Reply To: IS THERE A SUCH THING AS A "RACE IDENTITY PROBLEM"???
The food we eat, the language we speak, the fact that some black girls get perms…this is all influenced by white culture…so I kind of get where your parents are coming from. Part of slave heritage was conforming as much to white culture as possible. If you were lighter skinned, or had straighter natural hair, it meant you had some of the “good, white blood”, you were “prettier”, you were treated better. Soo parents can feel like you are in that mindset. Do you get where I’m coming from?
I’ve had this same problem. I have this same problem. But here’s the truth: we, as African Americans, have a very limited culture. We are a diaspora community. BECAUSE of our slave heritage, we lack a strong central identity. All that is really left is the way we look and the way we talk (which is a result of limited education turning into a form of slang)–so when we don’t identify with one or the other, suddenly we are not “black”. I feel bad that slavery has made African American culture feel limited darker skin and a history of an educational disadvantage, when it really gives us a chance to be exactly who we are. Technically, the fact that we don’t belong to exclusively to any one group, the fact that must of our heritage is erased and unknown, gives us the highest freedom to be, do, and feel however we want to be.