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Girl to Girl Talk: “Help! I’m Nervous About Graduating…Any Advice?”
Written by Christi Given | June 9, 2015
Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
This week, a PI Girl asked for some advice regarding graduating high school and going to college, and not wanting to transfer to a new school. Click here to read the full post.
“I graduate soon but I really don’t want to leave my school. They set it up so next year I could still participate in the same clubs with my friends, but it won’t be the same. I love just seeing people I know in the hallways and if a friendship comes naturally from that.”
Graduating is a transition and is a big deal when you are leaving high school to go to college. Of course no one wants change, but change is inevitable. There is a great quote that can help you get through those tough seasons in life. The quote is by Heralcitus, a Greek philosopher, who said, “The only thing that is constant is change.”
Although transferring to a new school is scary and there are many unknowns, remember, you are NOT alone. There are other students transferring as well. I advise you to join a club or a fellowship group on campus to meet new friends. Realize that this is going to be a special season in your life, and be preparing your heart for what God has for you! Think of all of the positive, exciting things that await you. Of course, new seasons and change can be scary or we can sometimes be fearful, but remember God’s Word says to not be afraid. The Lord says He has plans to prosper us and to not harm us, and He says He has a plan to give us a future (Jeremiah 29:11).
Remember that in the process of the growth, there can be pain. Sometimes pain stretches us to be better people and to be stronger. It is good to remember that sometimes in life we need to do things independently from our friends, family and hometown. College challenges you to become an adult and to mature into the person you want to become. College is also an opportunity to travel, learn, meet new people and to follow your dreams.
There is so much opportunity that awaits you, but remember what is rewarding can also be difficult in sacrifice. Be willing to sacrifice and to be disciplined, and it will pay off in the long run. When you look back over your years of college, you will realize that you likely will have grown as a smarter and more responsible young woman. Be brave, be bold and be the light in the world!
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13)
Remember, when you feel alone or weary, look to Jesus and the Word, and ask God to strengthen you. Realize we all go through highs and lows, ups and downs, and we all have moments of doubt. The best way to get through the trying times is to really seek God and to ask God to order your steps and show you your path and purpose. When you realize God wants to use you, and that He needs YOU to help others, you will understand your calling in your life.
Advice for Leaving High School to Go College, and Dealing with Fears
1. Remember, change is inevitable.
2. Know that God has BIG plans for your life.
3. Meet new people and look at the adventure that awaits you!
4. Growth means pain, but pain is necessary in growth.
5. Learn to be an independent, mature adult.
6. Be willing to sacrifice.
7. Be disciplined.
8. Be bold and brave!
9. Seek God, pray and look to Jesus for strength.
10. Be the light in a dark world.
PI Girls, I am praying for you! Do you have any other advice for dealing with anxiety, worry or fear of the future? Comment below!