Girl Talk: Should You Be with Someone Who has a Different Vision or Career Choice than You?

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    This week, a PI girl asked if she should be with someone who has a different calling than hers. This is a very good question and there are multiple perspectives on it. For one, you can be with someone who has a different career, as long as they are equally yoked to you and supports you and your gifting. If you desire to be with someone in the same exact field of work as you, that is a specific request and desire that you are wanting God to fulfill and I am sure if you ask and it aligns with His will, and for His glory, He will honor it. Now, if you have someone who opposes your calling, for example they do not want you to do missions or to travel when you know you are called overseas, then that could be a hindrance to your obedience to God and His purpose for your life. 

    “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3) 

    Life is all about balance and also finding God’s perfect will. When we seek Jesus, He will show us truly what His plan is for our lives. God is so powerful and He unites people together for His good will and glory. The Lord wants you to flourish in your relationships and in your career. God wants you to prosper and to succeed without setbacks or distractions. Unfortunately, many times as girls we can get emotional and caught up in relationships or man’s approval that we lose sight of our first love, Jesus. We must put Him FIRST then all things shall be added. 

    “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14)

    We must be willing to let go of anyone or anything that would come between us and our God and King. We must be willing to follow His voice and calling for our lives in total surrender and obedience. Now, if you are married you follow God first, and then the husband second and He then becomes your covering and head of the house. You submit and surrender your desires to align first with your husband and families mission to keep the family whole and undivided. We must also pray and keep seeking the Word about specific questions we have with our spouse or future spouse. 

    “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.” (1 Corinthians 14:33)

    Always ask yourself if someone is pulling you away from Jesus and your calling or closer to the Lord and your mission on earth. Everyone has a purpose and you are important to God. It’s easy to get distracted by the wrong people and when you partner with someone you must be equally yoked and have similar goals and visions. Ask God and wise council around you, pray and test the relationship by the peace or lack of peace. Remember, God is not the author of confusion, so he will make a way if it is His perfect will and plan. Rest in God’s promises and don’t force a relationship if it is hindering your walk with God. If it brings good fruit and you grow together in Jesus and the Word, then you can trust God is in it. Amen? 

    PI girls, what do you think about two people coming together with different talents or visions for their life? Do you think that God will bless it?

    Comment below if you have prayer requests and message for further questions or personal prayer requests. God Bless You! 

    Christi Given
    Christi Given
    Christi Given is a former Trinity Broadcasting Network host for the JUCE TV NETWORK, and has been featured on the Hillsong Channel. Her passion is to reach the youth with the Gospel and her music. Given has been writing for Project Inspired since 2011, and hopes to encourage the younger generation in their faith.

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