Getting Help When Someone’s Hurting You

    It’s NEVER okay for someone to hurt you. You have a God-given and legal right to be safe and happy. Jesus says I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full” (John 10:10.)

    It’s not God’s desire for you to be hurt. If you’re being abused in any way, you have the right to make it stop!

    Getting Help

    • Be sure to pray. Ask God for protection and guidance. Have faith that He will deliver you from the abusive situation.
    • Capture your fear. It may be scary to share what’s going on with others. You may fear retaliation or be afraid that the other person will be punished. However, the most important thing right now is that you’re safe and that the other person gets the help that s/he needs to stop this pattern of behavior. Remember, God will always protect you. Jesus says “And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” (Matthew 28:20.)
    • Use your resources! Tell a trusted adult about the situation. This could be your parent, a friend’s parent, minister, guidance counselor, teacher, coach, neighbor etc. Just tell someone! If you don’t feel safe telling someone that you know, contact The Department of Social Services or call a local or national child abuse hotline such as Childhelp.

    Remember, God puts people and resources in your life to help you. You have a right to you to use them!

    You were uniquely designed by God for a special purpose in this life. It’s never His desire for you to suffer abuse. Get help so that you can live the life of happiness and purpose that God has in store for you!

    Aysha Ives
    Aysha Ives loves God with her whole heart and has a desire to help hurting people. With a Masters Degree in Psychology, she combines her education and experience with her love for God to help people live whole and fulfilled lives. Aysha is an Author, Mental Health Provider, Youth Church Teacher, and the mother of one gifted little boy whom she absolutely adores. Aysha is honored to be able to share her love of God with Project Inspired readers. Aysha is also the author of God Cares About Your Stuff: How To Believe For Tomorrow When Things Look Utterly, Completely, And Totally Impossible Today, released February 2013- Available at Amazon.


    1. It’s true it’s so hard to get help when someone is mistreating you because often you feel like it’s your fault. Thanks for giving me more reassurance that I am better than that! 🙂

    2. I needed to hear this. I’m going to be working at a camp this summer and alot of the kids come from abusive home lives. I could really use this article to know what to tell them when they confide about their issues. Thank you so much!!

    3. Samantha, I’m so excited that you’re finding inspiration through these articles! Laura, its GREAT to hear that the advice is something that you find helpful and that you can use! And Emily, it’s NEVER your fault when someone mistreats you. If someone is hurting you in any way, it’s your right to make it STOP. It’s not okay for anyone to mistreat you. If there’s anything that I can ever help either of you with, please let me know!

    4. I’ve heard that in every bad relationship there is a certain point where you need to get out and that happens before any physical abuse occurs. What is this point? When do you need to get away from that person and get help? My ex once scared me really bad. He never hit me but he made me nervous and when we were in public once he wrapped his arms around my waist and wouldn’t let go because I wouldn’t kiss him. I was getting scared because he was holding on so tight and people were staring. I thought about screaming or calling for help, but I told him I had to go to the bathroom instead. Should I have asked for help? At what point is it okay to scream if you feel threatened? I broke up with this guy after that and have completely avoided him since, but it still worries me that I don’t know where the line is between being a little pushy or stubborn and being dangerous. I know how far way too far is, but what about just one step too far?

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