Girl to Girl Talk: How Do You Handle Rejection?
Written by Christi Given | August 18, 2014
When I look through the Girl Talk forums and read through some of the questions, I notice there are A LOT of feeds, comments and posts about boys, relationships, heartbreak and more. To join the convos, click here. A recent post was on heartbreak and jealousy and how a PI Girl felt neglected…all of these things are so sad and I want to help.
I want to cover the topic of rejection, because it’s not an easy one to face or to discuss, but I believe I will be releasing the truth to you girls about your worth and identity.
Rejection stings, and it hurts. We’ve all either experienced rejection or hurt someone in a way where they may have felt rejected. This feeling can lead to us questioning our worth, identity (who we are), if we are loved, if we have meaning and purpose in our lives, or can also just cause harm. In life, we go through trials at times, and there are just moments and seasons that hurt more than others.
Feeling wounded can lead people try to find approval, value and validation from other sources besides God, which can lead to more emptiness. We need to seek God first, and ask for His supernatural peace to guard our hearts and minds in Christ before we try to find another source. Some examples of trying to fill your heart and receive approval, worth or forms of fulfillment other than God are:
- Being a perfectionist in school or work (being a workaholic)
- Trying to please everyone (family, friends and spreading yourself too thin)
- Always having to date or have a boyfriend
- Always trying to impress or win the validation and approval of parents
Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. (Galatians 1:10)
It isn’t bad to want your parents to be proud of you, or to want to be an excellent student, but when our WORTH and our VALIDATION come from sources other than God and rejection or pain in our lives power us to run after other things, we need to watchful and careful. We all do this in some form or another. We need to stop, breathe, calm ourselves, realize how loved and special we are in God’s eyes and be at peace. In addition, we need to balance our lives by putting God (Christ) in the center, and then all other things will be in good order. In John 15, it says that when we are disconnected from God, we can do nothing. Apart from Him, there is no life, no hope, no true joy. In God’s presence there is such joy…when we feel sad, let us go to God! Amen, girls?
You will make known to me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; In Your right hand there are pleasures forever. (Psalm 16:11)
We need to remember that when we feel those emotions coming and we feel rejected, we need to look up to God and remember our Daddy loves us and wants us to be treated right! He wants you to know He cherishes you and loves you so much that He sent Jesus to die on the cross for you over 2,000 years ago! Nothing can separate you from God’s love! Nothing! If boys, friends or even parents hurt your feelings, GOD IS ALWAYS THERE! Hallelujah! We, of course, love and respect our parents, friends, leaders and teachers, but we are not exempt from pain or feeling hurt. People are only human, and they will fail you at some point or another.
It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man. (Psalm 118:8)
There are some verses I want to share with you to give you hope and encouragement for times when you feel alone, rejected, hurt, abandoned, betrayed or like you have no purpose. First, know GOD LOVES YOU. Jesus understands how we feel, for He too was in human flesh. Jesus was tempted, yet never gave into sin. Jesus was beaten and crucified for sins He didn’t even commit, but did it because He knew the Father sent Him for this mighty calling and purpose.
He [Jesus] was despised and forsaken of men, a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief; and like one from whom men hide their face He was despised, and we did not esteem Him.” (Isaiah 53:3)
God has put you on earth for His plans and for His glory. How cool is it that God wants to use YOU, too! What an honor! Amen? Also, you are not alone! This community on Project Inspired is here to help uplift and impart truth to you girls—especially when you feel like you’re the only one shining your light for God and Jesus, you can come to the site to find a Word of the day, or hope! It’s also important to go to your own Bible and read the Word of God, pray and have your own relationship with Him.
Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close. (Psalm 27:10)
More importantly, God (Emmanuel, which means “God with us”) is always near. You can always call on the name of the Lord Jesus and you can count on God to hear your prayers and to help you. You may not see answers when you think you should, but knowing His presence is there takes away all your fears and comforts you. The Holy Spirit is also known as the “comforter.” (John 14:26)
Christ is close to broken hearted and binds up their wounds. (Psalm 147:3)
If you want to know true love and peace, and have the presence of God in your life and want a relationship with God, just ask Jesus to be the Lord of your life and declare you believe He died on the cross for your sins so you can have eternal life with God the Father, and the Holy Spirit will come into your heart. (John 3) This is the best free gift of all and is the best thing to rejoice about when we feel broken, crushed, sad or even devalued by people. People will fail us, but praise God, He never will! Hallelujah!
If you have any questions or prayer requests, please email me in private message at facebook.com/ChristiGiven.
Comment below! I love you, PI Girls! God loves you so much!