Girl to Girl Talk: How to Stop Anxiety and Comparing Yourself to Others
Written by Christi Given | September 13, 2016
Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
This week, the topic is about keeping your faith and holding fast to God’s Word. I will be answering some questions from an anonymous PI Girl who is really struggling in her life and faith because she feels everyone around her is prospering and that she is not. She is dealing with comparison, anxiety and depression. Please pray for the PI community and let us know how we can help.
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Life can be hard, and emotions can run high and low as we try to navigate our future and what God’s plan is for our lives. Nowadays with social media, comparing ourselves is a very easy thing to do and can rob us of our joy in the Lord, as well as take us out of our lane and the course we are running.
The first piece of advice I would give this anonymous PI Girl—and those of you dealing with the same pressures in life—is don’t compare yourself to anyone. This really steals our joy and distracts us from our goals. We are all different and uniquely made, and God has plans for each one of us! (Jeremiah 29:11/Psalm 139)
We wouldn’t put ourselves in the same class with or compare ourselves to those who are bold enough to make their own recommendations. Certainly, when they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves to themselves, they show how foolish they are. (2 Corinthians 10:12)
For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. (James 3:16)
Lisa Bevere, a Christian author and speaker, has a new book if you are struggling with comparison, jealousy, envy or insecurity. It’s called Without Rival: Embrace Your Identity and Purpose in an Age of Confusion and Comparison. Get the book here.
We need to walk in our royal identity and authority to whatever God has called us to do. We can’t afford to be run by our emotions or insecurities, nor can we waste time looking at others. The Lord commands us to not covet our neighbor. Why? Because it’s not healthy and will distract us! The enemy comes to steal, kill and to destroy us as believers and wants to derail us from our true calling and Kingdom purpose!
The next piece of advice I would say is to pray and seek God. We must read God’s Word and cover our minds with the helmet of salvation and the sword of the spirit. We must refute any lies from Satan, and wash ourselves and clean our hearts from deception by wearing the belt of truth. We must rinse off any residue or filth the enemy tried to have us believing by using the living water that is God’s Holy Word. The truth of God dispels all lies and will cover you with protection. Anytime these negative thoughts come up, ignore them and cast them down immediately.
This leads into the next piece of advice: Cast out any thoughts—voices other than God’s—if they don’t align with God’s truth.
Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ… (2 Corinthians 10:5)
PI readers, I hope and pray this helps you to not compare yourself and to ask God what HIS PLAN IS FOR YOU! When we meet our Lord and Savior, we won’t be with our Instagram friends or Facebook friends to give our account for the Lord and what we did for His Kingdom. Don’t you want Jesus to say, “Well done, good and faithful servant”? Don’t you want to please God and do what He created YOU to do?! Yes, of course! Always remember there is a spiritual battle that we cannot see and the enemy of our souls doesn’t want us to share the Gospel. Ask God how YOU can further His Kingdom by sharing Jesus with your gifts and talents.
I am praying for you girls! Also, here is a recap of my advice for those of you who think others are better off you, which is causing anxiety and insecurity (Philippians 4:6).
How to Deal With Other People’s Prosperity, Comparing Yourself and Insecurity
1. Don’t compare yourself to anyone. God made you unique for a purpose!
2. Pray and seek God. Gain wisdom and revelation on your calling through reading the Bible, which will abolish any thoughts of competing, as God has you in your OWN lane and race for His glory!
3. Cast out any thoughts or voices contrary to God’s truth and His Word. Don’t allow yourself to get caught in the enemy’s web of deceiving you that others have no problems and are just prospering. Social media deceives, and we all face trials! Remember to listen to the voice of Jesus (the Good Shepard), and to not follow lies that are untrue about you!
In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. (Ephesians 6:16)
PI Girls, what do you do when you face the temptation of envy or comparison? How can we pray for you? Message me questions and prayer requests at facebook.com/christigiven.