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Five Things You Can Do Today to Build Your Confidence!

Confident people are naturally more attractive, inside and out. If you feel you’re lacking in confidence, ask God to help you achieve the strength that will get you more respect and more daily joy. Here are some of my tips to help you feel more confident:

1. Accept a compliment!

When someone tells you your hair looks nice, your outfit is cute, that you look pretty – instead of playing the whole thing down, say, “Thanks, I appreciate it.” You’ll feel great and people will also want to compliment you more often if you take it graciously.

2. Stop apologizing!

Many people say “I’m sorry” too often, a lot of times stemming from insecurity. So become aware of it and only say you’re sorry when you truly are. You’ll feel more in control of your emotions.

3. Assume people like you!

Just this simple little trick helps boost your self-esteem and makes it easier to meet new people. If you believe it, people will see that and gravitate towards you.

4. Look people in the eye!

It seems easy enough, but many times if you’re feeling a little unsure or are shy to meet someone new, it’s easy to frequently look down or away. If you look the person in the eyes, they’ll see your confidence and in turn you’ll feel better about the conversation.

5.  Accentuate the good!

Think of past compliments you’ve received that really made your day. Did someone compliment you on your handwriting? On your yoga skills? Write down everything you can think of and look at the list when you’re feeling down about yourself and remember how incredibly special you are!


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  1. random_smiles

    Posted by random_smiles on November 21, 2014 at 09:04

    Always great to be reminded! <3

  2. gracegirl7

    Posted by gracegirl7 on October 16, 2014 at 16:40

    Thank you Nicole for this advice, I am really struggling with being confident right now and I think it is because I assume that people do not like me and because I focus too much on what others think of me , when I should not let peoples judgment of me control who I am when Gods love is all that matters but it is hard to remember that God love is all that really matters when you have been lacking confidence for a while

  3. Posted by on September 15, 2011 at 20:33

    Thank you for this, Nicole.:) I really apreciate all the time and effort you and others put into this website. I’ve looked at a lot of articles here before, and every time, I think I come away with something taken to heart. I think more girls need confidence, including myself, and this and other things y’all tell us are such boosters. God bless you and everone, and thanks again!

    • Posted by Nicole on September 15, 2011 at 20:58

      thanks so much Olivia for your sweet comment, it means the world to me! I saved yours in my special “thank you notes from girls” folder on my desktop! Keep coming back!

  4. Posted by on July 21, 2011 at 12:37

    I have a really hard time when people use knock- down humor, I take it to heart to much. All I can say for the ladies like me is the people who are using that kind of humor are usually insecure themselves and are trying to make you squirm. The LORD thinks you are to die for, and that’s all you need.

    • Posted by Nicole on July 22, 2011 at 12:21

      that’s so true! more girls need to know this!

  5. Posted by on April 4, 2011 at 14:40

    #3 is the hardest for me but I’m going to make an real effort to change that!

  6. Posted by on April 1, 2011 at 21:53

    Assuming people like you is a hard one for me but it sounds like a great idea. I’m definitely going to work on changing that mind set 🙂

  7. Posted by on March 27, 2011 at 15:35

    I was thinking about #3 earlier but them I stopped because I felt like I was being selfish and I know that there are people out there that don’t like me haha. I’ll admit it, I don’t like everyone either…but I try 🙂