Girl to Girl Talk: “Help! I Feel Empty Inside and Don’t Know What to Do!”
Written by Christi Given | July 6, 2015
Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
Here is this week’s post from a PI Girl seeking advice:
“…I feel empty. A couple years ago… I developed a HUGE crush on one of the guys [who] moved into town in the neighborhood, and then two years ago, my feelings were totally obliterated when I saw him with a girl he was only dating because she would put out…. Before I stopped liking this guy, I was nicer, more caring, and most importantly, I was the closest to God that I have ever been. But ever since, I have felt empty inside, like I’m incapable of love, and the media has also drilled doubts into my brain, even though I know I have no reason to doubt. I’ve been praying and praying about it, I’ve restarted reading the Bible, but I just don’t know what to do anymore.”
To read the full post, click here.
First and foremost, thank you for sharing your story, and no, it does not sound silly to share that you feel empty because a guy you care about doesn’t feel the same way about you. Seeing someone you like with another girl can make you feel rejected, but you seem like you are strong in the way that you explain your story and at least are able to recognize that you don’t feel as close to God. I appreciate your open and honest post.
I think it is great that you are fervently praying and reading God’s Word—that is awesome. God is the only one who can fill us, complete us and truly love us. Yes, it is nice to have someone interested in you and who wants to pursue and take you out, but remember that humans will fail us, but God never does. His Word will fill that empty void, and the Spirit of God fills us and gives us supernatural peace.
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6-7)
We need to trust God in faith, believing wholeheartedly that we can depend on His timing and healing in our hearts (Jeremiah 29:13). Don’t be afraid to heal and to move forward and to not keep reopening those old wounds. Let God’s love overtake you and fill you. Spend time in the Word of God, truly seek Him and draw near to Him, and He will draw near to you.
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. (Jeremiah 29:13)
My next piece of advice would be to have you evaluate your relationship with the Lord. Do you regularly read God’s Word? Do you seek Him with your WHOLE heart or because you need something? Do you GENUINELY want to be in His presence to worship Him or only because you feel empty? Jesus is the living water and the Word quenches the dry parts that are empty in our hearts (John 4:14).
Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit. You should not be surprised at my saying, “You must be born again.” The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit. (John 3:6-8)
Jesus is the One we should run to, and that is wonderful that you are doing so, but let us all evaluate: When we claim we can’t feel God, that doesn’t mean God went away—it means we aren’t leaning into His Word, or in worship. Let us worship, let us praise God (regardless of circumstances or how we feel) and let’s count our blessings for what God has done, then we will feel peaceful and joyful (1 Thessalonians 5:18).
Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. (James 4:8)
PI Girls, when you feel empty and dry spiritually, do you go to the Word to fill up your spirit? Comment below if you need prayer or have a piece of advice to add! God bless you!