Girl Talk: How to Be Selfless With the Help of The Holy Spirit

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    This week a PI girl asked about how to become more selfless not selfish. This is definitely a challenge in a selfie culture where people are all about branding themselves, their visions and their social media. It seems like the scripture 2 Timothy, chapter 3, it says in the last days men will be “…lovers of self, boastful proud, disobedient to their parents, having a form of spirituality but denying God’s true power.” How do we become selfless in a SELFISH culture? We can with the help of the Holy Spirit, and through the Lord’s grace. 

    “But don’t act like them. If you want to be great, you must be the servant of all the others.” (Matthew 20:26) 

    The Lord Jesus said that if we want to be great, we must become like a servant. Even the Messiah came down from heaven to meet humanity, was born in a manger and didn’t even have a place to lay his head. God sent His one and only Son to die on a cross for sins that He didn’t commit. Jesus Christ demonstrated servanthood by washing the disciples feet. He even told Peter that he couldn’t partake in the Kingdom if He didn’t wash his brother’s feet. 

    “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.” (Matthew 25:40) 

    This servant leadership mentality is very powerful and Biblical. Even Martin Luther King Junior said that  if you want to be great, be a servant. We must learn to be in service to one another’s needs and humble ourselves. In the body of Christ, we are all important and have different functions. Maybe one part of the body is suffering, then we must grieve with those who grieve and mourn with those who mourn. We must have a heart of compassion for others. 

    “For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ.” (1 Corinthians 12:12) 

    We must get our eyes off of ourselves and serve one another in humility and love. How can we do this and serve people who are even strangers? We can help others with the power and grace of the Holy Spirit. God says that we must imitate Christ in our actions. Jesus said many people will be turned away because they were not building God’s Kingdom, but rather their own. We are called to clothe the orphan, feed the poor, and to take care of the widow. 

    “For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’ (Matthew 25:35-36)

    It is our duty as christians to visit those who are sick in  the hospital, we are to feed the poor, we are to give to the local church (the storehouse), and we are to give our time and talent to the community. How can we do this you may ask? We do this because when the spirit of the living God is in you, you WANT to bless and love others. We WANT to share the good news to the poor. 

    “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’” (Matthew 25:37)

    The Lord said that many will be turned away on judgement day because they will say, “I prophesied, I cast out demons in your name…” and Jesus will say, “I never knew you.” The work of God is feeding the helpless, the stranger, the outcast, the unpopular, the unlovable. We are to go to the prisons, go to the impoverished areas and get out of our carnal flesh and submit to the spirit of God and give to those who need it most. We are the body of Christ and we are to look, act, move like Him. 

    “Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’” (Matthew 7:22-23)

    If even the King of Kings didn’t come to be served but to serve, we should also have this mentality. I encourage you to take an inventory of your life and if you are being selfless, and serving others. How can you start being a servant and selfless you may ask? Well here are some practical ideas below! 

    For starts, maybe you can pick up some chores around the house or with your roommates first. Then, you can volunteer at your church or at a club on campus. Next, you can offer your time at your local youth group and contribute or help out at a soup kitchen. We all have different gifts and talents and have something to offer. Don’t belittle your presence or the value of an extra set of hands when a church needs help setting up or tearing down before or after service. 

    Maybe you can offer to serve the homeless or you can bake some goodies for your youth group or bible study? You can serve your roomie by doing the dishes regularly or committing to bless them and make dinner when you know they have finals or are super stressed. These little acts of kindness go a long way, and it helps us reveal the nature of Christ in us. 

    If you’re feeling down or just not yourself, be encouraged and try and look out for the interest of others. Try and be an encourager to your friends and family. Offer yourself to others like a drink offering like Jesus did, when he poured out his blood on the cross. We give and give to reflect Christ and when we serve we get refreshed and encouraged in turn. 

    God’s Kingdom is the opposite of this world. The world and society tells you to serve yourself first, climb the ladder, step on people below you, don’t let others go first. Jesus said that the “…first will be last and the last shall be first…” (Matthew 20:16) We must trust in God’s Holy Word and bank on His promises. When we follow and emulate Christ, we will be the most peaceful and joyful, amen? 

    PI girls, how can you be selfless this week and do something for someone else? Comment below!! 

    Christi Given
    Christi Given
    Christi Given is a former Trinity Broadcasting Network host for the JUCE TV NETWORK, and has been featured on the Hillsong Channel. Her passion is to reach the youth with the Gospel and her music. Given has been writing for Project Inspired since 2011, and hopes to encourage the younger generation in their faith.

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