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    Can Guys and Girls Be “Just Friends”?

    Hi Project Inspired Sisters! It’s been a while since I’ve had the chance to pull together some friends to write about an issue close to your hearts. I’m excited to do that right now!

    So, the topic this time around comes to you in the form of a question: Can guys and girls be “just friends”?

    Now, I’m not asking “Can we be friendly?” or “Can we be close?”—I’m asking whether or not it’s possible to only be friends with a person of the opposite sex, without strings attached and without the expectation of a relationship. That’s trickier, huh?

    I saw a YouTube video that talked about this very issue, and in fact might have spurred a lot of discussion about this question on Facebook. Not knowing what I really thought of the question, I turned to social media and posed the question to my friends. Here are some of the responses I got (somewhat paraphrased and edited for language):

    • “No. Things start to get complicated…I feel like that’s inevitable.”
    • “Yes, but not best friends.”
    • “It just depends.”
    • “Yes, of course! This debate is pointless.”

    As you can see, this is a much more polarizing issue than I originally thought! I decided I’d try to put my thoughts in writing for you guys and collect other opinions from some particularly smart people I know. So, without further ado, here are our thoughts on the question: Can guys and girls be “just friends”?

    Zach

    zachhuntersquareZACH’S VIEW: “IT DEPENDS ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS”

    “As a married man, I’m not going to spend much time with women one-on-one. I’m not going to go to coffee alone with another woman, because I care about my wife’s feelings and our relationship…” (READ MORE)

    Zach Hunter, Anti-Slavery Activist and Author of Chivalry and Be the Change

     

     

     

     

    Cynthia Jeub Headshot CYNTHIA’S VIEW: CONVERSATION IS THE KEY

    “If it’s too hard to even have conversations about boundaries with the guy you want to be ‘just friends’ with, there’s probably not enough maturity between the two of you to succeed in being ‘just friends’…” (READ MORE)

    Cynthia Jeub, Writer for The Huffington Post and Blogger, Insights on Epic Living

     

     

     

     

     

    Jeevo Headshot JEEVO’S VIEW: “IT IS RIDICULOUS TO BELIEVE THAT FRIENDSHIP IS RESERVED FOR YOUR OWN GENDER”

    “We would miss out on the other half of our Creator. We would walk into marriages and dating completely unaware that men and women are extremely different—good different…” (READ MORE)

    Jeevo, Christian Singer, Songwriter, Rapper and Producer

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Becca Headshot BECCA’S VIEW: IF EVERYONE TOLD THE TRUTH, IT COULDN’T BE DONE

    “During the so-called ‘friendship,’ it might seem like you’re just best friends, but if everyone were completely honest, one of the people would probably admit to liking the other more than just friends…” (READ MORE)

    Becca Daniel, President of RAVE Ministries, Inc., Mentor and Mom

     

     

     

     

    Whose advice do you most agree with?

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    Zach Hunter
    I'm... not a girl. But I am a proud contributor to the upcoming Project Inspired roundtable discussions on a variety of topics! I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts! Hit me up- Twitter: @zachjhunter Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ZachHunterOfficial

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