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Getting Help When Someone’s Hurting You

It’s NEVER okay for someone to hurt you. You have a God-given and legal right to be safe and happy. Jesus says I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full” (John 10:10.)

It’s not God’s desire for you to be hurt. If you’re being abused in any way, you have the right to make it stop!

Getting Help

  • Be sure to pray. Ask God for protection and guidance. Have faith that He will deliver you from the abusive situation.
  • Capture your fear. It may be scary to share what’s going on with others. You may fear retaliation or be afraid that the other person will be punished. However, the most important thing right now is that you’re safe and that the other person gets the help that s/he needs to stop this pattern of behavior. Remember, God will always protect you. Jesus says “And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” (Matthew 28:20.)
  • Use your resources! Tell a trusted adult about the situation. This could be your parent, a friend’s parent, minister, guidance counselor, teacher, coach, neighbor etc. Just tell someone! If you don’t feel safe telling someone that you know, contact The Department of Social Services or call a local or national child abuse hotline such as Childhelp.

Remember, God puts people and resources in your life to help you. You have a right to you to use them!

You were uniquely designed by God for a special purpose in this life. It’s never His desire for you to suffer abuse. Get help so that you can live the life of happiness and purpose that God has in store for you!

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by Liv on May 11, 2012 at 08:02

    I’ve heard that in every bad relationship there is a certain point where you need to get out and that happens before any physical abuse occurs. What is this point? When do you need to get away from that person and get help? My ex once scared me really bad. He never hit me but he made me nervous and when we were in public once he wrapped his arms around my waist and wouldn’t let go because I wouldn’t kiss him. I was getting scared because he was holding on so tight and people were staring. I thought about screaming or calling for help, but I told him I had to go to the bathroom instead. Should I have asked for help? At what point is it okay to scream if you feel threatened? I broke up with this guy after that and have completely avoided him since, but it still worries me that I don’t know where the line is between being a little pushy or stubborn and being dangerous. I know how far way too far is, but what about just one step too far?

  2. Posted by on May 28, 2011 at 20:19

    Is there anyway that I could become a blogger?

    • Posted by Nicole on May 28, 2011 at 23:29

      I’m not exactly sure on how to become a blogger, I had a web team help me with mine- maybe ask a friend who already has one? sorry if this didn’t really help..

  3. Posted by on May 27, 2011 at 18:14

    I was abused a few years ago so i know it is hard to tell people about what is happening in your life. This is a great article thanks for sharing.

  4. Posted by AyshaIves on May 26, 2011 at 05:16

    Glad the advice is helpful Corrina Jean!

  5. Posted by CorrinaJean on May 24, 2011 at 13:08

    Very good article! Awesome advice!

  6. Posted by AyshaIves on May 23, 2011 at 06:14

    Sarah, I’m so glad this will help you help the kids. God is pleased with all of your good works and I’m so proud of you!

  7. Posted by AyshaIves on May 22, 2011 at 15:35

    Samantha, I’m so excited that you’re finding inspiration through these articles! Laura, its GREAT to hear that the advice is something that you find helpful and that you can use! And Emily, it’s NEVER your fault when someone mistreats you. If someone is hurting you in any way, it’s your right to make it STOP. It’s not okay for anyone to mistreat you. If there’s anything that I can ever help either of you with, please let me know!

  8. Posted by on May 22, 2011 at 13:52

    I needed to hear this. I’m going to be working at a camp this summer and alot of the kids come from abusive home lives. I could really use this article to know what to tell them when they confide about their issues. Thank you so much!!

    • Posted by Nicole on May 22, 2011 at 21:40

      I’m so happy it’s going to help you and those kids! Make sure to print it out and give them a copy. 🙂 God Bless you for what you’re doing!! God is with you!

  9. Posted by on May 22, 2011 at 11:27

    Thankyou Aysha, very good advice.

  10. Posted by on May 22, 2011 at 11:26

    It’s true it’s so hard to get help when someone is mistreating you because often you feel like it’s your fault. Thanks for giving me more reassurance that I am better than that! 🙂

  11. Posted by on May 22, 2011 at 11:25

    I needed to hear this. Thank you Aysha, In love your articles!