trained to think it is, and it doesn’t really tell us that fitting inside that definition isn’t the most important thing. It doesn’t really push back against the constant objectification of women. All it’s really saying is that you’re actually not quite as far off from the narrow definition as you might think that you are (if you look like the featured women, I guess).

      And actually, it almost seems to remind us how vital it is to know that we fit society’s standard of attractiveness . At the end of the experiment, one of the featured participants shares what I find to be the most disturbing quote in the video and what Dove seems to think is the moral of the story as she reflects upon what she’s learned, and how problematic it is that she hasn’t been acknowledging her physical beauty: It’s troubling,” she says as uplifting music swells in the background. “I should be more grateful of my natural beauty. It impacts the choices and the friends we make, the jobs we go out for, they way we treat our children, it impacts everything. It couldn’t be more critical to your happiness.”

      Did you hear that, ladies? How beautiful you are affects everything—from your personal relationships to your career. It could not be more critical to your happiness! And while it could be argued that the woman was actually talking about how you feel about yourself or something, it is clearly edited to suggest that the “it” is beauty. I know we’ve been told it thousands upon thousands of times before, but I hope you heard that, girls: your physical, superficial beauty is the most significant part of who you are, and the most important determining factor in your life. And now I want you to hear this: that is a lie.

      What you look like should not affect the choices that you make. It should certainly not affect the friends you make—the friends that wouldn’t want to be in relationship with you if you did not meet a certain physical standard are not the friends that you want to have. Go out for jobs that you want, that you’re passionate about. Don’t let how good looking you feel like you are affect the way way that you treat your children. And certainly do not make how well you feel you align with the strict and narrow “standard” that the beauty industry and media push be critical to your happiness, because you will always be miserable. You will always feel like you fall short, because those standards are designed to keep you constantly pressured into buying things like make up and diet food and moisturizer to reach an unattainable goal. Don’t let your happiness be dependent on something so fickle and cruel and trivial. You should feel beautiful, and Dove was right about one thing: you are more beautiful than you know. But please, please hear me: you are so, so much more than beautiful.”

      I totally agree with it too. God made us very beautiful, but not the way society defines it. You are more much more beautiful than the world will ever know.

      • I completely agree with you on most of what you said but I don’t think that was the point of this video. I agree that our standard of beauty is warped with worldly views but the point of this video wasn’t “Oh your more of a Barbie doll than you thought your were.” What I think they were trying to say was that people view you differently than you view yourself. You may not think your beautiful as you are but other people do. You focused on your “big chin” but others saw how your eyes lit up when you were happy. Stop obsessing over how you look because you were made beautiful!

        It wasn’t like you are so close to being societies view of perfect. The focus was you are beautiful, don’t beat your self up. The people weren’t saying that their looks were important to their behavior around others. They were just listing ways our self-esteem can affect other people, when we let it. Our lack of confidence can hurt of others but more than anyone, it can hurt us. This project was made to boost the confidence level and self-esteem of not only those doing the experiment but of us watching. Every Girl out there (including me) you are way more beautiful than you think!!! You were made in the image of God and not only am I positive he is Holy but when he walked this earth he was probably gorgeous. You were fearfully and wonderfully made!!!!!!!!

    3. I like this I see myself in a positive way but in this short term body I will always be deaf I will always have my rash and headaches. I don’t wear make up because I know God made me beautiful without it. I think God is amazing with how he creates things

    4. Watched that in a Chik Ch@ meeting at my school. It was crazy to see. We as humans, i think especially girls, really put ourselves down. But the truth is a lot of the things we tell ourselves are so tiny that no one really notices, our hearts shine brighter than the “problems”, or they’re “imaginary”.

    5. I shared this on Facebook and wrote, “Every woman needs to believe that she is truly beautiful!” I was blown away at how detailed the forensics artist is and how the drawings show how the women see themselves vs. how others see them. I won’t ever get tired of watching this video! =)

    6. A few years back I was bullied because of my appearance mainly and started believing that all the lies they were saying were true. I moved to a private Christian school and had practically no self esteem. Girls in my class always seemed to have the most fashionable outfits from name brand stores and I would try to achieve that same look with my goodwill clothes. I never could and it really bummed me out. For a while I didn’t even care about what I wore and thought it matched what I was worth. I was watching tv and saw a commercial for dove self esteem classes and thought they were cool. About a month ago, during chapel at school they played a longer version of this video and I started crying. I still have a low self esteem but it has improved with the help of my spiritual sisters here at project inspired! Thank you so much for helping me realize that I am beautiful!

    7. I wish they did this with girls that are middle school aged, i think that’s when girls seem to be the most vulnerable, as the hormones start to come and we’re trying to find ourselves, i think id be more dramatic

    8. I did see myself in a negative light. But after seeing this video, it makes me think. I came up with this conclusion, people aren’t mirorrs; they see you completely differently than the way you see yourself. Everyone has something that makes them beautiful in their own way. 🙂

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