Reply To: ummmmm sooooo confusing!!!!!!!!
As you admitted, playing with peoples’ emotions is wrong. You’ve done it before in the past, and now you’re getting the same treatment in return from a totally different person. Growing up, I noticed this happen to me a lot. Though I didn’t notice at the time that this is how God’s justice worked (because I wasn’t a believer growing up). But hindsight is 20/20 vision: he sometimes allows situations like these to happen (or for us to perceive a situation a certain way) so we realize in ourselves what we’ve been doing to others, a treatment that is unkind. You’re learning it doesn’t feel so good and you would prefer he’d be clear, so do the same to others (don’t play around with peoples’ emotions, be straightforward about how you feel).
But also on another note, since you know it’s wrong, why would you be attracted to that? As a Christian, you should be crushing on a guy who is honest, straightforward, who doesn’t manipulate people and their emotions just to have fun. Personally, the “playing around with emotions” is an instant turn-off for me, I wouldn’t even want to be friends with someone like that. Think carefully about why you’re crushing on this guy. Also, if it’s even something you should be acting upon. You can’t get married at your age I’m presuming, so you’re just inviting lustful temptations into your life that you can’t act upon—not in a way that pleases God anyway. The heart is deceitful and we’re commanded not to live by it (Jeremiah 17:9; Proverbs 14:12; Ephesians 4:22), but by our Heavenly Father’s instructions. Be careful ~