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Girl to Girl Talk: “Help! I Feel Empty Inside and Don’t Know What to Do!”

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Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.

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Here is this week’s post from a PI Girl seeking advice:

“…I feel empty. A couple years ago… I developed a HUGE crush on one of the guys [who] moved into town in the neighborhood, and then two years ago, my feelings were totally obliterated when I saw him with a girl he was only dating because she would put out…. Before I stopped liking this guy, I was nicer, more caring, and most importantly, I was the closest to God that I have ever been. But ever since, I have felt empty inside, like I’m incapable of love, and the media has also drilled doubts into my brain, even though I know I have no reason to doubt. I’ve been praying and praying about it, I’ve restarted reading the Bible, but I just don’t know what to do anymore.”

To read the full post, click here.

First and foremost, thank you for sharing your story, and no, it does not sound silly to share that you feel empty because a guy you care about doesn’t feel the same way about you. Seeing someone you like with another girl can make you feel rejected, but you seem like you are strong in the way that you explain your story and at least are able to recognize that you don’t feel as close to God. I appreciate your open and honest post.

I think it is great that you are fervently praying and reading God’s Word—that is awesome. God is the only one who can fill us, complete us and truly love us. Yes, it is nice to have someone interested in you and who wants to pursue and take you out, but remember that humans will fail us, but God never does. His Word will fill that empty void, and the Spirit of God fills us and gives us supernatural peace.

 

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6-7)

 

We need to trust God in faith, believing wholeheartedly that we can depend on His timing and healing in our hearts (Jeremiah 29:13). Don’t be afraid to heal and to move forward and to not keep reopening those old wounds. Let God’s love overtake you and fill you. Spend time in the Word of God, truly seek Him and draw near to Him, and He will draw near to you.

 

You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. (Jeremiah 29:13)

 

My next piece of advice would be to have you evaluate your relationship with the Lord. Do you regularly read God’s Word? Do you seek Him with your WHOLE heart or because you need something? Do you GENUINELY want to be in His presence to worship Him or only because you feel empty? Jesus is the living water and the Word quenches the dry parts that are empty in our hearts (John 4:14).

 

Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit. You should not be surprised at my saying, “You must be born again.” The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit. (John 3:6-8)

 

Jesus is the One we should run to, and that is wonderful that you are doing so, but let us all evaluate: When we claim we can’t feel God, that doesn’t mean God went away—it means we aren’t leaning into His Word, or in worship. Let us worship, let us praise God (regardless of circumstances or how we feel) and let’s count our blessings for what God has done, then we will feel peaceful and joyful (1 Thessalonians 5:18).

 

Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. (James 4:8)

 

PI Girls, when you feel empty and dry spiritually, do you go to the Word to fill up your spirit? Comment below if you need prayer or have a piece of advice to add! God bless you!

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3 Comments

  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by pretty10 on July 8, 2015 at 00:35

    Hi Christi please pray before reading this. I know I don’t know God
    and I hope he works in my heart the way he worked in Nicole. But I seriously don’t have passion for anything, literally. There is this book that my youth pastor’s wife gave me, called redeeming love by Francine rivers. I don’t even have enough passion for that, i have said the prayer of praysalvation many times but nothing changed.I don’t have ppassion for God but the youth camp I recently attended encouraged me to start seeking GOD consistently. Hoping God will take out this heart of stone. And replace it with a soft heart. But mean while I want to read the book for 2 reasons I don’t want to disappoint .my youth pastor’s wife. And I am hoping God might use it, but there are parts I don’t understand, words specifically (but not only words)and when I can’t see something visually it sucks.I would use the dictionary but than frequently having to do that would make seeking GOD consistently work or legalistic.
    P.s my name is Dara.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Elani on July 15, 2015 at 15:25

      Hi Dara, I just want to tell you that you are not alone. I felt quite similar to how you are feeling now about 2 months ago and I started to talk to God about it. I did not really want to do anything and I prayed that He would change my mind towards Him so that I could start to do His will. And He did change my heart. You just need to keep on asking Him. Even if you feel that you are doing it for the wrong reasons, you are searching for God and you want to know Him, otherwise you would not have written this comment. Just be honest with Him, He is patient and He wants you to ask Him questions, share everything with Him and ask for advice just like you would do with a friend. If you pray for that desire to know God, He will change your perspective. I hope this makes sense. I will pray also that God gives you the desire to want to know Him so you read the book for wanting to know His love for you and not because you feel obligated to do so. It will be so much more interesting that way and you may learn something you would not learn otherwise. Good luck to you and I trust that you will get to know your loving Father <3

  2. Titi

    Posted by Titi on July 6, 2015 at 12:43

    Thanks for writing this article, it’s very timely. I have also been feeling the same way due to a similar situation. Pls keep me in your prayers and I pray God helps us all to draw nearer unto him.