Girl to Girl Talk: Being Bullied Hurts a Lot
Written by Christi Given | January 7, 2013
Every week, I go through our Girl Talk message boards to find topics that are popping, and contribute my thoughts where it makes sense! One of the topics is getting a lot of attention. It was written by PI Girl theoutsidersgirl:
I get bullied at school and at times by my own friends. Very few of the kids like me. I’ve never been asked out. I get called ugly, kids lie about me to teachers, I’m always picked last in gym, kids will tell be to shut up and that no one cares.
Do you agree with this answer from caring PI Girl taytay? “bullying STINKS but this isn’t your fault. it’s all part of God’s plan for your life.”
Maybe it is God’s plan but PI readers, let me tell you one thing: God LOVES you, cares for you and hates it when you are being picked on, criticized or being mistreated.
God is your confidence, your Dad (Heavenly Father) and you can always confide in HIM! Man can only do what they want to an extent. But God sees everything and believe me, He is in control. You may be asking: “Why does God allow me to be bullied?”
Here is my personal response based off what I have learned reading the Word of God. We live in a broken, fallen world and Satan wants to steal, kill, and destroy God’s plan and life for you (John 10). When people are mistreating you, this is what you need to do.
1. Pray. God’s word says that we are wrestling against the spiritual, not the physical (Ephesians 6). What will ultimately be effective is to use spiritual armor and weapons, not worldly ones. What are spiritual weapons? They are prayer, reading the Bible, and using scripture, which is the sword of the Spirit. When you pray, it is powerful and effective! If we don’t pray we can become weak and lose our hope, which is exactly what the enemy wants.
It says in the Bible, “The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective” (James 5:16), This is saying a believer’s prayer will have powerful results! Prayer is often overlooked or is something people think you just do before you eat, or before you go to bed…no! Prayer is so important! It is vital in protecting yourself in the fallen, broken world we live in.
I would also recommend praying for the person who has harmed or hurt your feelings. I know it seems strange, but Jesus tells us to turn the other cheek and pray for your enemies and those who persecute you! This doesn’t mean let people walk all over you, it just means pray for the person who is being mean because usually THEY are the ones who need help, healing and Jesus. They need prayer, forgiveness and love. Remember, God tells us “Love never fails” (1 Corinthians 13:8).
But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven (Matthew 5:44).
2. Tell a parent, teacher or friend if the situation is serious or threatening–you need to report it to an adult. If it is teasing or name calling, you can definitely tell a friend to pray for you, but tell a teacher if it escalates. Remember, we all face some type of persecution as Christians. Jesus warns us of that, so if you are suffering as a believer or because of your faith, it is actually Biblical. It doesn’t make it right, it just shows you that some people will not like Christians. Know that you are not alone, you are loved and remember Jesus was made fun of too!! He understands what you are going through!! They spit in His face, mocked Him and crucified Him. Jesus said, “…They hated me without reason” (John 5:25).
I have told you these things so that in Me you may have peace. In the world you may have suffering. But take courage! I have conquered the world (John 16:33).
3. Remember who you really are and know your TRUE identity. If someone says something about you, it doesn’t make it true. You are Daughters and Sons of the Most High God! Satan trembles at this knowing the potential, the future and the power we as believers have! He attacks those who threaten him! Let me tell you something, when you pray and you walk in confidence knowing your identity, nothing can shake you! Remember, NOTHING can separate you from God’s LOVE and power!! 🙂 Amen?!
For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing will have the power to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord! (Romans 8:38-39)
PI readers, Jesus LOVES you so much and dislikes it when you’re hurt, sad, or feeling mistreated! Remember your true identity as a Daughter and or Son of the King of Kings! May God bless you all! Please comment below if this article helped you or if you have other topics you’d like me to write about.