Girl to Girl Talk: How Can I Stand Up and Be a Leader Without Feeling Alone?
Written by Christi Given | December 15, 2015
Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
Recently, a PI Girl asked about how she can stand up and be a leader at her high school, and also shine a light in dark places. She said it seems like most people don’t care anymore about consequences of their actions and have no awareness of the foul or hurtful words that come out of their mouths.
“I want to do something about some of the things I’ve been seeing around my high school. It’s almost like people don’t even care or bother to think about the consequences that will happen when hurtful words come out of their mouths. Not to say that I haven’t said some things I know I shouldn’t have said, but I’m starting to feel as if I’m standing alone. Any suggestions? I just want to make a change….”
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Here is some advice for you, dear PI Girl.
1. Pray for your school: James 5:6 in the Bible says: “The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”
2. Be a light in the darkness: People will see the difference in you and what does light do? Light casts out darkness. We can show people the love of Christ and aim for a pure heart, and be a shining example and leader (not a perfect person, but one who aims to follow Jesus), and people will take notice and want that sparkle you have. Don’t let peer pressure move you in fear or impress you. Matthew 5:16 says: “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”
3. Find like-minded friends: Try to hang out with the Christian club kids and/or start your own Christian club on campus. The Bible says that iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17) and we need one another in godly fellowship/friendship. When you are on campus it is important to have even one person to pray with or to talk to. Pray God brings you a godly sister in Christ. “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” (Proverbs 13:20)
4. Ask your parents, mentors and youth leaders to intercede for you: You need prayer while in high school, as it is a battle (any school or age is a spiritual war for your soul), but it is where we start to become adults, habits are being formed and those we hang out with are critical for the next season in our lives. Make sure to ask your guardians and role models for advice, as they probably have been there once before, too! James 1:5 says: “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” Ask God for wisdom concerning friendships and also to give you boldness in school. (See point #6.)
5. Be an encourager to those who are hurting: Even the mean girls need Jesus and need love. We need to radiate the love of Jesus Christ and people will see the hope we have through our joy and the fruits of the spirit. Let us love even those who are mean to us, because Jesus tells us to turn the other cheek and love those who persecute us. Sounds ironic and bizarre, but love will never fail (1 Corinthians 13). You may not see the increase in the harvest of those seeds planted, but your sowing is not in vain, spiritually speaking.
The Lord will grant that the enemies who rise up against you will be defeated before you. (Deuteronomy 28:7)
6. Speak up: God wants us to be bold and courageous. He commanded Joshua, Moses, Jeremiah, and the major characters in the Bible and in history to watch and be alert. As God’s soldiers we must be armed up in the Word (Ephesians 6), and also need to be prepared to give an answer, to be bold and to not bury the knowledge God has entrusted to us. If you see something wrong at school, seek God, pray, then find an adult. God will guide you.
Remember, God is for you and wants you to be a loving light and a difference.
The wicked flee though no one pursues, but the righteous are as bold as a lion. (Proverbs 28:1)
7. Trust God: Do not shrink back in fear, because God said it is impossible to please him without faith. Abraham was accredited as righteous BECAUSE of His faith…trust in God Almighty and “…speak up for truth, even if your voice shakes.”
But my righteous one will live by faith. And I take no pleasure in the one who shrinks back. (Hebrews 10:38)
8. People need your leadership: Some people don’t know any better and may have dysfunction in their home or personal life. I once heard a saying that made me think about how people treat others: “Hurt people hurt people, and healed people heal people.” If we are whole in Christ, then we need to act like children of God and of light.
…that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky… (Philippians 2:15)
9. Walk in your authority: You are God’s royal daughter and know how to behave like a daughter of the most High God. We need to learn to take the authority and walk in the anointing and calling God gave us…don’t be afraid.
But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. (1 Peter 2:9)
10. Be a peacemaker: With all of the advice I have given above in the other nine points, remember to never appear to be self-righteous or a know-it-all. We need to walk in the fruits of the spirit (Galatians 5), and to walk in peace and love.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. (Matthew 5:9)
PI Girls, how are you a leader in school or among your peers? Comment below!
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