Girl to Girl Talk: How Do I Stand Up to Mean Girls?
Written by Christi Given | January 5, 2013
Every week I go through the “Girl Talk” topics and read through the forum to help answer questions and give advice to you PI readers. One that caught my eye was called “Stand Up for Yourself,” in which a PI Girl asked about a friend who was not being very nice and what to do when people are not so nice to you.
Here is part of her question: “I’m going back to school soon, and there’s always the chance of a kid calling you a name, or a teacher picking on you. I was wondering, as a Christian, how can I stand up for myself? I don’t want to fight, or go off in a swearing/yelling battle with my sister, like how I used too. I want to handle the situation in a calm way, so if my sister does freak out at me again, what can I say? How does a Christian stand up for themselves when getting treated wrongly? Should I just say, ‘Please don’t talk to me like that’?”
First, as Christians, we do not fight back with worldly weapons. God fights our battles for us, and of course we don’t let people walk all over us, but we need to first take it to Jesus and ask God to help us in the situation. God is all-knowing and He sees your heart. He knows when it hurts. When friends mistreat you or people hurt your feelings, know God has your back, loves you and will fight for you.
Here are some scriptures to remember when you want to retaliate:
The Lord will fight for you; you only need to be still (Exodus 14:14).
The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds (2 Corinthians 10:4).
Here are some scriptures about gossip and how it is harmful:
He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends (Proverbs 17:9).
The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts (Proverbs 18:8).
When people hurt your feelings or are being mean, try these four steps to handle the situation:
- Pray, ask Jesus to help you control your tongue and to have self-control.
- Think about scriptures and meditate on God’s truth.
- Tell a teacher or parent if the situation is threatening.
- Turn the other cheek and be kind to your enemies, even if your instinct is to be mean back! (Don’t be a mean girl!)
We love you PI girls! Write a comment below and tell us if this helped you or if you have any other questions! Keep posting in the “Girl Talk” section, too!