Five Steps for a Healthy Dating Relationship!
Written by Aysha Ives | May 2, 2011
These five dating tips can help you develop fun and wholesome dating relationships.
- Consider dating another person of faith! There’s a reason that God warns us to “not be yoked together with unbelievers” (2 Corinthians 6:14.) The people who surround you will have the biggest influence on your life. Why not date and surround yourself with people who are in agreement with your lifestyle?
- Maintain boundaries. You shouldn’t let anyone (including your boyfriend) pressure you into doing anything that you don’t want to do. Love is a choice and if he loves you, he’ll choose to respect your decisions. Sex may become an issue at some point in your relationship but remember: If he loves you, he’ll wait.
- Avoid temptation. 1 Corinthians 6:18 says, “flee from sexual immortality.” The best way to avoid temptation is to stay away from tempting situations. Date in groups and limit the amount of time that you spend alone with your boyfriend. This way you’ll be less inclined to succumb to sexual temptation.
- Resolve disagreements with kindness. Intentionally hurting someone’s feelings doesn’t reflect love. Disagreements will occur in any relationship but the way you handle them will determine whether or not the relationship prospers. Remember, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” (1 Corinthians 13:4.)
- Be happy and have fun! Do things with your boyfriend that you both enjoy. Try new things together. Being a Christian doesn’t mean that you can’t have fun. Remember, God actually wants you to live a happy and fulfilled life!
Note: If you’re unhappy with a person, or if he’s a complete jerk toward you, then you may need to re-evaluate your relationship. It’s not okay if someone is physically, verbally or emotionally abusing you. If you’re in a situation where you’re being hurt in any way, seek help IMMEDIATELY from a trusted adult. You deserve to be treated with love and respect. If your boyfriend is mistreating you, then you owe it to yourself to get out of that relationship. Don’t feel bad about telling a trusted adult because you’ll be keeping yourself safe and helping your boyfriend get the help that he needs. Remember, love feels wonderful and it doesn’t hurt!