Girl to Girl Talk: How Do You Avoid Gossiping?
Written by Christi Given | October 11, 2017
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This week on Project Inspired’s Girl Talk group forum, a girl mentioned that we should avoid gossiping. This is a sin that can sneak up on you and can be viewed as less of sin than others, but it is no less harmful. Sin is sin, and God takes it all seriously because He is holy. We must always work out our salvation and how we represent Christ with fear and trembling.
What Is Gossip?
There is a difference between telling a story and spreading rumors. Gossip is talking about someone negatively behind their back—something that you wouldn’t actually say to their face—and rumors are stories you share about someone that you aren’t sure are actually true.
As Christians, people listen to us and watch us, and we must be set apart. We must be leaders and love one another as Christ loved us. In situations that provoke emotions, it can be easy to fall into a trap of gossiping. We really must guard ourselves from this and avoid it at all costs.
The words of a talebearer [are] as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly. (Proverbs 18:8)
We must resist envy, jealousy, comparison and also talking about people behind their back. PI Girls, do you have secret sins or do you find yourself gossiping about people? Try to stand up for your morals when you are with people who want to talk badly about someone. An example of what to say if you are in this situation is: “Hey girls, I don’t believe in gossiping. Can we change the subject please?” Or just simply leave the area or group and make sure that you pray.
Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile. (Psalm 34:13)
Refrain From Gossip and Slander
This week a PI Girl mentioned that gossiping is very harmful and can separate close friends. She mentioned a Bible verse in Proverbs 16:28: “A froward man soweth strife: and a whisperer separateth chief friends.” I am very proud of this PI Girl, who acknowledged this particular temptation that any believer could be lured by.
From the Girl Talk forum on Facebook, an anonymous Project Inspired Girl said:
“Don’t gossip about others. When you choose to talk about others it says a lot about your own character. Often times when we speak poorly of others we are spreading lies or rumors, saying things we may not even know to be true. When you choose to gossip with someone you are potentially ruining friendships or relationships. You may even cause people to think poorly of someone all because of speculation. ”
It’s so true—talking about others shows that your character or heart is flawed. You don’t want to tarnish someone’s name, or yours could be tarnished, too. Be wise with the words you choose and speak love, light, life, hope and truth. Ask God for forgiveness if you have given into the sin of gossip or spreading rumors.
“How would you feel knowing you might be responsible for a ruined friendship because of your choice to speak poorly of someone? Don’t listen to gossip about someone either. Even if you aren’t the one spreading gossip, you are just as guilty of it if you choose to willfully listen to it.” —Anonymous PI Girl
I agree that if we listen to gossip, and don’t stand up for the other person and don’t resist spreading rumors or talking behind someone’s back, we are just as guilty as the person speaking. Do you agree?
This Project Inspired Girl also mentioned in our Facebook group: “If someone begins to gossip with you about someone else, choose not to listen. Get away from the conversation as quickly as you can. You can be sure that someone who is willing to talk about others to you will talk about you to others. Choose your words wisely when in conversation. Choose to speak kindly and avoid conversations that would cause you to be a part of gossip.”
PI Girls, do you resist talking about others behind their backs or do you tend to gossip? Do you have prayer requests? How can we pray for you? Comment below!