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From a Project Inspired Girl, Jessinia – Dating or Waiting?

Should you wait to date?

This is always an important question to ask yourself and God. Does He want you to be dating right now? Or should you be waiting?

I made a promise to myself and God at the beginning of high school that I would not date at all during my high school years. I’m a junior now and have survived! 🙂

Here is a little guideline of things that I’m personally keeping in mind while I ‘wait to date’ that I’d like to share with you all:


What to wait for: An amazing guy who will love and cherish every part of you! He should know and respect that Jesus is always your number one man in your life.

Just remember this scripture: “For your Maker is your husband – the Lord Almighty is His name—the holy one of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth.” – Isaiah 54:5

Anticipate the hard part: While waiting, I’m often tempted to date in these scenarios: A guy will like me but I can’t date him; my friends (who are dating) talking about their dates; a cute guy at the mall, etc. Crushes are okay as long as they don’t take over and you find yourself trying to get the guy to talk to you and tempt you too much.

Another hard thing (even though really you know the guy’s not right): When one of your guy friends starts being interested in you as more than a friend. You need to remind him you’re not dating. He may decide not to be your friend anymore — which means he’s not the guy for you!

Pray, pray, pray!! Pray for your future husband! Pray for the qualities you seek in the man you want to love forever. Listen to God’s plan for you. He knows who you’ll be with: “For I know the plans I have for you…plans for your welfare, not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” – Jeremiah 29:11

When you think you’ve found a wonderful guy: Pray some more about him and listen to God! Talk to your parents to see what they think. Talk to your friends to get an outside opinion on this guy. Talk to your youth leader or pastor for guidance. Maybe bring him to youth group with you. Be his friend first!

Here’s a quote from the book I kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris.

“Every relationship for a Christian is an opportunity to love another person like God has loved us. To lay down our desires and do what is best in his or her best interest. To care for him or her even when there is nothing in it for us, to honor that person’s purity and holiness because it pleases God and protects him or her.”

Will you wait to date?

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Written by Jessinia Ruff

Image: iStockphoto


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  1. Valentinat123

    Posted by Valentinat123 on December 7, 2013 at 17:11

    THIS IS A CRAZY SIGN FROM GOD! So I essentially got online to see why the boy that goes to church with me I am talking to is taking things sooo slow with me and if he even likes me. I have heard of the idea of not dating till ready for marriage but since I started dating at a young age I felt like I couldn’t just stop now. I am 17 and I have had a couple of really nice and respectful boyfriends but reading all these comments just wow. It made everything with this boy make sense and it feels as if God doesn’t want me to get attach to anybody but him. How do I feel like it’s not too late to not date anymore? I mean I am halfway through my junior year and I can’t wait till marriage for my first kiss because I already had it. HELP?! (P.S. My best friend owns that book and I am driving to her house as soon as I’m done with this message to borrow it and read it!!)