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Girl to Girl Talk: 10 Tips for Transitioning from Middle School to High School
Written by Christi Given | July 28, 2014
Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
For all you middle-schoolers out there, I wanted to write a helpful article that can advise you on the transition from middle school to high school. For some, it can be an intimidating year becoming a freshman at a big new school. Here are 10 tips to help you.
1. Get familiar with your classrooms in advance. Go on a tour with your parents or your friends and search for your classes before school starts. Get there early to be able to locate and navigate your way, since it is a new school.
2. Stay organized. Make sure you properly plan out and purchase your supplies in a timely manner. The more organized you are, the better start you will have in school. I love buying all the school supplies such as folders, notebooks, pens and planners/calendars before the school year starts—always the fun part, in my opinion! Remember: You will most likely have more classes with more homework, so this will be key in being a good student.
3. Do your work on time. Try to avoid procrastination, as high school really does prepare you for college. With multitasking on other courses, you don’t want to fall behind or have to do an all-nighter working on projects or try to scramble at the last minute. It may not seem like a big deal to do well in high school, but it equips you for your future! The habits you have now will most likely carry on throughout your life, so initiate and continue with good ones, amen?
4. Have a meeting spot with friends. Before school starts, hopefully you will have other good friends transitioning, too, so it feels less lonely or intimidating. Knowing your good girlfriends are there helps you feel like you can relate and go to someone with all the big changes happening in your life. Make sure to talk to your friends about a potential meeting spot during nutrition or lunch break. That way, when the bell rings and everyone is dismissed, you won’t feel lost in a big crowd of new people!
5. Get involved in extracurricular activities. Getting involved in clubs, sports, dance, cheerleading and other activities like ASB is a great way to get to know people and make new friends! Also, having other activities outside of class really helps shape you to be a better person, whether it is in athletics or helping your student body. I was highly involved in theatre and Christian Club. I was even president of Christian Club in my senior year. This is a wonderful way to show leadership and to build skills and talents in your life. It will carry you through to college, and even after you graduate. At first, you may be shy or not want to, but you will see the value and will cherish those memories later in life!
6. Have questions? Meet a counselor. If you are feeling lost or overwhelmed once school is back in session, feel free to walk into the counseling office at school. That is why there are teachers and volunteers helping students. If you feel frustrated, or even nervous about your schedule, call and make an appointment or ask a girlfriend to walk in with you to share your concerns.
7. Change in friends. Just to warn you, sometimes friendships can change when you transition into a new school. People are growing, and sometimes can even move or go to other high schools. You will start to notice that maybe there are some people you were really close with in middle school who you don’t really share much in common with anymore. This can be bittersweet because as some of your old friends change and do other activities or move away, you will also make new friends and be doing new things, too. This doesn’t mean all your friends will change, but be prepared and aware that this is normal.
8. Prayer. Make sure to cover yourself in prayer. Ask your mom or dad or youth pastor to lift you up in this season of your life where everything is shifting and you are becoming more of a young adult than a teenager. You will be facing amazing things and also challenging times, so it is always good to give it to Jesus.
9. Ask older siblings about their experience. It is always good to seek out wisdom and counsel from those who are wiser and more experienced than you. Remember, everyone has those feelings of uncertainty and excitement! Be ready to enjoy high school, and feel free to ask any questions of your older bro or sis, or even your good friends’ siblings! I’m sure they would love to help you and share their high school memories!
10. Be a leader, not a follower. In high school, the peer pressure is cranked up, and you may notice people in school who aren’t walking with God can often change or do things you wouldn’t recommend others doing. It is easy to get sucked into the tide pool of following what’s “cool” or “popular,” but remember to keep your integrity and don’t think of the “now” or the temporary, which quickly passes away, but think about the long term in your life and your bright future! What kind of person do you want to become? The choices you make now will highly dictate who you become later, so I pray that you will wisely choose who you hang around with, and also pray for those who don’t want to be a leader but follow the crowds.
PI Girls, did any of this advice help you? What is your favorite point? Older girls, do you have advice?